Why so harsh?

Question

Why do so many people pass judgement so easily here about young moms? I dont think 14 year olds should be having kids, but you sit here and beat them down. Do you not think they are going threw enough?

Answer 1

well, women especially like to think that they are better than everyone else and when they see people in precarious situations, they love to rag on them to make themselves feel better. This is the reason I have never had many women friends. They are very mean and backstabbing.

Answer 2

They shouldn't be going THROUGH it period. Given the education they get now they've obviously NOT been paying attention...that is THEIR fault. Some of us work for a living and we get sick and tired of seeing our paychecks dwindle as the Government takes a large chunk of it to PAY for these 14 year olds to be pregnant and to raise their kids. I had a hard enough time raising my OWN child and keeping us OFF welfare and YES I resent someone else being careless and stupid only to LIVE on welfare.
No one has any business having sex at 14 anyway. There is NO WAY a 14 year old is emotionally or financially prepared to be THAT responsible. Some aren't even physically prepared...which is WHY so many have low birth weight or premature babies that need to remain in hospital after birth (and guess who pays for all of that? ) Making a CHOICE to have sex when one is too young to take responsilbity of their actions is NOT making a "mistake". A mistake is something you do on a piece of paper that can be easily erased...So by saying "everyone makes a mistake now and then" are you saying that creating a pregnancy is easily "erased"...And here I thought that I was the one who was PRO CHOICE...and you all are the ones advocating Abortion...interesting...Now you understand WHY SO HARSH...GROW UP

Answer 3

I dont think kids should be having kids either. But theres no way to go back in time and make it so it never happened in the first place. I do think its good that they didnt get an abortion and are trying to raise the baby as well as they can. Theyre not bad mothers-just a litte young. Being 14 is hard enough without a baby. I can imagine what it would be like with a baby. These kids dont need people insulting them and making them feel like s***. They need understanding people who can help them in their time of need. I also think all schools should institute a sex ed program to help prevent kids from getting pregnant in the first place.

Answer 4

I think people get judgemental on here because sooo many people ask the same question over and over again..."Could I be pregnant?" and its always the same thing..."I had unprotected sex 53 times while I was ovulating...am I pregnant?"

I think they need a little repremanding...it's not like they live in a bubble...it's not like the don't know how to get pregnant...they've been told how to make babies and they have sex anyway...cause they think it won't happen to them or whatever.

I don't think it's sad that they get so many harsh words...because sometimes tough love is the only thing that gets through to people...I think it's sad that it's happening so often and all these kids are having kids when they don't have a clue as to what they are getting into.

They're real ready to jump in the sack, they're more than willing to have unprotected sex...but then all of a sudden when reality rears it's ugly head they're all confused and want kindness?

Why are they "adults" when they decided to get naked...And "children" again when they realized the phucked up?

Answer 5

I think at 14 years old that this is the parents place to have stopped this before it happened. 14 year olds are look down on because HELLO they can't work and they can't support themselfs or the baby. I am glad that they are decieding to have it instead of having an aborshion but think about is an adult term most 14 year olds are welfare and it's the tax papers whom get taxed for that reason. I'm not say all are but it's there. I think that there are a lot of reasons that a 14 year old shouldn't have a child first of all the 14 year old is still a child. Second they haven't even gotten out of school you have to have an education to even make it in the world. And 14 they aren't mentally ready to be a parent. I'm 25 fixing to be 26 I had my first son when I was 21 I even at 21 wasn't ready to be a mother that is a HUGE task to take on. I wouldn't trade my son by no means I love him to death and I now have another son. But I can say that at 14 wow that's young and that's why they get looked down on. They are going though a lot but again the 14 year old shouldn't have been putting herself in the means of getting pregnant. They are only a child.

Answer 6

i was 16 when i had my first son and i would never regret it.... it was hard no doubt about that even though the father was always there and we are still together 5 years later expecting our second

my mum asked us before i fell pregnant if we were going to have sex so she could put me on the pill and we said yes (little did we know i was already pregnant) she told us to go away and really think about it before she did it and we did, a few days later she asked us the same thing again and we got the same response she done this a few times and i never ended up on the pill but found out i was pregnant anyway

at 14 it is wrong to have a child but you cant constantly judge them because of it like my mum said when i found out there is no point in lecturing kicking and screaming because it is not going to change what happened and its true
give them a break if they think they can handle it and dont want to listen to advice then leave them be they will learn in due time

thank you for bringing it up its much needed

Answer 7

Sometimes people on here can be really mean, but sometimes these "kids" need a hard lesson in life. Raising a child is not easy and certainly not when you are a child yourself. Life isn't always going to cut them brakes, and some people are just trying to prepare them for that.

Answer 8

Well it's kind of depressing when you have to read story after story about kids who get pregnant when there are under 16, and have to drop out of school, dont go to college, live on a day to day paycheck, all cause they couldnt keep their pants on, or at least use a condom.

Answer 9

Because it's so easy to judge people if you haven't walked in their shoes. Alot of folks on here are "know it alls" who seem to be walking encyclopedias!!!! Most have never had kids or have been pregnant or even know someone who is 14 and going through a hard time.

Answer 10

I agree, they are already going through enough. People may tell them the consequences of having sex (just because they got pregnant does not mean they were sleeping around!!) , doesn't mean they understand them! Maybe the parents should be looked at and criticized for allowing their teens to get in that situation to begin with. Aren't teens still their parents responsibility til they are 18??