Will me n my boyfriend have ben going out 4 about 2 weeks! He is everything that i dreamed of having n a boyfriend! but i havent told him my secret! my secret is that i m a virgin n he thinks that im not a virgin! im not n a rush 2 do this, but he is! I'm thinking about if i should wait a lil while n let him take my virginity away? or if i should just stick n there and tell him, or if i should jus keep on acting like im not a virgin! i really dont kno what 2 do! im trying 2 weight out my options, but its starting 2 give me a headache! would u prefer someone 2 tell u the truth? Or if u r a parent what would u want ur daughter 2 do? Thanx 4 ur advice!
2007-03-02 06:07:53 · 17 answers · asked by tai d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im going 2 make him wait! (i think)
2007-03-02 06:19:54 · update #1
im 15 n he is 14 going on 15!
2007-03-02 06:23:42 · update #2
i've known him 4 longer than 2 weeks, but we just started dating 2 weeks ago!
2007-03-02 06:24:38 · update #3
DON'T! Whatever you do, DON'T! Yeah, right now, he's the one, you did not say how old you are, but you seem to be younger than 18. You are a precious pearl. You want to give your love and virginity to someone who is WORTHY of it, to someone who REALLY loves you and cares for you. Knowing someone for 2 weeks, is not enough time to really get to know if he is worth giving it up for.
Stop acting like someone you are not. That may be what is attracting you to him in the first place. You're acting like you are leading him on and he thinks that you are a hoochie mama. So he's ready to go and you're not, that's why he's rushing you!
If he REALLY cares for you, he will wait for you until you are ready for love. Be honest with him, tell him the truth. That you want to be in love with someone and want to wait. If he leaves you, he was not worth the time or worse, if you had given in to him, was not worth giving up your virginity for.
2007-03-02 06:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by midnightlydy 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Starting a relationship with someone based on a lie is not a really good start; especially when the lie is as petty as telling some one you take pride in keeping yourself for someone special. He would probably appreciate it more knowing your body hasn't been used up, which could lead him to be more patient with you, that is if you tell him the truth. But then again, he may have a problem believing you are a virgin now, because you have already told him you weren't. One thing is this, if you are not ready for a physical relationship with this person, hell; it's only been a two week old relationship, it can't be that deep yet, anyway. But if he is everything you dreamed of having in a boyfriend, then he will be patient enough to give you some time to get to know him before you give your body to him. Give the getting to know each other period of the relationship some time first; I say at least 6months to 8months period should suffice. JMO
2007-03-02 14:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first time was not special for me, and that is both something I regret and can never change. There are very few things in life that are truly "once in a lifetime" but losing your virginity is on of them. You need to be upfront with your BF and tell him of yoru concerns. Two weeks is not long at all to be dating to rush right into sex. I'm a grown woman, and wouldn't do it that fast--I don't think I could handle having a baby all by myself!
When it's really right, you will know, and it isn't as a strategy to keep a boyfriend or to prove your love for him. If he loves you back, he will be patient--even if that means waiting a year or more for you to feel ready.
This is the most intimite thing you can share with another person, and if you can't even bring yourself to tell him you're a virgin, maybe that's a big sign that you need to grow much much closer before you take that HUGE step.
2007-03-02 14:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you're probably not ready to have sex yet. And two weeks is a very short time to be dating... you should give yourself a few more months, if not years, before you decide if he is really everything you think he is.
Yes, you should tell him the truth - do you really think it's good to base a relationship on a major lie? Lying is not proof of love, it's proof of fear. You're afraid he won't accept you for who and what you are... and if you're not even willing to give him the chance to know you, then you give up on any chance of sharing real love with him.
Tell him that you care about him very much, but you are a virgin, and not ready to have sex yet. Tell him that you would like for him to be your first, but you want to wait until the right time, when you are both ready. If he's not willing to wait, or attempts to convince you otherwise, then he's just after your body and doesn't really love you back.
Please talk with your mother, best friend, or trusted female adult before you get intimate with him. Don't rush into anything you're not totally ready to do. You must be able to soberly discuss condoms, birth control, STDs, and pregnancy with your boyfriend before you have sex, otherwise you are definitely not ready and are just letting lust overpower your common sense and responsibility to yourselves.
2007-03-02 14:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let a guy make your decicions for you.........nor a relationship!!
I love women and love sex but if someone does not feel like having something special with me or they feel confused.....I think they should wait!! If he is with you for sex he will have it and leave you.....two weeks is not enough to say he loves you....and sex and love really have nothing to do with the subject but most of if about who you are and what you want!!!
I think feeling pressure you will not even enjoy it and first times, are actually a bit painful unless you go slow and make the girl feel sure about the decision!!!
He won't even last much inside for you to feel anything anyway......
Girls please help out and let her know how many of you really have gotten a goood special orgasm on your first time!!!
I have many partners and all either have boyfriends, or husbands or have never had an orgasm until they found me....but I am a weird case.....I am infertile and last up to two hours even if I come two to three times can still last a while.......I like tend to feel that if i can not have kids then maybe I am here to make a woman feel good and practice that!!!!!
In abut 5 years if you still have not had an orgasm please let me know.....I don't charge but do ask for intensive testing since I don't want a disease!! I also let the person get to know me as a friend since I love to have friends and when they have sex with me is even better but ........can't go crazy and risk my life or my other friends either!!!!
Good luck and pay attention to my first advice....is the most important thing to read for you!!!
2007-03-02 17:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks is a very short time to decide if you want to sleep with someone. I think you should tell him the truth first and secondly their is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin so why lie about it? Just remember once you lose it there is no getting it back. So make sure that it is what you really want and not just what he wants.
2007-03-02 14:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only been with him for 2 weeks. You dont even know him enough to have sex with him. Let him think you're not a virgin. If you tell him the truth,he will want to have sex with you only to be the first person to be in there. Dont let yourself be used.
2007-03-02 14:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him the truth.
You should also remember that it is a gift you can only give away once and it is gone forever.
Are you that much in love to do that?
I hope you are honest with him and that you do not let him pressure you into anything.
It is the most wonderful gift you could give to your husband on your wedding night....so please think this through and don't make any rushed decisions.
If he can not handle the fact that you are not ready to have sex then it is time for you to move on and find someone who respects you and your wishes.
be cool...
2007-03-02 14:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know the truth. If it is a problem for him then he isn't the one for you anyways. As far as what should you do. You need to what feels right for you and you beliefs. It ha to be right for you not for anyone else. Don' be in a hurry you have your whole life and there can be many problems that follow you choices. Just make sure you are ready.
2007-03-02 14:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by browsing_4fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell him and if he's not feeling u afterwerds then he aint right for u. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin but when u are ready to have sex then it should be with someone u care about and love and they feel the same way about u.
2007-03-02 14:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by ~ Jay ~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋