Since becoming single I've had a female friend that asks me to hang out all the time. Everytime I agree to hang out she calls me at the last minute and asks me if one of her guy friends can come along. I don't mind her friends, and me and her are not "dating", but it just seems weird to me that they are always added into the plans at the last minute. Anybody have a clue what's going on?
2007-03-02 07:41:14 · 24 answers · asked by isthatblip 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to be an active explorer of this intriguing situation and start answering your own questions. Are you equal with those friends of hers, since you say you are as friend of her as the other guys are? You go along well with the other guys or you feel rivalry, and have they hinted any questions to you? Are the other guys asked if they bother you coming along? Does she mingle with other guys while you mingle with your puzzle? Are you "allowed" to mingle with other women when hanging out with such group? Is the group in spread or closed formation :P? Do you take any inniciative in this situation, like you inviting her out with your friends? Have you given to her any sign that you might feel attraction toward her, or viceversa? Are you enjoying it?
I mean, you sound like you haven't even tried to gather any hint from her directly, and you are just a spectator in some dream. She has all the answers you need, and the two of you are equal. You do like the game, so ask her for the rulebook.
2007-03-02 08:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My impression is that she's still uncertain about coming to know you and maybe feels safer with her friends there or is trying to get an objective point of view from her friends. She maybe waits until the last minute to ask you because she thinks you wont want to see her if she asks you sooner.
2007-03-02 15:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is nervous about being one-on-one with you, and adding a friend helps to make things more comfortable. If she is asking you to hang out then she obviously is genuinely interested, but maybe too shy to follow through. I would just ask her straight up..
2007-03-02 15:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kourtney cheer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I know people exactly like this. My best friend's Mom & sister are forever inviting themselves to go places once she & I have already made plans. That's just the way they are. I've actually come to expect them to come along. But if it bothers you, be honest with your friend, in a kind way. Something along the lines of, "I was hoping just you & I could spend time together," could gently insinuate that you'd just like it to be the two of you.
2007-03-02 15:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask yourself: Are her guy friends gay? and then ask: Does she think I'm gay? If the answers to any of these questions is yes, then you'll get a pretty good picture of what's going on. If not she's probably just dong that as a ploy to keep you from thinking she's interested in you( and deep down she probably is but you didn't hear that from me)
2007-03-02 15:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by captsuprmarvlman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she likes you and just want to show u off if u ask her out? or she just wants to hang in a group. if its the same guy every time then she might be trying to make one of u jelous but if its a differant guy than she just wants a group of friends to hang with at the same time so good luck dude :)
2007-03-02 15:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by delta3835 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might not like u enof to hang out with u alone
tho she could like u but afraid of doing something wrong so she has someone to have a reason to do nothing
make a plan to hang out a few days in advance to make sure there is not "sudden" change in plans
2007-03-02 15:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by wrestler27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she likes you as a friend, or else she is auditioning you with her guy friends to see if you are worthy. Call her on it and let her know what you want out of these 'dates' and see if she is into it or not. Honesty and forthright conversation are your best friends in this type of situation.
2007-03-02 15:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by McB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she genuinely likes you as a friend.. maybe she's getting mixed signals from you thinking that you like her a little more than that, and she wants to avoid any awkward moments that could arise from the 2 of you being alone.
2007-03-02 15:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by boxerlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has intimacy issues; perhaps she really likes you and wants to see what her friends think of you.... I could go on although I think the best thing to do is:
Ask her why she always invites a "guy" friend to join the two of you.
2007-03-02 15:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by Emerald 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋