Hi all, today in daycare(the kids there are 20 month olds) there W kept biting all the other kids. Even the little 16 month old that was visiting us today. (there where 2 other adults in the room) he wasn't listening when the adults told him "NO BITING. It hurts" he just cryed because the adults where not happy(he was looking right at the adults when they told him that). So I tryed to distract him with another toy and he bit me instead. Any Ideas on what I can do to get him to stop biting people?
2007-03-02 05:21:24 · 10 answers · asked by Tweetybird 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You need to tell his parents that they have to fix the problem or find other daycare its not good he's biting yes i know they say some kids its a phase and blah blah blah but you can spread germs and cause other kids and grown ups infections if he breaks the skin it needs to be a situation delt with asap.
2007-03-02 06:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter did this. Each time she bit, whoever she bit would "bite" her back. Not hard!!! Just enough to know it's not nice. It only took about 4 days (less each day) for her to realize when she hurts someone it's hurting her back and it broke her of it. My daughter was only around 18m at the time so the rewards system I now use (she's 3yo) didn't work.
I should also make it clear that she's only ever with family. I'm a SAHM (hubby works) and the only others she's ever around are my parents, husband's parents, or aunts/cousins. We're close. It's not a daycare/babysitter situation.
2007-03-02 13:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy of 2 Girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom said she had a friend that her son had a problem like this. We were around the same age and mom wanted me to have a play friend but the other kid kept biting me. She said that she told the other mom we wouldn't be back if she couldn't get control of that. A few weeks later she called and said she started biting him back. He soon realized that it hurt and I guess never had a problem with it again. Thats also what I do with my son now. He thinks its fun to start swinging at ur face. So I started (not hard) but smacking him in the face. He gets upset when I do it to him. Now he has stopped doing it.
2007-03-02 14:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite him back just hard enough to show him it hurts. After you do this three or four times he'll quit biting. You have to remember that a child that age's memory is about 5 to 15 seconds and then they forget being told something like no or don't do that. The little bit of pain inflicked as a correction will stay with him longer and after several times of biting him, he will remember not to do it.
2007-03-02 13:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son used to be a biter. A lady saw it in the grocery store and recommended hot sauce. It sounds kind of mean. But if you give your child a warning to stop and he does it again, try putting a teeny tiny dab on his tongue (we use tobasco)...let it sit for a few seconds and then give him some bread or milk to make the burning stop. We actually tried it, and after doing it only two times, all we had to do was say we were getting the hot sauce. It has also worked for other behavioral issues!
2007-03-02 17:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biting is fairly common amongst young children but is very troubling to parents. Biting is often very painful and frightening for a child who is bitten. It can also be frightening for the child who bites, because it upsets the other child and makes adults angry. Biting can make the child who bites feel very powerful because of the strong reaction and attention that it brings. This feeling of power can also be frightening for children because they need to feel secure that their feelings can be controlled.
There are four different kinds of biting.
experimental biting
biting from frustration
biting because of feeling powerless
biting under stress.
If the child does bite, say firmly “We don’t bite, biting hurts” and remove him immediately from the situation. Keep him with an adult for a while.
The child needs you to understand his feelings and he needs your help manage them differently. This takes a long time to learn.
Feelings are very hard for young children to control. You might say something like “You were very cross when Peter took your truck, but you must not bite him” or “You wanted to play with the truck. If you feel cross tell me and I will help you, but we don’t bite.
Don't bite back. This is terrifying for the child and teaches the very thing you don't want him to learn.
Give the child positive attention every day to build up his self esteem.
You need to tell his parents and work together.
cheers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 14:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that I would discuss this with the parent's of the child who is doing the biting. Let them know that it need's to be gotten under control however if it isn,t gotten under control you might suggest that they may want to start looking for somewhere else to take the child.Also I understand that gently biting them back (not anyone from the center of course) sometime's is a deturant.
2007-03-02 13:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by mary&ronnie d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be really consistent with the "No biting" and removing him from the situation where the bite happened. If he gets away with it, he'll keep doing it. Just telling him no isn't too effective at that age.
2007-03-02 13:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres what you do every time he bites you or anyone else just bite him back not too hard, but bite him so that he knows that it hurts and if every time he bites some one then he will get bite in turn then he will learn to stop it because it is hurting him also
2007-03-02 13:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by tamoya d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a faze but i had a doctor tell me to put my son with another biter, sounds mean but it worked, i am surprised he is allowed to stay in that daycare most will not allow biting, consider it very serious good luck but don't panic it will pass
2007-03-02 14:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋