2007-03-02 07:20:31 · 6 answers · asked by liz g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Whatever you do, don't say "stop being so negative" believe me, it only makes things worse.
You can however say "I'm really worried about your health, you seemed really stressed out and sad a lot..." and then discuss options of ways to help her feel more relaxed or happy.
2007-03-02 07:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by 'negative'. If you feel she is targeting you; i.e. criticizing you; try talking with her and understand that she is a mom and always wants the best for you. Mom's are the best and worst drill sargeants - you may not be able to achieve for all she asks of you, but flip your outlook on her words to inspire you to strive for the great things she is expecting. Remember, you cannot please all of the people all of the time, but you sure as heck can use their 'can't' 'won't' 'shouldn't' attitude as fuel for your motivation to prove them wrong.
On the other side - if Mom is negative towards a lot of things in general, try your best to cheer her up! She may feel down on her luck or that she has been dealt a big bad hand in life. As her daughter (and even if she may not express it often), you truly are the light of her life. Even if you did one small gesture a day, she will brighten up. Her appreciate might go unexpressed at first - but be diligent - she'll come around. Maybe she just needs someone to hug her and reassure life is good and she has people in her life who really care to see her happy.
In either scenario - don't distance yourself. Put the shoe on the other foot, and imagine how you would feel if you were in a rut, didn't want to talk about, then on top of that, the people you love ran away and didn't want to help you. Not good!
Your mom is human - there's always a reason why we act the way we do. Be patient with her and give her your love every day - she feels the same way about you - and more than you'll ever realize!!
2007-03-02 08:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by nydaisy22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked her how SHE Would do things better? Sometimes that can make a relationship change. Maybe she doesn't feel like you care what she thinks? So by asking her for her view, she'll see a side of you that maybe she didn't know was there. Its worth a try. You only get one mom............
2007-03-02 08:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by margieelisabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep my distance and back off because I don't like being surrounded by people who have negative attitudes about everything-especially if it was my own mother!
2007-03-02 07:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
misery desires company, that's an old saying, avoid talks with her, just try one time to see whats bothering her, does she need counseling? is she ill? if not and she actually enjoys her misery- just go about your day and try to keep busy, when you can, move out.
2007-03-02 07:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to her, and give her the silent treatment.
2007-03-02 08:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋