i invited my boyfriend to come with me to a museum exhibition (for school) a week ago. He agreed. Now, two days ago he got free tickets to the Indy Race on the same day the exhibition is!
He decided that he is going to the Indy Race. I am a bit hurt and not at all happy because i feel he is not honoring a commitment and he is disrespecting me by dropping me like a fly just because something better came up.
He disagrees and says i am not being supportive and that he didnt ruin my plans because i can take anyone else.
am i wrong to feel bad or should i be happy cuz he has free tickets?
2007-03-02 07:38:14 · 9 answers · asked by jm3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is the second time he does this...
and i would LOVE to go the the Indy Race but i HAVE to be at the museum for extra points (and i need them).
2007-03-02 07:54:28 · update #1
I think if someone invited him to the race and he PAID for the tickets, you should be mad, but bc they were free maybe it's ok that he go? If that's what he likes?
On the other hand, he did already make plans with you and the other tickets are FREE, so if he missed the race, it wouldn't really cost him anything.
I don't think 'supportiveness' has anything to do with it- if it did then he would be the one not supporting you, in this trip he agreed to take.
2007-03-02 07:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just on the face value of it........the museum will ALWAYS be there. Something like an Indy Race MAY be a one time chance!!! I'm not sure what the school project entails but if possible, why not go to the Race with him and the museum another time?
2007-03-02 15:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Papi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one had your boyfriend told you that he would go to the museum with you but should have stated that if something better came up would you mind if he do his own thing and you do yours and then you two could meet up later. Now that he has an opportunity to do something then let him do it, and don't keep pushing the issue, you feel however you want to feel as it is not wrong to feel that way but just talk about events when they come up in advance and come up with a compromise that you both can agree on that way you both won't feel left out or cheated in anyway.
2007-03-02 15:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, my boyfriend wouldn't have agreed to go to a museum , but given the facts an indy race verses museum??
Bet you couldn't find 2 men out of 1,000 who wouldn't choose the race.
Hurt feelings or not.
Grow up and face the fact that men are inconciderate, what bothers us couldn't possibly bother them.
Find someone else to take, maybe your mom.
2007-03-02 15:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are over reacting a bit becasue tickets like that are typically expensive and it is a good opportunity...however, he should have to make it up to you since he is ditching you. I would just tell him to go do his thing but he has to make it up to you with a nice dinner, or the next time you guys go out you get to pick what you do even if he hates it. Giving in now gives you a free pass to do something later on.
2007-03-02 15:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's rather inconsiderate of him, but chances are, he honestly forgot about his commitment with you to go to the museum when he took the tickets to the race. Explain to him that you're upset that he forgot, and try to find someone else to go with you. But keep an eye out to make sure this isn't repetitive behaviour for him.
2007-03-02 15:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, I would rather go to an Indy race than a museum exhibition....
2007-03-02 15:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he pulls out of plans on a regular basis, I'd say he's rude and selfish. If this is the first (and last) time he's done it, I think I'd let it go and be happy for him.
A 1-time thing is an event.
A regular pattern of behavior is a character flaw.
2007-03-02 15:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being unreasonable, but if he just took off with those tickets he probably diden't want to go very badly. it's probably better to let him do his own thing rather than making him go somewhere when he'd rather be somewhere else.
2007-03-02 15:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋