He only seems to bite when he hugs and kisses people. So I am confused about what to do. I love his kisses and hugs but hate the after bite. I'm afraid that if I discipline him he will think it's the kissing and hugging. Please help.
2007-03-02 07:51:34 · 19 answers · asked by scottbabymommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The minute you feel his mouth on your skin pull away from him slowly. If you think he knows he's biting and doing it on purpose then you need to say NO sharply as he's doing it. You don't need break the embrace but just pull away from his mouth. He's likely teething and needs to chomp on something. I used to give my daughter a whole peeled apple & she'd work away at it (not good if they can bite away chunks though).
2007-03-02 07:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son was a biter too. the only difference is it was when I breast fed him. yes, it is as painful as you might think. anyway I think this same technique might work since he was 10 months old also. I would immediately pull him off me and sit him or lay him on the couch and say no no in a firm voice and make the biting motion & piont to my teeth as I said it so he knew what I was saying "NO" to. I would make him stay there for 15 minutes and would not feed him until the whole 15 minutes were up. Sure, 15 minutes is nothing to us, but to a kid it's a eternity. after 5-6 times he got the idea and never bit again. I believe if you sit your child out for 15 -20 minute with a stern NO NO and reference to what it was that was bad, he will also get the idea.
PS it may take less time for you than 5-6 times. My son was a bit thick, still is. lol
He is 3 now.
2007-03-02 16:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by eyepopping hideous female troll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my son was old enough for teeth and until he was almost 3, he would bite. I tried telling him it hurts. Then making kisses noises hoping he would stop biting. I'd try making a game of kissing his face and saying no biting, just kisses.His biting just grew worst. He then would bite his older sister or who ever had something he wanted. His bites not only left marks and had the other children crying, he sometimes broke their skin. I tried that, "let them bite him back ", but that only made it worst. Plus I just don't understand doing a bad thing for a bad thing. I put him in time out, tapped him on the lips with my fingers and even spanked him. I kept hoping he'd grow out of it. Having friends and the church class room tell me he had to be watched or he wasn't allowed around, I knew I had to try something different. So liquid soap was the cure. Just a very, very small amount on your finger and wipe it on his lips. He'll stop. My son was very strong willed, still is, but he knows that I'll use the "soap" if he bites or acts out badly. Just wished I thought about it sooner.
2007-03-03 02:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by mechellet3 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when he hugs hug him back when he kisses kiss him back if he bites you bite him back he will soon learn its a phase all kids go through he will know what he has done wrong and wont do it much longer if you show him it hurts..
he will not get confused and think the hugs and kisses are wrong because you encourage that behaviour but you only bite when he does and bite as hard as he does ......... it works trust me
2007-03-02 20:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by sherice r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes probly just getting some teeth. Let him know that it hurts mommy and people dont like to get bitten. Or you could stick a pacifier in his mouth when you hug him-that way he wont be able to bite you unless he takes it out first.
2007-03-02 16:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very normal. Just remind him that BITING is not acceptable. Teach him to hug and kiss without his teeth..LOL Been there done that!
2007-03-02 16:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by proud2btysmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this age it can be tough. He is just learning what different parts of his body are capable of doing. When he does it, just pull him back and firmly say NO NO!!! You can not spank him or bite him back.. that is just wrong for this age. (I don't agree with biting back anyways..)
But you have to do this everytime and be consistent. Good luck hon!
2007-03-02 16:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by mom_of_4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite him back. He'll learn that it hurts and that he shouldn't do it. My son used to bite and I tried EVERYTHING to get him to stop. One day, he bit my mom and she bit him back. He's never done it since. He still give tons of hugs and kisses.
I don't understand these other parents. It's WRONG when you DON'T discipline your child for bad behavior. It's just as bad to allow bad behavior as it is to be abusive.
2007-03-02 16:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He must be in pain for teething. Just remind him to by "gentle" and reward him with a gentle hug and kiss after. Model is the key. You are right not to disipline. Teeth are coming.
2007-03-02 16:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sheila 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
@ 10 months, he is most lilkly teething, not bitting out of defience. Get him some teething tablets, and rings for him to teeth on. When he bites you, hand him the teething ring for him to chew on.
2007-03-03 04:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋