How do you?

Question

handle people at work or home that are trying to get you upset, but you want to remain calm? Of course I know praying but if you a situation is about to turn into an argument or hurt, what do you do as a christian? And I know we are not perfect and we are going to do some things aren't right, but just in general since we have to deal w/ the devil everyday?

Answer 1

I would say that religion has nothing to do with such a thing. I am a Muslim and have my own way of dealing with such things. In the past I had a a hot temper and would sometimes fall into the pit and argue. The emotions, the fallout were never worth the temporary satisfaction of letting loose.

Eventually I stopped engaging. To engage is to feed the anger or acerbate the problem. If someone is trying to get you upset, egging you on or attempting to push your buttons, the best way to diffuse their power is to completely ignore them. They will eventually give up and go find another victim. This has worked for me countless of times.

There is a quote I like and remember then. "Give a man enough rope and he will surely hang himself." It is amazingly true when someone is determined to do something cruel.

Sometimes I say:

"If you can't say anything nice say nothing at all." then clam up and take a few internal deep breaths.

I know a million awesome insults and retorts but rarely do I pull them out. Smile.. here are a few good examples just to make you laugh.

"I can always tell when you are lying. Your lips move."

"When you were born the doctor slapped your mother."

"Are you always this stupid or are you making a special effort today?"

"Some day you will find yourself - and wish that you hadn't."

Graciousness and a lot of deep breathing. As a Muslim in an all white town, I get the occasional slur tossed my way. I never bother to respond. I look at the person and see where they are coming from and, as often as not, that does it for me. I nod, smile, and refuse to engage. Such arguing is so demeaning! It is just a waste to engage in such things as you know.

We all have to deal with the devil daily. Christian and Muslim alike. I tend to take the high road and just acknowledge his existence then move on. To engage is to feed his hunger for anger and pain. This is not something any of us want to do, is it?

I will be so happy when Muslims and Christians alike realize that both religions fight many of the same evils on the planet. Then we might be able to begin a dialog for true peace and understanding as our God/Allah intended things to be among His children.

On a practical level also, you need not take it as a victim. Speak to your boss. If there is not satisfaction there, move up to his superior! You should not have to take harassment of any form in the workplace.

Peace to you.

Answer 2

The best thing we can do is just walk away.

When Jesus was beat up he never fought back, never insulted, never defended himself. The scripture turn the other cheek comes to mind.

the way i think is that when people start to argue, they usually feel like arguing! otherwise they wouldnt be doing it in the first place.

So dont give them what they want and argue back. If you dont argue back, then they are just yelling at nothing, and to them that defeats their purpose. Just leave them be, theyll be quiet.

But if you find that they arent going away, just find something to do. When they ask you why arent you saying anything, just say in a real calm voice "I wont talk to you, until you lower your voice."

Say it without attitude and very softly sot they have to listen.
And if that doesnt work, just go for a run, or listen to music. And when you find your own space, pray to God that he will help you solve the situation.

God Bless You!

Answer 3

I'm not a Christian, but I can give you a good answer for this. I'm so close to one of my co-workers that we're like soul sisters. When either of us is having trouble work-wise or personally, we bounce it off each other. This works if we need advice, or need to vent. It's understood that we can say whatever we need to, yell, scream, cuss, just to vent. No one gets hurt or takes offense because we're just getting it out of our system. Then when we face the person we're having conflicts with, we have a clear head and handle the matter in a reasonable fashion.

Perhaps you have a close friend that you trust in all situations that you can rely on for these types of issues.

Answer 4

Yes, we've all been there. Try to talk to the person before it gets to an argument. If that doesn't work, just avoid the person and try to only talk to them when you have to. Just know that other people you work with will notice who the instigator is and see how hard you are trying to avoid an argument. In time, God will do something to relieve you of this person. Either they'll get fired or you'll get promoted or something. He always does.

Answer 5

I get this from people at school and it's really hard to do whats right when people just try to get you upset and to just try to get you to say something so they can say that you are a non Christian and thats hard to deal with. back to the question I know none of us are perfect it really helps to read the Bible and to carry it with you.So you can read it whenever this happens and that really helps you to stay calm when it's hard to

Answer 6

Since becoming an athest I haven't run into this problem. Nothing gets me upset anymore and I also get an extra hour of sunlight and a 2 hour lunch break.

Answer 7

How is this a religious question? If you don't want to get upset then don't, its your choice. If you can't help getting upset, then avoid speaking to people.

Answer 8

All you can do is pray yourself,and talk and pray with other christians.You can tell your boss but that may not do any good.

Answer 9

everyday, speak calmly and clearly, act purely and righteously, stand gently but firmly for the Truth...

Answer 10

Politely walk away.