I can't stop crying!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Ok, so last night I posted a question asking how to stop my bf from breaking up with me. So........ today he did. I just cant stop crying. He says he still loves me but the "spark" isn't there. Please help me??????????????????

I guess my main question is, is it possible to be in love and not have that "spark"?

And, why the hell does every one keep saying I sound so young. I am 21, is it wrong for adults to have feelings too???

Answer 1

He probably told you he still loved you to let you down easy. What a jerk. Don't worry. I peed in his orange juice this morning.

Answer 2

Is it possible to love someone and not have that spark? I would say yes, but from what you have explained I feel like he said that not hurt your feelings so much. I think there is someone else because people don't normally break up with people they love if there wasn't anything wrong. Which led me to believe there is another woman...if the guy is around 21, I would say he wants to date more women. Would you rather had caught him cheating on you? I think people assumed you were young because you asked this question at all. But I would say that you just haven't had that many relationships because you would have realized that sometimes these things are simply out of your hands. It's bogus, but it's true. You can do whatever that person wanted for however long you chose, but then you would be pleasing them and not yourself. You need to make you happy. That's most important above all else, no one can do that but you.

Answer 3

There is nothing you can do or take to stop from an emotional feeling. Only thing that will help is time. Love hurts and sometimes is a ***** when it fails. We are all happy and pleased when it first happens and get comftable and stable after been together for so long. Just like a cold or fever, no remedy for instant cure. Take the time to heal. Don't worry for the love you lost, but look forward to the new love that will come again. Better to have loved. There's alway someone new around the corner. Love is just not a one time thing, like a career/job, a car, a house, children, friends, etc, etc. Only one thing is one time. . . Life. You only get 1. So live it. The ups and down, good times, bad times and everything in between.

Answer 4

Ok let me see if i can clear some things up about love for you first. Love as most people think is emotion and therefore they base it upon the way that they feel. Truth be told love is first of all a chioce then the emotional aspects come to play. Love comes in many forms Friendship, Erotic, Brotherly, and Unconditional. The first three listed (esp Erotic) can be solely emotional and are thus fragile when circumstances come about. The last (Unconditional) is the strongest and is based on individual choice. Example, I don't always"love" my wife in Friendship,Erotic, or Brotherly sense because she can and does things that get on my last nerve(as I do likewise to her); however, I choose to love her (unconditionally) despite those things. I guess what I'm saying to you dear one is that you may have just gotten a taste of an aspect of love, but not true love. The same can be said of your ex and that's why he claims there is no spark. His "love" was superficial and based on his feelings or whatever thrill he felt he was receiving. I know it hurts just the same, believe me I've been there, but when you find it and it's true, it will be like a hand in a glove that just fits. That person will be your Friend, your Brother, your Lover and it will be Unconditional. True love is not just one of these but all of these working in a relationship as one with unconditional being the primary component, The hurt will go away if you allow it to. Don't let it consume you, rise above it and grow from it. Allow yourself to become complete as you are(single) so that you may grow strong enough to repel any potential future situations like this and also so that you may be able to discern when you've truly found that "glove" to put your hand in.

Answer 5

Oh my! That is sooo sad! I'm so sorry :( Break ups are so hard I tell you, even if you are the one who decided to break up with the other person. I know....when I broke up I couldn't stop crying either, I just sat there and cried my heart out for days!!!! The only thing that cheered me up is a friend called me and talked to me.....

The 'spark'? You know, maybe he still cares very much for you, but he doesn't think he likes you so much in that way. Pray about it, God is always there for you when you are sad.

I hope things go better with you...

And remember that God will ALWAYS love you no matter what

blessings, ~J

Answer 6

I am guessing from your post that you are about 14. Maybe 16. this may sound harsh, but GET OVER IT. Between now and the time you get married, you will have many boy friends. Some will be good, some bad. Someday you will meet the one who it right for you. But stop being a drama queen. You have your whole life in front you. And regardless how much you thought you loved him, you didn't. you are just too young to know real love. your time will come. For now, invite some friends, get some movies, and forget about him!!!

Answer 7

You know...You cant stop someone from breaking up with you...Just try to move on, when they break up with you there really is no spark left. Trust me...I know how you feel, I've been in a lot of pain myself. If you truly love this person give him time and be very patient. If God wills it, it will happen. As far as he might still care about you but not in that way, we guys see it a little differently... We hurt when we break up with someone, so our feelings for that person remain, but with a block. You need to protect yourself now. If he tries to remain in contact with you, don't!! Unless you think you can do it without having any relationship feelings for him. I made several mistakes when it comes to this issue...

Answer 8

Hey okay i been in the same shoe but get over it move on and find a really hot guy to get over the other i know it sound kind of weird but it works i think you should go out tonight maybe a club and dance all night and maybe you'll get lucky and you wont go home alone tonight and just have a good time maybe bring some friends with you and stop crying over him maybe his not the guy you wanted to get married with and one more thing its a lot better then him cheating on you so dry the tears and start planing your day and fine a nice dress to wear tonight so have fun today and maybe if your going out tonight have fun

your friend, cody

Answer 9

i know it hurts. just take a deep breath.

When I was 18, my bf of 2+ years and I broke up. I was devastated. I broke down in front of everyone and just could not pull myself together. Eventually, I was able to "live" again. As it turns out, my future husband was one of the friends there to help me get over it. We've been married for over 5 years and I could not be happier. I see now that God had a better plan for me than what I had for myself. There is always life after break-up, even if it looks so gloomy right now.

Don't call him. Don't drag this out. Just accept it and move on. Trust me. It is more painful to try to force this. If it is meant to be, there will be a time when you both are ready and you will meet again. I speak from experience! :)

Answer 10

I'm so sorry to hear that. How bad do you want to be with him? I'f it's one of those things where you can't live without him you might want to consider a makeover. The "spark" is usually a physical thing and if the love is still there a little change may be enough for him to want to give it another try.

Answer 11

No there is no way my dear that you can love someone and don't have no feelings or spark. That a lie he just told you, I hate to come off and tell you this but if you have to find ways to keep your boyfriend from breaking up with you, you sure don't need him at all.