I've been going out with this girl for more than 2 months. we go out to many places but she never offers to pay. i would never let her pay but it would be nice of her to at least try to reach fro her wallet wouldnt it??!!! she is the conservative type. i know she likes me and the thing is i cant just tell her that she should offer to pay, cuz it's gonna sound rude. she did get me a present once. she keeps hinting that i should invite her more. what do u think i should do? how would i make her offer to pay? should i forget about her?
2007-03-02 06:55:14 · 17 answers · asked by joett8tt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, I've worked as waiter :) The one who calls for the drinks is the one who pays :P
Probably it would sound ridiculous if you tell her that you are out of money, but you will deliver the message. Next time the two of you decide to see each other, tell her indirectly that you could make a house dinner or something that does not include paying out.
If she is the conservative type, then she must have some reasonable expectation to when you will stop taking her out and offer her marriage. Otherwise, if she cares, she will note to herself that you come from a culture where women are expected to share the expenses as well if the desire to go out together is mutual at least.
To the bottom line, when you invite her out and you pay for the both, you do it because that is your pleasure. When it stops being pleasure, stop doing it.
2007-03-02 07:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough call. I always insisted on paying, even though my girlfriends would offer to pay sometimes. Now that I'm married I still have to get out of the habit of, "Me man. Me pay. UnGOWA!"
Someone suggested the, "I'd love to get that but I'm broke" idea. That's a possibility. Also consider the, "I forgot to hit an ATM on the way" or "My credit card is close to maxed out and I dont' get paid until Friday" idea. Do not get into the habit, however, of doing this when you just don't feel like paying. You'll just chap her off.
2007-03-05 07:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused. You want her to offer to pay... but you wouldn't let her? What's the point then? Like a test to see if she really likes you or something? Or are you worried she's using you?
If the money thing bothers you try going out on dates that don't involve payment of any kind. Pack a picnic, or go for a walk on the beach or something. If she turns down FREE dates, then I'd dump her.
2007-03-02 07:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me try to answer this for you. i used to have a gf that i dated for two years on and off. she never paid for any dates, she only bought presents around christmas and bdays. what you have to do is just say that you dont have any money the next time she wants to do something. and if she is cool and worth your while, she will offer to pay. i used to be like you dude, really, but you know what i found out, ITS NOT DISHONORABLE TO NOT PAY FOR EVERY DAM DATE. another way to do it is when she suggest going to eat or a movie, you say ' your treat' or 'you treating'. SAY IT WITH A SMILE. you'll look cute and friendly and again, if she is cool and a PARTNER in your relationship, she will pay. see most chicks are ***** gold diggers and when they find a guy like you or me, they will let you pay for every dam thing in the world. you have to set her straight now. hey you'll pay for things but she needs to as well. girls are always saying how they want to be treated equally but when it comes to these types of examples well its up to the guy to buy sh't. ill tell you what, i always ask my current gf if she is treating now and again. hey ill pay for dinners and movies and other sh't but she needs to too. and guess what she does!
2007-03-02 07:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by maximus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how nice of you.....I am a girl and I usually offer to pay....this is the 20th century.....You should hint to her...."hey wanna treat me to a movie....or wannt treat me to dinner. something like that.....Maybe she might not have a job or the money....but if she is worth having in your life then hint it to her.....Also, if you are willing to forget about her.....then you should be able to do this.....You are still a gentleman.
do you want your wallet to end up empty?
2007-03-02 07:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lonna L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This day and age the woman should offer to pay her half. However, some people are old fashioned.
Now, just to be clear, you wouldn't let her pay, but just because she hasn't offered you're thinking of breaking up with her? Grow up, or get a better job.
2007-03-02 07:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whoa! Making you pay on your individual Birthday dinner? it fairly is in basic terms excess of the strategies-blowing. whilst somebody shows to take a individual out to dinner for that persons Birthday, the guy who shows it could actually be the only to pay for the Birthday dinner. for sure this woman is impolite and spoiled. except you experience which you would be able to take a seat her down and confer along with her approximately this, wreck it off along with her. i'll confess in my relationship with my boyfriend, he's often the only to pay, yet it fairly is by potential of selection and it could make me mad sometimes. i might desire to experience like an equivalent section interior the relationship and it makes me experience like a spoiled little brat. I have fun along with his sincerity whilst he's procuring this or that, yet he can comprehend that i'm autonomous and that i wanna help too. i'm not ashamed to pay 0.5 of something. as quickly as we bypass out to a fancy dinner or something, he's often the only to %. up the examine, he will tell me NO, yet I consistently insist on procuring the top, he would not like it, yet he would not desire to get me going neither, haha. 36 yrs. previous and needs to nevertheless advance up. whilst there's a relationship at stake, the two could be equivalent and compromise. in case you are able to not communicate it out along with her, wreck it off, you will discover somebody far extra useful than that and that individual can cope with you lots extra useful.
2016-10-17 02:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the realization of the complete hypocrisy of modern feminism.
We're supposed to view them as equals, they're supposed to get all the benefits that men do; equal pay, etc., yet we're still viewed as "potential providers" and have to pay for everything, and are viewed as tightwads if we don't.
Women want all men to earn the same pay as they do... EXCEPT FOR THE GUY THEY MARRY. He has to make more.
2007-03-02 07:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by dork 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The next time she hints at something, tell her flat out that you dont have any money right now, so if she wants to go dutch, that would be cool.
2007-03-02 06:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
take her to do something that really dose not involve money or tell her that you love going out with her but you cant afford to do it so much maybe then shell say something
2007-03-02 06:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋