I have custody of my 2 neices that I took out of foster care, they are my brothers kids. he was in jail when they were taken from their mother. Now he is home and lives with my other brother but he really does not seem to help at all with his kids. My husband and I do everything for these kids and it is very stressful for the both of us. I am in nursing school and my husband owns his own business, we are very busy and the kids are always getting into trouble and I have to leave school or work. their mom is a piece of sh*t and my brother don't seem to care. I am getting very tired of the same old getting in trouble routine. I don;'t know whether to give them, back to the state or not. My life is very difficult right now and We can't handle all of the extra crap. I love them to death but I need to get my education and i can't do that with kids that are cutting up all of the time. I NEED ADVICE, BAD. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!
2007-03-02 05:42:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
TO THE CHIC WHO SAYS I DON'T LOVE THEM, YOU ARE NOT IN MY SITUATION SO YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE. I HAVE NO HELP WITH THESE KIDS AT ALL. ............AT ALL, THIS IS VERY HARD AND FOR ONE I DID NOT HAVE TO TAKE ON THE RESPONSIBILITY BUT I KNOW I HAD TO. AND YES THEY HAVE BEEN ABUSED SO I AM TRYING TO DO ALL I CAN BUT WITHOUT HELP I AM GETTING BURNED OUT!
2007-03-02 09:40:39 · update #1
AND I ALSO FAILED TO MENTION THAT I HAVE A 7 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WHO IS NOT BEING SUBJECTED TO ALL KINDS OF SEXUAL THINGS THAT MY HUSBAND AND I TRY TO SHEILD HER FROM. I DO NOT WANT MY DAUGHTER TAINTED AND KNOWING ABOUT SEX AT AN EARLY AGE.
2007-03-02 09:47:03 · update #2
Ask for help from the agencies in your area...do they offer Respite? Usually foster parents have a monthly allowance so they can have a "break". In the state I live in, Respite can even be another family member or friend...and they get paid for it. Good luck.
2007-03-02 06:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by CabinFever 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have got to get some help. Contact social services, churches, local mental health. These kids have been through a lot and they are testing you to see if you really will stick with them. If you abandon them to foster care they will get the message that they really aren't worth loving. What everyone needs is some family counseling and some parenting instruction. Give up on your blood relatives and find some way to get support. And remember, nothing lasts forever. It will get better if you're willing to put in the work.
2007-03-02 16:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I love them to death but I need to get my education and i can't do that with kids that are cutting up all of the time"
If you really loved them you wouldn't even THINK of putting them in foster care just so you can get your nursing degree. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices for your family. It sounds like these girls have gone through a lot, of course there's going to be acting up. If you want to send them to foster care to get molested, raped, abused, neglected, etc. and you're comfortable with that so you can finish school, then go for it. I pray for these girls that clearly no one cares about.
2007-03-02 14:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly in oyur situation... i think they might be better off in foster care... regardless of what your brother and sister think... i was put in foster care when i was 14 because i was being bounced back and forth between families from my church... and i turned out fine... if you do send them back... amke sure you can get visitations... so that the kids don't feel like you're just abandoning them... that is the worst feeling in the world for anyone... hope this helps you out...
2007-03-02 14:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by damiens_mommy_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋