well our president george bush wants more soldiers in Iraq and we are talking about 7 thousand more or so, I have been married for 6 months only and the divorce in the military section is increasing each day and it's just because soldiers are not around enough to help raise childre and etc. Don't you think that our president reconsider his decision?????..... I really don't want to end up devorcing my husband at all if we do run into problems like that....
2007-03-02 08:26:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The divorce rate isnt going up just because soldiers are being deployed..the divorce rate is going up because people are not dedicating themselves to the relationship and will run out no matter what.
Fidelity isnt respected, family isnt respected, and neither is a mutual respect for another persons passions or whatever they believe to be right.
Bush and the war are not to blame for divorce and I for one wouldnt agree with my husbands decision to go to war, but I sure as hell wouldnt leave him, especially if hes a good man.
Holly God, whats wrong with this world.
2007-03-02 08:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by Rock Star 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should have thought into the future when you married a military man. I am a Navy Veteran and my husband is still on active duty. It is the regular spouses that have no idea what our jobs are about that make our time away so hard. If you wanted a husband to be there 24/7 you should have found somebody that would fill that request. Your husband is in the Army, he is doing his job. You guys don't mind taking the paycheck and the 30 days of leave a year when he's at home, but nobody wants to do the job they train for 24/7. No, President Bush is in the right. If you divorce your husband it is nobodies fault except you and your husband for not knowing all the responsibilities of being a married and being in the military.
2007-03-02 08:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Didn't you just say that you and your husband would not even think about divorce? Now you are adding it as an option?
Look, if the military wanted families they would issue them.
It sucks, I know, trust me I know. But a soldier is what a soldier is. Think about the person that your hubby would have covered that died because the president decided that his duty is with his family first.
It sounds morbid but it's reality. I don't like sugar coating anything.
Join an FRG and meet up with spouses that have been married to the military for at least a decade and then you'll understand.
Good Luck and I hope you don't get a divorce, just hang in there.
2007-03-02 08:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by Gilla 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There have been MILLIONS of families whose father/husband was deployed for months on end and not all ended in divorce. If you wind up divorcing, then your marriage wasn't worth a hoot to begin with! WW2 saw families separated for 2 years and more and they made it. Problem today is too often more attention and effort is put into the WEDDING and not a scrap into the marriage. Things get difficult, the couple SPLITS. I was gone for 4 deployments (13 months, 6 months, 12 months and 6 months). During my first, of the 13 months I was gone, I could not get mail for almost 7 months and only an OCCASIONAL "ham gram" of 100 words and a ONCE IN A WHILE ham-phone patch of MAYBE 10 minutes of I LOVE YOU, OVER. My youngest was born while I was gone that time( was notified by the Red Cross via naval message) and I didn't get to see him until he was almost 9 months old. Not being around to 'raise your kids' is not a reason for a divorce. If you want your marriage to last, WORK ON IT. DON'T WIMP OUT. Be true to your husband (great reason for divorces while hubby is off getting his butt shot at), don't whine to him about things at home he can do nothing about, send pictures, articles from home, encourage him by vowing your love to him EVERY DAY. Be there for him when he comes home and allow him to get used to you again. Don't dump everything into his lap when he gets home. Remember, PROBLEMS ARE TO BE SOLVED, NOT THROWN INTO THE TRASH.
(USN, retired)
2007-03-03 07:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
1) You don't END UP divorcing someone, its a decision you choose to make. ANY circumstances can be overcome if you so choose, so don't place the responsibility for your (or anybody's) personal decisions on the military.
2) A reality of the military is that we sign to serve FIRST. Part of taking care of our troops is ensuring that they have adequate family time and that we provide support for the troop's homelife as well. HOWEVER, when it comes to the mission, that takes precedence over personal feelings. If a military commander must face the responsibility that he might one day have to order Sgt X to his death, then what makes you think that the military commander is going to shirk away from deploying Sgt X to a necessary mission because his wife doesn't want him to go?
3) There's a job to be done. IF the troops are needed, then they should be sent. I would rather see 20,000 more troops deployed for a few years than see the feared "strategic withdrawal" happen before Iraq could be made stable... which would basically mean that every troop who has died thus far has done so in vain. Don't get me wrong, I don't enjoy being gone for deployments, but if called up I will certainly follow my orders without complaint.
2007-03-02 08:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by promethius9594 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
You would divorce your husband for serving his country?
I have a question for you, did you get married knowing he was a soldier? and if so did you really think that he would be able to stay home from a deployment because you did not want to wash dishes by yourself?
2007-03-02 10:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by need4speedsc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think that we should be sending more troops over there and not because of divorce but more for the fact we are not accomplishing anything over there. being in the army i see alot of people get divorced over this, but honestly i don't think it is because they are gone all the time. the ones that are getting divorced are the ones that got married right out of highschool and have never experienced life and the ones that just get married to make extra money while they are deployed. in a period of three years i ahve been deployed for 2 years(2 deployments) and i have not had any major issues over it. just be patient.
2007-03-02 09:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by jc 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your Hubby is a volunteer and his job is to go where he is sent. I think you need to rethink this. You may not be ready for the responsibility of being married to the military. It's not easy, but you volunteered to be his wife...Now go and make it work....This is not the President's doing it is between you and hubby. Time to face up to your decisions
2007-03-02 10:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
NO!
It wasn't up to the president for you two to marry. The military isn't married to you so you aren't important but their soldier is.
Sorry but that's how it is whether you like it or not.
2007-03-02 10:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well one of you chose to be in the military. That is the chance we take when we join.
2007-03-02 08:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by True Patriots! 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋