My dr. & I do a lot of flirting back and forth when I'm there. I find him very attractive, but would never try to act on it, since we're both married, and the whole dr./patient ethics issue. When I was there last, the conversation somehow turned to an old girlfriend he had. He said he wasn't interested in any romance or committment, and made that clear to her up front. She, however, apparently fell in love with him, and turned sort of stalker-like on him. He went on to say that he broke it off with her, and said it was "too bad because the sex was great". I was rather taken by surprise, and even had him repeat what he said. I see him maybe three or four times a year, but the banter between us seems to get racier with each visit. Is it okay to flirt with my dr.? Is all of this personal disclosure on his part okay?
2007-03-02 06:25:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
goyang333 - if I needed a pelvic exam, I'd go to my Gyn (totally no flirting there). For Pete's sake, I've got to maintain some aura of mystery about me!
2007-03-02 06:49:54 · update #1
Flirting is flirting. Just because he is your doctor, I don't think it matters. I'm sure there are tons of women out there that have ended up dating their doctor, BUT like you said, the both of you are married, so there's the real issue. You are married, make that the last time you flirt with him. Just decide before your next visit that your not going to provoke any flirting and stick to it. Good Luck~
2007-03-02 06:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by happyfacemommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally unprofessional. A doctor needs to keep a certain distance from his patients in order to provide objective care. Flirting and sexual banter should not be part of your treatment. This impairs judgement. What if you have a problem that needs a pelvic exam? This creates a very awkward situation which is not in your best interest. My suggestion would be to find a new doctor. There are definitely times that physicians are attracted to patients and may want to date them, but the professional thing to do is to end the "professional" relationship first. Being married just puts an extra ugly picture to the whole thing.
2007-03-02 06:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by goyang333 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been a therapist for the last 12 years and I can say that your dr is playing a very dangerous game, if you were the type you could easily cost him his license. As for you my little chickadee how would your husband feel if he knew you are attracted to your dr, he flirts with you, you flirt with him and you continue to see him. Do the right thing and find another dr. That is the problem with married people now, they test the waters thinkinking it's ok and thats how it starts. exercise some moral courage.
2007-03-02 06:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by frogenstien 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 02:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was obviously trying to get you to sleep with him. "The sex was great." Was it great for her? He's just trying to make himself sound like a sex machine. It's not professional that's for sure, but what did you expect? Be careful of the flirtatious signals you're sending out. That's not professional either. You're either going to end up bumping uglies with him or things are going to get too uncomfortable and you're going to have to find another Dr. Good luck!
2007-03-02 06:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...thats kinda freaky. I would start thinking about switching Dr.'s. I think he was trying to get a rise out of you to see how you'd react to him talking about sex. Since you're married (& I assume you want to stay that way) you should break all ties with him. Ya'll have gotten too comfy with each other. Good luck!!
2007-03-02 06:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by lovemy2babies 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are married you shouldn't flirt at all. If he is married he shouldn't be flirting either. Tell him you would like to keep your visits professional in that sense. He shouldn't be talking about his sex life with his patients.
2007-03-02 06:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Steve-O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's inappropriate, but reporting him would not make you look better. Your husband would probably find out if you tried to report him because chances would be you'd go to court or something. It's really a situation where you can't report him because you encouraged it in a way also. Find a differnt doctor if you feel uncofortable or you might just have to deal.
2007-03-02 10:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by Dan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow - absolutely inappropriate. I'd steer clear of this doctor. If he's talking to you about a former girl friend or sexual experience, whose to stop him from talking about you to someone else?
2007-03-02 06:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by kelly-il 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes out of line..You opened it up but to much flirting.and he's looking for trouble..
2007-03-02 06:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋