Im 18 & have 2 months left in high school but starting to think i never really lived it enough. I was well liked & things looked good all the way thru 8th grade, but then once a fresh everyone kinda was thrown into the mix, & i distanced myself from a lot of people (mainly girls) who went for upperclass guys particularly a girl i liked who didnt like me & i held grudges on her & some of her friends.) I still played soccer, basketball, & baseball & had many friends/happy. Soph yr i lost a lot more self conf cause got sick of basketball after being cut, then the LAST ONE cut from baseball. I became more stubborn, didnt talk in class, & decided to forget sports & many people & focused on things like nature & finding meaning. That made me get cut from soccer jr yr, but not unhappy cause i it was hard to make, & ended up having a good yr, w/ more confidence/social/talkng & things looked up again. However, i practiced all summer & couldnt play soccer this yr cause of inj & (more below)
2007-03-02 07:52:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
although i still was happy thru the fall cause of a new sr yr, i noticed that i didnt really talk in class at all & once i failed to meet a new girl i liked (it blew up) in Nov, which i blame on bad luck, & not making the team subliminally hurt self conf to talk (& got very flushed/red always), & since then i was very unhappy. Most of the people i was reaquainting w/ last yr i didnt have motiv to talk w/ this yr, & now i have regressed this yr. Now i am starting to realize that i was trying too hard all along, & should have stuck to being me w/ self confid like i used too, & now i want to leave being that cheerful, funny, outgoing kid i know i am. But i can only regret not trying out for soccer (could have been rescheduled), i could have been on vars baseball too (remember soph yr i could have been manager but became stubborn from sports politics), & could have easily been friends w/ those girls & people if i didnt try so hard, & now my bro(college) dont talk. What can (more below)
2007-03-02 07:53:02 · update #1
i do now to restore what i want, & not just end up leaving as the scared, blushing person who was shy, & leave w/ the way i was coming into high school, & still was in 9th, 11th, & early 12th grade?? i just feel i tried way too hard & lost my rel w/ brother & only can think wht could have been (friends w/ all those people, plus vars soccer & baseball which i really always loved, but now i feel i just ran from all those problems). I thought just one day it would all come together, but now thers no time left. i was thinking of still trying out for baseball, but that teams basically picked & being cut wouldn't help the cause. most people r sick of school & ready for college, while im not ready to be done yet (btw its not that bad, i still have a lot of people i talk to & continued to play basketball & soccer outside school, but i REALLY think i had everything it took to be a very influential, liked person, & i feel not everything came true. is it to late to leave my real mark?what to do?
2007-03-02 07:53:55 · update #2
You have 2 months to go enjoy them be nice to everyone even if they aren't nice to you. Don't seat the small stuff. Just enjoy high school life. Smile don't let silly things get you down. rust me in 5 or 10 years you will look back and regret it if you were nasty. Be nice enjoy your time. As far as leaving your mark, just be a good you and that will be your mark.
2007-03-02 08:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grand daughter hated her Sr year and was upset all the time because she thought that it should be the best time of her life. When she told me that, I really had to laugh. High school friendships very seldom last more than a year or so out of hi. Ask some older people that you trust to tell you the truth. I think it may be if you are a jock or something but it would be very sad if that is as good as it gets. My two oldest grands are 19 and 20 and aren't really having a relationship with any of the kids who seemed so important in high. That was true of my kids who are these girls parents and was true of myself and my siblings. You all will change and expand your interests until that won't matter. Even if you continue with organized adult sports, they will be all new people. These are really not the best years of you life but in fact the worst and I can read that is true of you. Regardless if you go to college or get a job it will be all new people who have never known you and you have a chance to totally reinvent yourself into the guy you really want to be. You just have so much fun life ahead of you, you just can't imagine. Be focusing on the future instead of the past you aren't so crazy about and you will do fine. I think you might be having a bit of anxiety about leaving high and moving on into an unknown future and that is normal, too. It seems to be imprinted into the human brain to hate change but as I look back over my life, change always brought adventure and another chance to become the person I wanted to be. I know it will be that way for you, too. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-03-02 16:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant change the past and can only look forward. Finishing school is important and that's something you should focus on. Not people or sports. To make a mark in the world it doesn't have to be in school. Look at Bill Gates. You think everyone knew his name. And everyone wanted to be his friend. Go anywhere in the world and ask someone if they know his name i doubt you ll hear "who's that?"Unless there like Amish or live in the forest but that's different
What it really sounds like is you have some kind of shyness that your unconsciously denying. Also can be called social anxiety. But wait you think your a funny,outgoing, etc. person, well maybe you are, but you cant seem to be with people you once knew or new people b/c of things holding you back. Mainly your regrets of things you should or shouldn't have done. I suggest a SSRI from a psychiatrist, ex. Paxil, Lexopril, Prozac. Tell him what you think of the way you have been acting and the way you take in situations b/c that may need for cognitive behavioral therapy which is where a doctor will help change the way you interpret situations and change the way you think from bad to good.
2007-03-02 16:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... That's a lot to take in, but let me see if I can put it in perspective for you:
1) 10 years from now, hardly anyone will even remember the names of friends they had in high school. Any "mark" anyone made is long, long forgotten...
Do you remember anything significant that happened with the seniors during your freshman year?
Even if you do, will there be anyone left at the school who cares after this year is done?
Every year is a new crop of kids comes in, and every four years the student body completely recycles. In other words, no one really leaves a mark. And most of you will go your seperate ways after graduation. All you'll be left with is your memories.
2) Life goes on... COLLEGE, man! Who needs high school? My nephew plays football at the local community college. You'll truly meet new people there, and pretty much all the drama will be GONE. College is really just a continuation of high school, with more parties.
3) Just have fun wih the time you have. Smile and say hi when you see people. If you are just friendly and likable, then people respond to that. Don't sweat the small stuff.
I hope all this helps!
2007-03-02 16:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by LuckyBoo71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it may or may not be too late to leave your "mark", don't worry about it. Once you get to college you may remember some people but the reality is after a year or two your perception of who they were doesn't matter. Most people are so different in college that who they were in high school changes dramatically. The "popular" kids become just another student, the bullies get cut down a level, the nerdy kids rise to the top, ect. It's a totally different world out there. I wouldn't stress too much over it because in a year or so, it won't even really matter to you who you were in high school. Best of luck to you. Hope this helps.
2007-03-02 16:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should concentrate on liking yourself, and building your self-esteem and confidence back up instead being "liked" Life is all about chances, and trust me, there will be plenty more chances to display the real you later, like in college and at a job. focus on your last 2 months of school. I know what I'm about to say, it going to go into one ear and out the other, high school, isn't where you have to "find" yourself, more than half the people you meet in high school, you're not even going to talk to later on in life. I really hope you think about going to college, you have so many chances to show the real you and start over there!
2007-03-02 16:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by uknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NEVER to late to do a goodthing. Find something positive to do at your school B4 graduation. Become a mentor. Find a student that could benifit from your experiences and talents. Talk with you guidence cou. Start making plans for college, and enjoy your teenage yrs. Have a little fun this summer too!
2007-03-02 16:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Angel in KS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop Writing books get a life
2007-03-02 16:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Misz_Envi0uz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋