My boyfriend and I wont stop fighting, It seems like the more we try to let little things go the more we fight, It only happened recently like in the last 2-3 weeks, but it is the most frustrating thing in the world. I love this man with all of my heart and we have been through a lot together, but we just cant seem to get past this. It is really hard. This is the man that I want to be with for the rest of my life, and we talk about getting married, but I dont want to be in fights with him for the rest of my life either, PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2007-03-02 07:25:40 · 12 answers · asked by Crash Wendy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend and I wont stop fighting, It seems like the more we try to let little things go the more we fight, It only happened recently like in the last 2-3 weeks, but it is the most frustrating thing in the world. I love this man with all of my heart and we have been through a lot together, but we just cant seem to get past this. It is really hard. This is the man that I want to be with for the rest of my life, and we talk about getting married, but I dont want to be in fights with him for the rest of my life either, we do live together, so getting away is hard, and when we are away it doesnt help. I absolutly refuse to give up on this relationship, because he is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
2007-03-02 07:44:14 · update #1
You are right- you don't want to be fighting with your lover for the rest of your life. Ask yourself these questions? Is the same person always starting the fights or do you both just bicker and back talk at each other? Since I don't personally know you, maybe one of you just has an argumentative personality that is easily satisfied with arguing about trivial things. I know this is probably not the answer you want to hear but maybe you need to take a break and spend some time apart. You may just be spending too much time together? Are you together all the time? You can be madly in love with someone; love them so much that you want to be with them for the rest of your life. But that doesn't mean that you are right for each other or even compatible. How long have you been together? If it's just been a few months and your already fighting, maybe you are not compatible with each other, but if you have been together a long time and this fighting has only been going on for a few weeks, then something else is probably going on with one of you that is causing stress that in turn is causing you or him to take it out on each other. When people are stressed out (and everybody gets stressed out over all types of things) about something personal, they usually end up taking that stress out on people closest to them, instead of talking about it or dealing with it directly. It sounds like you are kind of young; by that I mean under 24 years old. If you are, I suggest talking about this fighting thing to people you trust that are older than you that have lots of experience with relationships. It is always beneficial to talk to others that you trust about something like this because, even if they don't have the right answer for you, they may help shed some light on why this problem might be happening just from their own experiences. This is what helped me the most in past similar situations. Hope this helps. I know it's not easy and there's never really one right answer-- but hopefully one that will help the two of you.
2007-03-02 07:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by justme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man
Woman
Fighting
One of those three has got to go. Then there will be peace.
Only you can choose. If either of you likes the fighting more than the other person - there is no relationship.
If you both love each other more than the fighting - stop. If you cannot, try professional counseling. If that doesn't work, then you DON'T love each other more than fighting.
2007-03-02 07:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you both need to chill out a little, try talking to each other to discover why you are so argumentative, until you are mature enough to sort this out don't even consider marriage. The most important thing is to realise that all successful relationships are based on give and take.
2007-03-02 07:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump Him For A Dog
2007-03-02 07:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jon A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you around each other all the time? Is there something specific that you are fighting about? Are there feelings of resentment on either side? Without this info, how can anyone help. More details please.
2007-03-02 07:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jordan X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from each other for a week or two. I don't mean break up, just don't see each other.
2007-03-02 07:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry bbz itz so obvious that u guys aint compatible enough
you either seek counseling or take a time apart from each other for some weeks or maybe days.
2007-03-02 07:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave or sort out the problems. See a marriage councillor if neccissary
2007-03-02 07:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u guys obv, need to talk and get to the root of your problems, you may not be old enuff or smart enuff to do this tho, so you may need professional help
2007-03-02 07:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by 7thwonder-answeronigreatness 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need a time out from each other!!
2007-03-02 07:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋