i think my boyfreind want to go with my best buddy he alwasy want to hang with her he kind of ignore me when she get around he be acting all mean so we broke up then we got back together cause he said he did not like her and he wanted to go back with me so i said yes things where going smoth when we firt got back together and then 2 months later he started to act like he did not want to go with me and he started to act fony when he got around that girls so me and the girl was fussing and he told me he did not like her so we made up and yes i mean we had sex i and i kind of think i am pregnet i eat like i am feding 3 people!! i do not know what to do i do not want him to be my baby father!!! i wish i never did it!
2007-03-02 08:07:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well its too late now. you have to accept the consequences for your actions and unfortunately he has none. so yes you need to pull your self up and go get some help. You have to get help from a therapist.
2007-03-02 08:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by swimmyfishy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, go to a doctor and get a 'pregnancy test' to be 'sure' whether you are pregnant or not.
Second, seek some good 'counseling' on what to do about your relationship with the 'father' if you are pregnant, or DUMP HIM and move on with your life if you're not pregnant.
Third ... You've 'learned your lesson' and must 'live with what you've done' and that is PUNISHMENT ENOUGH for you ... do your best to have the 'best life possible' and 'don't look back' ... even if you must put your baby up for adoption ... it will be 'well raised' and you may 'miss it' but since you are YOUNG you may not have 'all it takes' to raise a child on your own. Good luck, sweetheart, and have a good life ... and stop 'overeating' and if you are 'pregnant' then learn to 'eat properly' to support 'two' while you are pregnant. YOU WILL BE FINE! At least you realize that this guy is 'not for you' and have time to 'get out of this bad situation' before anything worse happens ... and that is 'extremely mature' behavior, and you should be proud of yourself, not "put yourself down because you did something you know now was 'wrong'."
2007-03-02 16:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a pregnancy test, and if you are pregnant, then get an abortion immediately. There is time to stop this and salvage your life. Once you have the abortion, go on some form of birth control, whether you are seeing anyone else or not.
While he had a hand in getting you pregnant, it is you that has the say on whether you have a baby or not, and you need to make the right decision. You can barely spell, do you think it would be a good idea to have a child, that you most likely can't afford yourself and that will grow up without a father?
2007-03-02 16:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...okay. There are a couple of things that you need to do right aways.
1. Go to the store, buy a home pregnancy test, take it and see what the result is.
2. If it's negative, go to planned parenthood and get on birth control right now, because you do not need to be having children at this point.
or
2. If' it's positive, speak to an older relative about your options for the child, and assume that you would be raising it alone, because this guy will not be sticking around.
3. BREAK UP WITH THIS JERK AND STICK TO IT.
4. Enroll in some sort of grammar class so that you can learn how to speak and write effectively. If that's how you really communicate, you're dooming yourself to a lifetime of low paying jobs and shifty men.
2007-03-02 16:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 1st you need to slow down for a minute. You may just have a big appetite b/c you're stressed or you could be ovulating and/or getting your period soon. (I swear I'm gonna invest in stock in McD's during my cycle!) You'll need to take a pregnancy test and determine that. Once you have your results, take the next step in possibly preparing for a baby. There's WIC, Medicaid, daycare costs, etc. This guy you were w/ is obviously not sure about what (or who) he wants out of life, so don't worry about him. It's easier to do things on your own and if he's willing to participate in a child's life, then that's on him. You can't force him even tho' he would be partially responsible for the baby. I would leave him alone and find someone that IS worthy of your time, love and affection and kick this loser to the curb. He can't be trusted and you don't want your child getting dating advice from HIM! Good luck!
2007-03-02 16:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by sweet libra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear the truth of the matter is that you cannot change the fact that he is the baby's father. You see that is one of the things that we should consider before we do stuff like that. From the time you saw that he wanted to go with your friend you should have left him alone. If someone loves you they do not do things like going with your best friend, at least not to your face. And why did you take him back, i am so sorry that it has now gotten to the fact that you are pregnant for this guy. Wishing that it never happened will not change anything. What you have to do now is to think of the best way now to take care of yourself and that baby. He is not ready to settle down, he still wants time to fool around. He will come around or not, but if he does and wants to take care of the baby let him but think of your happiness first. Learn from your mistakes.
2007-03-02 16:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by petty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well frist make sure you know that you are pregnet and if you dont want him to be the father dont tell him and when you start showing make up some story how you slept with another guy and he is not the father now ONLY do that if would actuely hurt the child but if you dont want him to be the father because he fooled around well to bad every child should be able to know the mother and father if possible
2007-03-02 16:13:22 · answer #7 · answered by kimgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For every action, there's a consequence. Sleeping around usually doesn't have a good consequence. It's a lesson learned too late and now an innocent baby will pay the consequence.
2007-03-02 16:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're eating more doesn't mean you are pregnant. take a pregnancy test, and quit screwing around! you should ONLY have unprotected sex if you are willing to face any and all consequences from that! (Disease, pregnancy, etc.) And only if you WANT a baby. UGH.
2007-03-02 16:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would like to know how old you are and I don't think you are an adult becuase I couldn't really understand your description very well because of the mistakes. Also, just break up with him or whatever and go to a doctor. easy as that.
2007-03-02 16:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋