i am 16 and i am scared because i might have a baby or catch something and i am also scared to tell my mother that i am ready what should i do
2007-03-02 05:10:45 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
sounds to me like your NOT ready to lose your virginity
2007-03-02 05:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Imagine this scenario.......
You are at this party and find this guy who is really hot. You guys have sex and you think he might be the one. The next thing you know he's sleeping with someone else. Then a month later you find out you are pregnant. It has to be his...and he won't claim your baby and won't support you. Having sex is a very important thing and can have some pretty hefty consequences. One night of fun can change your life forever.
Sex should be something that happens between two people that are in love and will stay together for the rest of your lives.
I would say that you should wait until you are married but make sex something special and share it with only one person if you can. USE PROTECTION
2007-03-02 05:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by bm8211520 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well If your scared you should be I was scared when I first had sex And I was the same age and after having sex for one week guess what I got pregnant Also you Bleed all over the bed the first time and it will hurt. Girlfriend wait have fun while your young - but if you still proceed get on the pill and wait a month after you take it. If you use condoms most likely the guy would slip it off get something you know protect you. You can go to planned Parenthood for more detail Good luck!
2007-03-02 05:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a virgin simply means you've never had sex before. That's it. It's not rocket science, it's not a passage of rite. You don't sound ready at all.
I take it you have a boyfriend? The worst thing that could happen would be that you could get some disease like AIDs. After that comes pregnancy. Go with this reasoning, if you have unprotected sex, you WILL fall pregnant. Teenagers are much more likely to fall pregnant because their bodies are so full of hormones, etc.
Its up to you what you do. But make your life easier. Do everything in your power not to have a baby.
2007-03-02 05:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your scared your not ready, You should wait. But if you chose not to wait then you need to go to the store and get condoms, now I have no idea if you are a boy or a girl but if you are a boy get the value pack go home and practice putting the condoms on. You need to know how to use a condom for it to protect you from disease and pregnancy. One more thing if you not in a relationship that is at less 3 month old then your not ready. try masturbating and wait a few year, who cares what your friends say its all about self respect.
2007-03-02 05:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by mace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush things. If you're scared, it's fairly certain that you're not ready.
Sex is more than just being physically or socially ready. It's more than maturity. It's a very intimate, you're letting someone DO something to your body which you can never take back. You're giving away a part of yourself you can never get back. Keep your virginity awhile. Don't throw it away, regardless of what people say, it is something quite precious. You'll either treasure or regret forever your first exposure to sex. You are young yet, you have more life to experience, that life experience will make your first time better because you'll be much more sure of yourself and perhaps your feelings for your partner.
2007-03-02 05:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Hermit Crab 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If your asking this question, then your not ready, and yes your right you might get pregnant and who do you think will have the responsibility of that child? and yes you can catch something even aids, how would you live with such an awful disease... dont know if your relegious or not... sex was meant for married people and not before marriage and look at whats happening with us humans who are doing this before marriage, unwanted children, fatherless children, children with aids, abortions, aids, and so many other problems that comes with having sex before your really mature and married... so im telling you you will not get the true meaning of what sex is really all about until your more mature, married, and really ready for such a big responsibilty...
2007-03-02 05:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that you're ready? Is it because you think that everyone else is doing it? Are you in a relationship with someone you love and who is worthy of you? It's a big step, and one that should be carefully considered because there is only one first time. It does not automatically make you wiser or sexier or anything really, but I just don't think that it's something to make light of. Talk to your mom however, so that if you decide that this is something that you're determined to do, she can help you with information on how to protect yourself from pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted diseases. However, if you are truly scared of those things the failsafe way to avoid them is to stay intact!
2007-03-02 05:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you are ready, but with all these concerns, maybe you aren't ready. Don't rush such a decision, because the consequences are not worth it. There is always a chance that something could happen, even if you take all the precautions. It's just not worth rushing it. Talk to you mother about all this, your mother will someday be one of your best friends, that's what they are there for, to guide you through lifes decisions. Please wait. Stay young while you can.
2007-03-02 05:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by jp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please, before you do anything else, let your mom know you need some "special time" to sit down privately to talk with her. Maybe when you do, you each could have something to drink (ie soda pop, coffee, etc.) and just let her know how you feel, and your concerns. Please, at the beginning, You and your mom agree to LISTEN to each other. Now, I have a question or two for you: are you REALLY ready? Are you feeling pressured in ANY way to do this? You are 16 yrs. old, when you give up your viginity, you can't get it back. I am sure you have thought it through, but please think it through again. And, please do talk completely open and honestly with your mom on this. I can ask you to please consider protection (condom, etc.) . If the guy doesn't want to-then please don't do it. Your virginity is yours-to give to the one person you truly care about, and want to give it up to. A lot of young people, both male and female, are taking the "golden vow" of waiting till they are married to give up their virginity. Please consider that for yourself. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-02 06:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing your virginity is a REALLY BIG thing. Don't give yourself to someone just for the security of his love or for more of his affections. Guys have a different view on sex and unfortunetly I found out when I was 16 and "gave" a sacred part of my soul to someone that just asked "do you want to lose it?" meaning my virginity, and I said ok. I thought he would give my something more than just a sore crotch but he got what he wanted and left me feeling like I was less than who I know I am. With each time I was with a guy (only 3 before I married) I believed the lie that he would give me what my heart wanted...and it's only now that I'm married that I know only your husband can give you! Wait!! It's worth it!!
2007-03-02 05:25:17 · answer #11 · answered by 4 girls r my heart 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋