He wants to marry me. He's a good man, but I'm afraid that our age gap is too long. What do you think?
2007-03-02 05:21:36 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A Good man is hard to find, don't let a little difference in age scare you off. Most guys your age, or any other for that matter, aren't worth marrying anyways; they have a lot of growing up to do!
2007-03-02 05:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by head_kase13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be worried about the age gap - if he's the one then he's the one. You should know that deep down inside yourself. Don't just marry him for the sake of it because it will affect your whole life. If you truly love him & want to marry him then go for it. The only things I'd be thinking about if you were worried about the age gap is that he'll no doubt be at a different stage in his life. It may be the end of nights out partying, he might be wanting kids soon, he's probably further advanced career wise etc. If the age gap is only a minor niggling thing & you're prepared for what I just said, then go for it. If it's a more major issue, then maybe it's not your only issue & you should really think about it. Good luck :)
2007-03-02 05:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by kyls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married to a man who is fourteen years older than I am. I'm wondering if maybe the gap isn't big enough! Of course, mine's an artist, so he may never grow up, lol. Ask him if he'd be willing to put off getting married until you're sure. The age difference doesn't really matter, but if you have a question about compatibility, wait until you're sure, because divorce is an expensive pain in the rear. And don't have kids with him until you're sure either, because you end up having to go through the whole divorce process anyway.
2007-03-02 05:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are thinking that, then it probably is. I once dated a 41 yr old when i was 21 I know thats a much bigger gap but things just felt kind of weird with him after a while, I felt like he was my dad or somthing! ANyway you are only 22, don't rush into marriage, you've got all the time in the world.
2007-03-02 09:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women become mature quicker than guys. from the moment you are both adults there is no problem. you should instead check if you have a good time with him, if he respects you, if there is trust between you, if he has a good character, if he has a standard wage to support you in case of difficult times. concerning the marriage, dont rush. take your time to think about your life and then decide. if he insists, explain him that you need some time to avoid any wrong decisions. keep also in mind that the guys of your age, will not be serious in a relationship. they want to reach 30 by winning experiences. when a woman reaches 30, she should already have had children.
2007-03-02 05:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by zeke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a big age gap...but if its true love the age won't matter. As long as you guys both want the same things out of life and have a good foundation on your relationship.
2007-03-02 05:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age shouldn't matter unless it bothers you or if he treats you like you're stupid just because you are young. If you truly think that it will be a problem, then don't do it.
If you do decide to marry him just make sure that you are on the same page as far as goals and what you want to in life ( kids, college/grad school, career, house, travelling, etc) so you aren't faced with marriage-breaking decisions later.
2007-03-02 05:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that should matter is your love for each other, and 11 years difference sounds a lot when you say it but i know people with an even bigger age gap than that..... seriously if you love him and he loves you... then why not? good luck.
2007-03-02 05:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the two of you are in love and treat each other with respect, I see no problem with the age issue. My grandparents were exactly the same ages when they got married. They were happily married for 68 long years before he died with her by his side, at the age of 99 years and 7 months. With enough love and respect for one another, the two of you can make it a long and lasting relationship.
Best of luck!
2007-03-02 05:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Colonel Angus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi There!
Okay, I am 19 years old...
My fiance is 31.
I honestly don't believe that there is a problem with your age. If he makes you happy then go for it! Not everyone is attracted to people their own age, ex. Me!
But either way, don't get married if you believe that there is a problem with it. If you love him, and are willing to do anything for him, then I say that you should go for it!
I hope that all goes well!
2007-03-02 05:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋