My husband contsantly wants it. When he wakes up, when he gets home. Is this normal? Its everyday, all the time. If we have sex in the am, when he gets home he still wants it. And if i dont give it, he will lay there and do it himself? Could he have a problem or is this normal. We live with other people, and i dont feel comfortable doing it with them there...but if i tell him no, he will do it himself right there, layed out on the bed. Ive expressed my feeling that it is being excessive, but its like in one ear and out the other..any help
2007-03-02 05:49:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i left out..that its not just sex. He wants to masturbate allll the time... i can understand if its once in awhile, even every few days...but everyday? from the time he wakes to the time he sleeps? why does he want to do this so much
2007-03-02 05:51:44 · update #1
AND he gets some from me everyday! thats why i dont understand..and he doesnt last long, so i know its not b.c he doesnt enjoy our sex
2007-03-02 05:52:54 · update #2
THANKS TO EVERYONE! ..the couch of farts response was great.
2007-03-02 06:08:23 · update #3
Thats awesome haha. I'd like to shake this guys hand, after he washed it of course.
Be warned. Women reach their sexual peak after men do. So some day he's going to remember how helpful you were to him when you have your needs and the tables turn around. By that time he'll either be a loyal man or a couch that farts. If you're wise, you'll plan ahead.
2007-03-02 05:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ellis26 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that does sound excessive. For some reason the image of my neighbor's dog constantly mounting every leg he comes across came to mind as I read your question. Sounds like he could use a few daily doses of saltpeter lol.
Seriously, you should maybe talk to your doctor to see if this falls beyond the lines of normal. He or she can point you to the exact type of resources you might need should they find it necessary. If it's interfering with your daily life somehow then help should definitely be sought. I could not imagine how much respect I'd lose for my husband if all he did was lay around masturbating, a ridiculous image I could not even fathom. I totally understand your concern and hope you manage to find a solution.
Best wishes!
2007-03-02 06:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by wyld_roze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to assume he's under 40. Let him. Bring him a towel. Be happy that he's solving the problem without going outside the marriage. You will never be able to convince him that it's excessive, just like he'll never be able to convince you that you have too many shoes. The fact is, it seems to be making him happy, and he takes responsibilty for making himself happy instead of constantly nagging you about it or looking for it elsewhere. That's a good thing. And normal.
2007-03-02 06:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yyyyyeah, that is a bit excessive. I'm surprised he can get things done he's at it so much.
It wouldn't be TOO much different if you were alone in your place, but others are there and he doesn't care; he may be compulsive, chronic-master-debator (hee hee). Once a day every day isn't much of a problem, but 2, 3 or more is definitely bordering on a compulsion.
Speak to him and see if he'll meet with a therapist.
2007-03-02 05:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband obvviously has constant needs. Fell lucky your husband wants you. As a wife I feel it is fair to tend to his needs as you would expect it from him. Men and women tend to look elsewhere if thier needs are not being fulfilled. If he wants to pleasure himself... let him. Leave the room, if you must. But I find you may be being unfair to him by not letting him at least pleasure himself when he understands that you are not up for it.
2007-03-02 05:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by stick_e_bun 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Young men sometimes have nonstop, irresistible sexual hunger. They dont' ask for it, in fact it's a real pain in the neck at times - it's also wonderful to have it taken care of. Still, they can be excessive, over indulgent. I think the line is that you can ask him to do it in private, (to himself) and that's legitimate, but I's stop short of asking him to do it less or not do it. It'll pass as he gets older.
2007-03-02 05:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by All hat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really want to but not when the other people are around go like to a motel for a night or somthing. i dont think thats totaly right that he wants it all the time, but i wouldnt be complaining...
2007-03-02 05:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by dogluvbaby! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is really disrespectful of your hubby to not respect your wishes! Now I can understand that he may want it more than you, but if it bauthers you to have him take care of himself infront of you then just get up and leave....Sometimes I want it more than my boyfriend does, but I never put pressure on him and masterbate with him right there....i do it on my own time without him there, unless he wants to be there...that is how it should be.....I'm sorry you have an *** for a husband...try going to a councler....this is not fair to you!
2007-03-02 06:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal for younger men to have a high libido. You should talk to him about why you think his behavior is excessive and make a compromise. He might last longer with you if he self pleasures less. I do not think he is a sexaholic , deviant or other. He just needs to knock it down a notch.
2007-03-02 05:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by curious george 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes this is normal guys want sex all the time and if you wont give it to him then its better for him to take matters into his own hands then go some were else just thank god that he thinks of having sex with you and not someone else
2007-03-02 05:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Bob W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋