i am 12 yrs old i am an only child and i don't want them to even have a kid..but i'm afraid there gonna...how do i deal with it
2007-03-02 07:10:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well you've already taken the first step .... talking about how you feel. Now try to do that with your Dad. He can explain his side and you can explain your side.
Also, talk to the couselor at your school. I know a lot of counselors and teachers seem like they are just there to make your schedule and give you grades, but they are pretty smart people and can probably help you work through your feelings.
And I'd just like to say a couple things ... I am 6 years older than my little brother and sister and I cannot imagine my life without them now! When my sister was born, I was not happy. Now, it's like having a built-in friend. A little brother or sister is like having a friend no matter how many times you fight - they will always love you.
Also, a baby would probably help to make your father happy, and as you get older you will find out that you can be happy by simply knowing your father is happy.
He loves you very much ... and part of his decision to have another baby very much involves you. You will always have a special relationship with your parents, but the relationship you have with a brother or sister is also very special, but very different at the same time. Your father probably thinks it is important for you to have that wonderful relationship with a brother or sister, and I agree with him!
Something to remember in life .... that it goes on :-) Change is a very scary thing and a new baby is a big change. The thing about it is, changes and surprises can always be good if you think about the good side!
2007-03-02 07:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you're concerned, being an only child, but your motives for not wanting them to have another should show you a flaw in your own character. You are being selfish, when in actuality you're poo-pooing a situation that can be quite advantageous to you. Being an older sibling is an honor and the change although very challenging will do you some good. Maybe you're concerned that you'll be forgotten, but chances are that that won't be that case because you'll find that you'll be needed more than ever when/if the baby arrives. For now be honest to your parents with your concerns, but keep in mind that you have no real part in the decision to have a baby and if they decide to do so, you must learn to accept that and do all that you can to love and protect your little brother or sister.
2007-03-02 15:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by captsuprmarvlman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should speak with your dad about how you feel. If you are able to talk to him and explain your feelings then you might find the situation to be enjoyable.
Also you might want to look at your relationship with your step-mother. Do you get along? What fun things are there about her? Ask what your role in this will be... Would you be helping to decorate and preparing for a new household member?
This sounds like a great experience for someone your age to be able to experience a birth and grow even closer to dad and step-mom. Think about he things that made you feel special when you were little and what you would like to share to make someones childhood special.
If there problem becomes more then you can handle, talk to your school counselor or another adult that is capable of listening and being empathetic.
Good Luck!
2007-03-02 15:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by Susan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will love the baby because that baby will look up to you! You will be the big sister and quite a role model too! So, just give that baby all the love and teaching you possibly can! It will be fun! I couldnt wait til I had a baby bro or sis...I was about your age when i finally got one...now I'm so thankful for her...shes great! She can get annoying but thats what lil sisters are for. But I'll take her and her friends places with me and it can be so much fun! You just wait and see! Dont worry you'll still be daddys lil baby...you were first born, dont forget! Plus you get more advantages of being the older sister!! Good luck
2007-03-02 15:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to learn to accept it. If I were you I would try to get used to the idea now, and think about some of the fun you could have with a little brother or sister. This child will be your family, too. Try to get past the jealousy and you'll realize that your parents won't love you any less. When a child is added to the mix, there is MORE love to share, not LESS.
2007-03-02 15:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for them and love your new mom. You have to set the tone of your new family. If you give out acceptance and love and are decent you should get the same back. And having a little brother or sister can be really great and only further to make all of you a family. Good luck.
2007-03-02 15:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by thefinalresult 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they do have a baby you will be the older child,show how grown up you can be your dad will still love you no matter what happens and someday you will be glad that you have a brother or sister as your parents dont live forever just be happy for them and for yourself to.
2007-03-02 15:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by lynda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up a little, and stop acting like such a baby yourself!
Look at it as a chance to have a brother or sister to mentor and show the way to. I bet you'll be a very good big sister! Besides, if they do decide to have a child, there's really nothing you can do!
2007-03-02 15:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel sorry for you. b/c my dad just got married two years ago and they just had a baby 5 months ago, and I didn't want them to have one. I wish I would've told my dad about my stepmom before they had the baby b/c I don't really feel a part of the family anymore. Tell your dad what you think before they have the baby and hopefully he will understand how you feel.
2007-03-02 15:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Courtney♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
Don't worry. There should be enough love for you and a new sibling. You are going to love it. My sister and I are 10 years apart, but I lover her like she was my own. I took care of her as a baby, taught her to walk, helpped with homework and watched over her. Now she is a 20 year old wiz kid. She is going to school to become a doctor. And guess who is getting the best X-mas presents!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 15:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋