We met 6 weeks ago and we had a great romance. It was very sexual, but I had very strong feelings for him as well, and we are both students so we didn't have a lot of time to socialise together.
Suddenly two weeks ago i got girly and emotional and tried to understand what his feelings to me are. I did a stupid thing - called him up and suggested to split up, he said he doesn't want to split up and we decided we will not quit. However, than i got upset with him a few times during the week after that. He asked me why am I upset with him all the time and gave him my reasons plus told him I am not used to going out with a poor student ( I am used to guys flying me on holidays all over the world - I am from a wealthy cirlcle)
He got offended and stoped calling. I than called him and apologised, told him i like him a lot and money doesn't matter but he said he needs "time alone", and he has a guest coming over for a weekend. And i haven't heard from him since monday...
Is it a split?
2007-03-02 06:29:29 · 32 answers · asked by Rita B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a split to me. Good for him....GOLD DIGGER!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 06:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is it a split? Good Lord I hope so!
You are the EXACT prototype of why guys don't like women.
You pick fights, and get all emotional and whinney? You are "high-maintenance" and demanding. That crap you gave him about being poor was a stab in the back, nice job! Geez, you have money and still you demand more? Wow..... Why don't you return the favor men have shown you, and fly HIM around once in a while? What do you want him to do? Go into debt for your spoiled butt? You apparently are in love with plane tickets, not adult relationships.
Hmmm, you get upset with him "a couple of times a week?" I think it is time that you grow up Dream House Barbie.
In all seriousness, I suggest you stop pissing him off for two reasons:
1. Guys get violent when they are pushed and pushed and pushed, and you evidently don't know when to quit.
2. You already did enough damage, and there is probably no way you can recover from your craziness you have shown him. It is too late, you have shown your cards, and he already thinks you are psycho. (SEE INTERNET LINK)
Learn your lessons and start off with someone fresh and don't screw it up this time!
2007-03-02 06:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think you'll be able to recover from this one. You probably made him feel like crap by telling him you're not used to going out with a poor student, and all that wealthy circle stuff. If all you were worried about was his feelings for you, then you should have left it at that and not even mention the money thing. You probably really hurt his ego. Traditionally men are supposed to be the provider. And, right now he's not really in a position to do that. He probably hates the fact that he doesn't have much money. And all you did was rub it in his face. He may think that eventually you'll leave him for one of your wealthy friends.
Just give him his space... if he wants to call you, he will.
2007-03-02 06:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Thats very mean of you to tell him that. Some guys will never make enough money to afford paying rent yet alone fly their girlfriend around the world. I think you guys can try to make it work if you both try to. You need to think deep inside and really really think about whether or not you want a relationship or see yourself marrying this guy AND you need to ask him the same question cuz if either of you dont feel it then its not going to work.
If either of you want to be with eachother but just to have fun and to have sex with an exparation date then you cant get too emotionally involved and if you think you cant handle it then LEAVE HIM ALONE.
2007-03-02 06:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by Martin L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You like to go into relationships quickly don't you?
Sorry to say this, but the way you treated him would've seriously hurt me and I wouldn't have particularly wanted to go out with someone who basically look down their nose at them. Put yourself in his shoes - how would you feel and would you really want to go out with him again? I would say that what you said to him would pretty much be the end of it. This guy sounds generally nice and I think you've got some serious thinking to you before you go an involve yourself in another relationship and disappoint him too when you suddenly realise he can't afford first class.
So.. You might be from a wealthy circle but ask yourself this question: Would you rather go out with a guy who flies you all around the world but has a terrible personality and leaves you like that? Or would you rather have a guy who wasn't quite as well off but was loving and cared about your feelings, and not likely to drop you like a stone?
If you answer yes to the first, you're not a worthy girlfriend at all.
2007-03-02 06:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you realise the fact that pointing out that you are from different backgrounds offended him. You need to think before you speak. Mens egos are like eggshells. It might be better if it is a split, then you can meet someone from your own wealthy circle.
Give him a bit of space and ring him in a few days. Personally, I would wait for him to ring me. If he didnt ring within a week......end of story.
2007-03-02 06:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by missBambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it is. But in the future when you are trying to find out what a guy's feelings towards you are please do not try to make them feel like they are inadequate. Making them feel small is one way to really make a guy lose his respect for you. Especially after you had sex with him. Next time just ask him how he feels but you. That is why communication keeps relationships going. And ifyou likesomeoe and they like yu never,nver cll them to sugest tha you want to split up if you are not seious about it. Because then it wll really happen and you will never know how far that relationship would have ended up.
2007-03-02 06:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by petty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay in your wealthy circle. You will only make this guy unhappy, and I suspect he has come to that same conclusion. He has a " guest".... that should tell you he has moved on. For his sake, I hope this "guest" does not care how much money is in his pocket.
2007-03-02 06:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh ya, and if it's not, sorry to say it should be. Money or not- who are you to say that your not used to going out w/ a poor student. Even if thats the case- you don't tell somebody you supposedly like that!
2007-03-02 06:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should give him the break that he wants and make up his mind, cuz from what i understanded from you that he likes you too, so this means he won't leave you that fast.
so my advice is that give him a break, then call him back and ask him if he can meet you somewhere so that you can talk to each other.
oh and don't forget to stop those fights that happens with both of you, cuz that will lead to a real broke up.
and good luck :)
2007-03-02 06:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by dirty pop 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no i dont think so ...if this guest is a guy then he just needs time to think about other things and get this off his mind...if its a girl..well then yeh he prob is spliting with you...i would just let him have his time alone...let him come around ...and when hes ready to talk...sit down with him and tell him how you feel...and money reallllly shouldnt matter..dont you think that if he was so poor he wouldnt be a student at school?..good luck..just give it time..in the mean time hang out with some of your good girl friends..
2007-03-02 06:37:29 · answer #11 · answered by Cutie101 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋