so... i'm five weeks pregnant, and i need to set up an appointment. however, if i set up the appointment, the bill and all of the phone calls will go to my mom's house. i don't want my mom to know yet... but i feel really terrible for not telling her, since we've already told my fiancee's dad and we're getting ready to tell his mom. he is 21, so his family is pretty cool with it, but i'm 18. my mom is the kind of parent who "has plans" for me, and i was enrolled in a university, etc. but i (as she put it) "screwed that up" by moving in with my fiancee four months ago. she loves him like a son, but i don't know how she's going to react... i'm an only child. she had me when she was 28, so she isn't going to be very understanding of any of this.
i guess what i'm getting at is should i tell her soon? and what should i expect? what would you ladies do/ did you do when in this situation?
thank you all very much!
2007-03-02 06:48:57 · 9 answers · asked by termite choking on the splinters 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I was 17 when i got pregnant. My grandmother raised me so she was my mother and i knew if i told her it would devastate her. But i knew i had to take responsibility for my actions and tell her. Her reactions at first was she was really upset and disappointed but let me tell you, she loves my little girl more than anything in the world. So, yes i think you should tell your mom and the way she will probably respond is shocked, disappointed, she may even cry a little but i think she will see that you are taking the first step of responsibility by telling her. She will come around. She will probably be the first one out there buying you and the baby things. She may be hurt at first but she will except it and she will come around. Maybe if your boyfriend can't go to the doctor's appointments b/c of work or something you could invite her to go along. Get her involved. That may help a little. Well good luck and keep us posted. If you ever want to talk email me at dsouders@justwoodinc.com GOOD LUCK! Congratulations.
2007-03-02 06:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a cell phone or a work phone? You can have them call for the reminder appointment there. Or have the mail sent to your fiance's parents house. Of course you should tell her, but you better plan for the phone calls and /or mail to be sent in case you haven't told her by the time this stuff arrives. Your mom may say she has better plans for you, but she's your mom and she loves you. She may be upset at first, but she'll calm down. At least you plan on being with the dad. Just take a deep breath, the longer you wait the harder it's going to get, and it be become more obvious that you are in fact pregnant. I had to tell my parents I was pregnant at 19, it was scary and they were mad, but they calmed down and everything worked out okay
2007-03-02 06:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Hayden's Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to your question you moved "in with" your fiancee 4 months ago, so if that is the case Have your bills sent there, because hoeny you are an adult and this is your responsibility and you will have to pay the bills not your mom. And honestly she may be disappointed that you are pregnant so young, but she is going to be more hurt and upset the longer you wait to tell her.
2007-03-02 06:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by HappyGoLucky 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you seem to slam your mother for "having plans for you" but as your about to find out, every parent (well, maybe not every) wants their child to have a happy, successful, healthy life. What I'm gathering is that you think she treats you like a child by making plans for you and second-guessing your attempts to make your own decisions and run your own life. Let me tell you though that for someone who doesn't want to be treated like a child, you are certainly acting like a child by hiding this from her. If you're old enough to make your own decisions and live your own life, then you must also take responsibility for those decisions. She probably will be upset, but you already figured she would be or you would have told her by now. I'm sure that the lack of consideration and respect you're showing her by telling everyone about the baby BUT her will only add to it. She could come around in time, but only if you show her that you're a grown up now and stop behaving like a little girl with a bad report card.
2007-03-02 07:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mom was right .
I would assume the bills would go to your insurance coverage ? What? You don't have a job with medical coverage ? How do you plan to care for yourself and a baby with no income and no insurance ?
Have an abortion and get your butt to college !
Should have listened in the first place.
Your life is ruined if you have this baby And all because you wanted to have unprotected sex.
Think about that when you are 40+ yrs old.
2007-03-02 13:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by Cammie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didnt tell my mom till I was almost 2months along and it crushed her.We dont really get along and we never have.But I guess she felt like I didnt want her there or something.(She had plans for me 2)Your going 2 have some rough spots but who knows..she might not act how you expect.Baby news changes alot of people.Good luck and congrats!!!
2007-03-02 07:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by lyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her.... you'll feel so much better after you tell her. She loves you no matter what. She may be upset but will accept it and get excited about it. Just tell her now. Goodluck and congrats
2007-03-02 06:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her because if she loves you shell know its ur deccision and if she gets mad then its better than not telling her Ps She is gonna find out when u POP
2007-03-02 06:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her
2007-03-02 07:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋