I have a several guy friends and I often talk with them online and something has been bothering me a lot. They all keep asking if I have a boyfriend. (Note: Some of these guys already have girlfriends) I tell them no and then they respond 'why'. I tell them I don't want to talk about it. Then they keep pressuring me about it and they get angry I don't tell them why. (its none of their bussiness) Is this normal guy behavior? And how do I polietly tell them its none of their bussiness, I just don't? (Like if you got out of a relationship and don't want one)
2007-03-02 08:17:00 · 14 answers · asked by Erika F 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Guys are VERY persistent. I know, I am one. So if you're going to socialize with them and not move into more adult activities, you'll have to present some strong defense. I'd recommend that you be direct. If you try to be cute or subtle, us dumb guys will just miss it or ignore it. You have to hit us between the eyes, hard.
I'd recommend responding with something like, "I don't want to be rude, but I REALLY don't want to talk about it. AND I'm not in the market for a new bf." even if that last part is untrue, you might want to consider saying it anyway, or even lying that you have a BF just to get guys to shut up.
Consider also breaking off communication if they persist. There's plenty of dudes with manners.
Good luck and stay strong.
2007-03-02 08:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Silent Kninja 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 03:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they are typical teenage boys - interested in a single teenage girl or are after details.
Whether or not you want to share this information is entirely up to you.
Could say something like: Haven't met anyone worthy enough yet; or, It's on a need to know basis; and of course, Mind your own business - all of which are perfectly acceptable.
They are being rude and invasive to ask "why". You don't owe anyone an explanation about your private life.
2007-03-02 08:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there comes a point where just being nice does not work and you have to say what you have to say. especially if you have been saying it nice for a while now. They are asking because they are obviously interested in you. Tell them if they ask you that one more time then you will have to stop talking to them.
2007-03-02 08:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they ask you if you have a boyfriend, instead of telling them no tell them you don't discuss your private life online. Leave it at that. Then you will never have to explain why you do or do not have a boyfriend, because they won't know in the first place.
2007-03-02 08:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by artemisaodc1 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You say, "Thanks for your concern." and change the subject. Repeat as many times as needed to get the jerk off your back.
If you get a really persistent person, you can even use "I don't care to discuss this," and only a blockhead would pursue it after such a warning. If someone does, discontinue the conversation immediately. What would be gained by chatting with such a lout?
2007-03-02 08:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, by saying that you don't want to talk about it they are picturing a horrible breakup and a juicy story. Next time just answer with something vague like "I just haven't met anyone that interesting".
2007-03-02 08:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you act all secretive about, it only creates more curiosity. Tell them no I don't at the moment if you don't want to discourage them but if you do want to get rid of them, tell them the truth, "all guys are dogs."
2007-03-02 09:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep saying what you are saying and don't let their anger get to you. Eventually they will stop asking. Try changing the subject .
2007-03-02 08:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let it bug you It is your decision not theirs! Why do they care any way? are they jealous cause you are a free spirit? Just tell them it is none of their business. K
2007-03-02 08:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋