we have been together for THREE years. He is 23 i am 18. When we first got together it was mostly physical. He cheated on me a year and half into our relationship. He not only slept with her but he was forming a relationship with her. I forgave him but did not forget it. NOw a year and a half later i am doubting our future.
Heres the good about him-Love to be around me-hates being without me-tells me how much he loves me like every 20 minutes-tells me how beautiful i am-thanks me for helpin with his bills-will take a bullet for me-cooks for me-cleans for me-loves to hold me-pleases me-doesnt talk about me with his buddies or brothers-sticks up for me-very protective over me
the bad- very insecure-gets mad when i am not loveable-rather be sad when i am feeeling down-gets mad when i have to let him go at work-thinks i am fallin out of love with him-asks me everyday if i still want to be with him-gets mad very easily-jumps to conclusions-is very whiny-very needy-thinks its my fault
2007-03-02 07:52:11 · 22 answers · asked by amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
more bad...-complains more then compliments-never enough-doesnt make me feel better wheni am upset or sad always makes me more upset or sad- makes me feel like i need to need him-wants wants wants wants wants!
I have tried to leave him before because i am not 100% happy and i am only young once. But i made him cry, i still left, but he kept callin and i ended up going back home to him. When i have tried to leave before cuz we got physical he threatened me sayin he would kill me before i left. i dont think he was serious but why would he say that????
2007-03-02 07:52:54 · update #1
Leave the freak NOW. The threat is scary enough in itself, nevermind the fact that the bad heavily outweigh the good qualities.... give your head a shake girl.
2007-03-02 07:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone on here is going to say, "Dump Him" and I agree.
Charming men are the most abusive. I had a g/f that was controlling, and you just have to slowly leave this person.
1. Slowly take your things away from his apartment or whatever.
2. Spend time with other people once in a while.
3. Start getting a life without him, and expect him to do the same.
4. Tell him you both need lives, and to start living them, you are not connected at the hip.
5. Be the person YOU want to be, not what he wants to mold you to be. Stand up for yourself, and that's final!
6. Prepare your life's goals as if he isn't going to be there, because he probably won't be anyway.
7. Don't play games with his mind, just tell him why you want to do things without him once in a while.
8. If you give a crying baby candy, they will learn to cry everytime they want candy, same with adults, don't reward them for negative behavior.
Prepare to leave this guy if you are not able to live the life you want, he is PART of your life, not your whole life.
2007-03-02 08:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
really, he knows your weak and knowing how to get you go back with him... and He cheated on you, and had woman same time going with you... and he treat you crap and all that...
Really, You need to leave and moved out and end of this... I know you looking for a guy who really cares about you, sit down and listen to you , and share love with you, being with you, want to be hold and feel safe, and feel that you can talk to him alot, stuff like that... think and step back and look what you see and then leave... and he will cheat on you and stuff like that.. image if you married him and he cheated in you and stuff... that would be bad...
I think that you should end with him... Again It not your fault period and you done nothing wrong.. you love him and you show him that I am a trusted person and you go and banging other woman and have good tiem with her behind my back... I was 110 percent faithful girlfriend and you seem that you don't know or understand how much I love you...
It true you done nothing but he has easly get you ... now stand up and be strong and move out and end of it... I don't care how bad he feels or crying or neeedy... heck with him becasue he shows no love for you or care about you... If he did he wouldn't be doing that in the first place smilng....
2007-03-02 08:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is only a small preview of what your life will be like if you stay with this guy. You help him pay his bills? Sounds like you really need to stand back and take a closer look at this relationship. If he is controlling now, he will always be. If he cheated on you, no wonder he is controlling. People like him are not usually ones to be trusted. I don't know what you think you will get out of asking this question, but I can tell you from experience that it really sounds like you are getting yourself into a really bad situation. Good luck!
2007-03-02 07:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order to continue loving this guy, you have to ask yourself, is it really worth it.
He cheated on you, and its amazing that you got it back together, but it's wrong to see him as fully changed, because he isn't.
This guy is obviously worried that you'll leave him again. And gets pissy when your not around him. He's clingy. It's not your fault. Although your relationship has been 3 years long, you have to decide if you really want this for your future. Do you want a needy boyfriend when you go out with your friends, say on a cruise and he calls every 20 minutes because he's lonely.
He either needs space from you, or needs to get out.
2007-03-02 08:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Love is Patient, Love is Kind ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd say he has an anger manegment problem. try to talk to him about what is bothering you. he probably doesn't even know he's doing it- people sometimes do this without realizing it. also, if he hits you or mistreats you in any way, LEAVE HIM. it's a common problem- boy beats girl, girl runs away, boy apoligizes and acts like best boyfriend in the world next day. often the girl forgives him. but trust me, this does nothing. give him some time to think about it, and if he doesn't change, talk to him again. let him know this is something you need him to change for you. if he truly loves you, the sweet guy he is will come shining through.
2007-03-02 08:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by fab expert101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change a person for who they are and you can't change your boyfriend! What's the point on maintaining a relationship with someone who doesn't love you and continues to control your life? Your boyfriend has disrepected you by cheating on you and maintaining a relationship with someone else! What gives your boyfriend the right to feel insecure when he's the one who's cheating on you and playing these stupid mind games with you! Its best to end the relationship and move on with your life because nothing good will come out of it if you continue to stay and let him make a fool out of you by disrespecting you! Besides, you deserve so much better than that! Good luck to you!
2007-03-02 08:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing you need to do is just think about it, do you still love him? Would you like to put up with him everyday of your life? If he would love you he wouldn't threaten to kill you... Maybe ask him why he said that, if he says something about just wanting to have a girlfriend to make him feel complete then he just wants to feel secure. But just think about it.
2007-03-02 08:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mizunushi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat is not true. Some people learn their lessons. He really does love you which is why he is like this. He feels he does more in the relationship, which is not a good feeling. Do something speacial for him. Call him randomly and be spontaneous. He will eventually be more secure. Just focus on him for a week or so.
2007-03-02 07:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Hurt 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
when you started this you were 16 and he was 20 ? why was he dating a child ? because the women his age he would have no control over. his tears are another way of controling you. he is a manipulator. he even tries to control your feelings and emotions ? not good. get out while you are still young i gaurentee he is not going to die without you. he mya even have too grow up !!! i pray there are no children involved in this situation.
2007-03-02 08:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by clubchaos1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋