Does the father of the bride walk the bride down the isle alone or does the mother of the bride walk with them

Question

I always thought it to be the norm for the Father to walk the Bride down the isle. But my mom wants to also. My dad wants to be traditional and do it alone. My parents are divorced, but on good terms and my father says that he'd feel the same even if they were still married. I agree with my dad, and want to be traditional. Any suggestions on how to let my mom down easy without making her feel left out?

Answer 1

This only a suggestion--Have your father walk you down the aisle and have your mother meet the two of you at the end of the aisle so that both parents can "give" you away.

Answer 2

I don't know what to tell your mom, but it is traditional for the father to walk the bride down the aisle by himself. Just explain to her that you want a more traditional wedding. I am sure she will understand. If you have ushers then traditionally the ushers walk the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom down the aisle so she will have that part. Other then that I am sorry I don't know how to make her feel more part of the ceremony, but i do understand because my parents are divorced also and I just got engaged.

Answer 3

I got married 5 years ago and both of my parents walked me down the isle. Almost every wedding I've been to the mother and father walk the bride down the isle unless, the other parent is deceased. I think it's great if both of your parents walk you down the isle because they both love you and both of them want to be involved. Traditional or Non-Traditional every person does it the way they want too. I think it's traditional when both parents walk you down the aisle. If you let your mom down then just explain to her why you don't want her to walk you down the aisle with your dad. Tell her you want it to be traditional like the movie Father and the Bride.

Answer 4

Your mother has the best role in the wedding she is the mother of the bride. She is seated before the ceremony begins. As a matter of fact her seating is the beginning of the ceremony. And I know she knows this but maybe you can tell her so that she can truly understand. Walking you down the aisle is probably something she wanted to do having to be both the mother and father after the divorce but she doesn't have to do it...let her know this and how you feel and let her be as involved as can be!!!

Answer 5

This is a hard one! In some religions both parents do walk the bride down the isle. I'm getting married myself in 7 months and my parents are devorced. I personaly asked my gradfather to walk me down the isle and it was tough to tell my father of my choice but he was ok with it. My gradfather has been there for me more than my dad. But anyway, I would just sit my mom down and explain to her that you wanna go traditional with it and just have your dad. That you don't wanna hurt her feelings but thats how you feel about it. If your having a unity candle, mention that she is the one who gets to light the candle, he doesn't. And she has other important rolls in your wedding that your father doesn't get included in. Like dress shopping with you and planning other parts of the wedding.

Answer 6

Daddy walks the daughter to the pit, Mommy walks the Son. Let us call it a new tradition.
Wait, new and tradition do not go together.
Mommy front and on the daughters side of the spectators, Daddy front and on the Sons side.
Just love each other and get along with the idiosyncrasies that you allow to screw up what should be a good thing.
Nobody walks anybody, when the man with the funny hat asks, 'Who doth give that woman?' Mommy and Daddy stand up and say 'We does.'
That is such a lame tradition.If mommy and daddy argue over that petty thing, do not allow arguements at the wedding.
Mommy and Daddy stay seated and shut the fck up.

Answer 7

it is traditional to have the father walk u down the aisle. kind of sounds like since ur parents r divorced she feels like she needs some sort of including in the wedding. the good thing is though that ur mother will not be "left out" she will get walked down the aisle all by herself. she should be escorted just like the bride is. just remeber that this is ur day and she should respect what u want and that u want it to be traditional.

Answer 8

ONLY the dad walks the daughter down the aisle. Your mom is strange and being selfish. Let your dad do it alone. That is tradition and your dad probably wants to feel more apart of your life since he and your mom are divorced and you probably lived with your mom your whole life. Tell your mom that you want it to be traditional and that is what your dad wants to, end of discussion. Having BOTH of your parents walk you down the aisle would scream "My parents are divorced!" to every guest there. It would make it so obvious. Your mother sounds insecure that she cant just let her exhusband have the pleasure of walking his daugther alone.

Answer 9

Traditionally, your father is the only one who walks you down the aisle of course. If you want to keep it traditional - just talk to your mom and tell her that. If she is a reasonable person, she will understand. Unfortunately, it sounds to me like this could possibly be misunderstood as you "siding" with your dad, and going "against" your mom; I don't see what you can do to to not end up in the middle if both your parents are bent on making a big deal out of it. No matter which you choose, you will be "siding" with one of them, so just choose what you, yourself, wish. You might want to think of some way to include your mom in the wedding more prominently, to soothe her feelings.

Answer 10

It's the fater of the bride that does it. HOWEVER it's just a traditional thing. My dad walked my best friend down the isle because she doesn't get along with her own dad. Have them BOTH walk you. It's YOUR wedding!