why does noone understand self harm not even those close to u?

Answer 1

there is a pain inside that finds some sort of release from self harm....physical pain somehow is a relief to mental pain for those who self harm. Sometiems those close are not the best to understand because they may have some deep seated knowledge that they have contributed in some way to the mental pain that has foud release in self harm. In other words they don't want to understand because they may then feel implicated or guilty or resonsible. Councellors are equipped to help......talk to someone ie a doctor ond get a referral but don't live isolated with this you really do not have to. There is help.

Answer 2

Maybe cause the person has never done self harm. No one near you can understand cause they don't know what your going through, I think the love between the two people makes it's hard to understand. That's why councellors are useful.If you do self harm go see your doctor, I've got to see mines on Friday. I'm scared but I know I need help. Good luck with whatever x

Answer 3

I think that people do not understand as they are not suffering themselves. People who do self harm are usually doing it to try and punish themselves for something they feel they have done wrong. Family members need to understand the reason behind the self harm before they could possibly understand why someone does it. I think that the best people to understand a self-harmer....would be those who have recovered and understand the experience.

Answer 4

It is something that is so far outside the range of what most people can relate to, though there've been so many questions posted on this site about it I'm beginning to realize it is not as uncommon as even I thought it was (I've had a history of self-injury, mainly picking at my skin and cutting.) I've been in the hospital or emergency room or gone to see a dr. and it amazes me, the reaction of most nurses. If they are not trained psychiatric nurses, they give you a disdainful and insulting look... sometimes refuse to treat the injury. They can't understand why a healthy person would want to inflict damage upon themselves, and they see you as a waste of their time and efforts. I really wish the medical community in general would learn more about this so that we can be treated with the dignity and compassion we find so hard to give ourselves.

Answer 5

Hi Katie,

i think it's abit like depression, eating disorders, panic attacksm anxiety...basically any mental illness...it's so harshly and ignorantly judged by those who have never experienced it. Only those you have done it will know what you get from it and all the emotions related. I think family especially don't understand because they find it hard to understand why someone they love so much is hurting themselves and are partly scared for them and don't know what to do. It's the same for friends, however sometimes they just give you strange looks because they don't see why hurting urself is a good way to get rid of inside pain, as you inflicting more onto youself...as I said only those who go through it or have training in certain areas of mental health issues really understand it!

Answer 6

Like suicide many people seem to think that self-harm is a selfish act, or something that you do to bring attention to yourself. Very few people understand how it works or why it happens and often those that understand are fellow self-injurers that are probably not in the best place to offer help and support.

Answer 7

The only people that can truly understand SI is the people who do it. Realistically, it doesn't make sense to people who don't have this problem because it doesn't make sense logically. They can't comprehend that it doesn't really have anything to do with suicide and they don't understand how cutting yourself can make anyone feel better. That is probably because they've never felt the intense feelings of someone who SIs. Still, there are other ways to get that same sense of relief besides SI, and ultimately you will need to get help for it. Otherwise the problem will never be looked at, you will only be able to treat the symptoms, you could accidentally bleed to death, and you will have scars for your entire life. Focus on what causes you to SI, not what makes you feel better.

Answer 8

Only specialised people will understand self harm or people that have previously used self harm to relieve other pain they are feeling

I am reading a book about it at the moment and it certainly does mean the person needs to find the root of what is causing the hurt inside ..............................

Answer 9

I don't know.
But they really don't, do they? I even have a friend who still does it sometimes, and I can't even talk to her about it that much.

The thing is, most people self-harm, it's just not intentional. They can't understand it being so direct an intentional. (ex. cutting yourself instead of smoking a cancerous cigarette)

Answer 10

I'm a nurse. Because they don't feel the pain you feel or can't relate to your suffering. I know this is a difficult time for you, try to write down your feelings on like a journal everyday to get all your inner feelings out. I understand how you feel and I use this method the journal. It has helped me in more ways than one. Please don't be too hard on yourself I'm sure you are attractive and have a lot to offer. I'm also a Christian and I will pray for you today. Take care and I wish you all the best.