My family is grudging against me because they felt that I left them for dead during Hurricane Katrina, in which I didn't. They refused to evacuate with me, & one of my brothers was threatening to hurt & kill me. I could not drive with him in the car, screaming in my ear & threatening to kill me. He did that to me, driving 3 blocks to the store trying to get food for survival, so how was I supposed to travel out of town with him. The other brother & his girlfriend & her brother didn't want to leave without him. My brother's girlfriend & HER brother are also grudging against me. 1st of all, they need to stay out of our family business & 2nd of all, it wasn't my responsibility to evacuate my brother's girlfriend & her brother when their mom could've evacuated them.
My family still hates me, & my brother's girlfriend & her brother hate me, & I have anxiety disorders, & if I would've wrecked my car, then we would've been stuck because there were no hospitals open @ that time. We'd be dead.
2007-03-02 05:16:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Other people tell me that I should've put myslef first & not worried about their ignorance & arrogance because they did me dirty & betrayed me anyway. People expect me to forget about my Katrina experience, but they have a right to grudge abainst me. I was not trying to be selfish. I was trying to protect myself from being hurt or killed.
2007-03-02 05:18:54 · update #1
& I'm suffering financial debt, trying to help my family survive, before, during, & AFTER Katrina, & I get kicked in the u know what. How is me buying food & water for survival for the family not making sense or not spending wisely? I was trying to help everyone & went into debt trying to save & help everyone. I bought food, water, toiletries, & anything necessary for family & my brother's girlfriend & her brother, & they told me it didn't make any sense to buy that. How else were we going to survive? I was the only one with credit cards. But if we starved, they would've blamed me if we would've died. I can't please anyone. I was used. & people tell me to let my Katrina experience be in the past, but Katrina ruined my life & got me in debt I can't get out of.
2007-03-02 05:25:17 · update #2
Try professional therapy, dear, and don't be so hard on yourself. You did good, and got no gratitude. There are people who are like that. Are you able to break away from those unkind people? Best to do so. Try to find a new town, and don't tell them where you've gone. They seem like they are immature and can't let go. But I'm sure you can.
2007-03-02 05:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a horrible experience, to say the least.
Were they unable to evacuate themselves, or why would they not leave? Why were they threatening to kill you?
It is my opinion that if they were able bodied, they could have left...but I can't really justify that, as I was not there, and not in that situation.
It sounds like you did the best you could with a bad situation to begin with. You are probably right when you say that you and your family would be dead. But, you are all alive...and your relatives and friends (for lack of a better word) are able to hold their grudges.
Maybe get yourself some counseling, and concentrate on yourself. It sounds like you could use it. Good luck to you. Take care.
2007-03-02 13:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Allypooh*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katrina is something that CHANGES people...
Unless you lived it.... you cant really know....
Why are they grdging against you? For teh same reason...
It changed them... it scared them....
You went out of your way to get them food and water.... you didnt know what would happen if they stayed.... you planned and did the right thing... you left....
Really... it sounds to me like you may have some co-dependancy issues. As good of you as it was to get him food & water before you left, you should not have allowed him to treat you that way on the way to teh store.
Why havent they forgiven you? It could be any of a hundred reasons... but you are right. They had choices. They made them. They ahve to live with them.
Why dont you use the link below to find some groups near you to talk about all of this with?
2007-03-02 20:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any family like you just described would be no longer family to me. You do not deserve this treatment and limiting time with these dipshits will only make your life better.
Sorry family has to be so horrible but there is no law that says you have to stay and continue this poor treatment. IF YOU do decide to stay and be treated this way then you have no one to blame but YOU !!!
If things are not going good then it is up to YOU to make a change. No one can do it for you !
Good luck... this so called family sounds horrible and you deserve to move on and have a damn good life !!
2007-03-02 14:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you, I'd explain to them why you DIDN'T leave them for dead then. And then I'd explain how I felt about such a lousy family and that if they weren't being left for dead then, they are now
2007-03-02 13:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can not,its everywhere
2007-03-02 13:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by doctor asho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋