I recently got engaged valentine weekend, my fiance lives out of town. We have been together for four years and it's only been three months since we have been apart. Well its hard on chosing a date because I want the wedding before the end of the year so I can be with him sooner. I can tell he wants it early next year to save up more money for a really nice wedding and to make sure I have a good roof over my head and a nice bank account, in case I dont have a job when I get down there. I am worried we won't last a year and some months being long distance too much longer andto have a wedding in March in Chicago can be scary. What should I do, should I continue to push a November wedding or take ease off of him and wait until next year.
2007-03-02 05:10:12 · 13 answers · asked by ucme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Girl, just chill out! Let time tell! If you wait, everything will be planned a lot better and things will go a lot smoother for you. You won't be rushed to plan things in such a small time. That way your life is together, like in your financial situation and such. So just relax and wait 'til next year.
2007-03-02 05:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with him then 1. You should first move to the same city. That way the two of you can get into the groove of things again. 2. You should decide what is important to you. Having a big fancy wedding or going to the courthouse or something. 3. If you can't move to the same city with him just yet but your already to give up maybe you should rethink the whole thing. Some people don't care about having a big wedding that rather have a long marriage. You know you could always get married/ elope and than have a more expensive wedding on your anniversary.
2007-03-02 05:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Spelman Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both really need to sit and talk about it.. long distance relationships are very hard... The saving up money is a really good idea... money is one of the main reasons most relationships don't make it, but the other side of the coin is, if you are together, you can survive anything, just as long as you are with him.
You need to let him know your feelings about your fears... Maybe He'll compromise You've been together for 4 years... I think you have the stuff to make it.. It's tough... and here is another thing to think about... why not make it a small wedding so he wouldn't have to worry about money so much... that would take a big burden off of him, and it would help
2007-03-02 05:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by Belindakelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would move closer to him prior to the wedding...spend a few weeks with him to find a job and if you don't want to live together until after marriage find an appartment...I understand the strain money can cause in a relationship, but honestly the distance can be a much bigger problem. Tell him how you feel and that you are only rushing the wedding because you want to be with him.
2007-03-02 06:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on getting engaged. Its a little scary to me that you don't think you'll last over a year apart.... are you sure you are in love? My husband, boyfriend at the time, and I spent 19 months apart when he served in Iraq. For a year we only had weekly phone calls, I couldn't just pick up the phone any time I needed to talk to him. Despite all the hardships I am SO thankful for that time. We became so close, we have great communication skills, and we couldn't be happier. Embrace your time apart and find the things that you guys CAN do and don't focus on not being able to see him. I'm not saying its easy and you WILL have your rough days but in the end, if it was meant to be, it will all work out. Don't pressure him to do it earlier if he isn't ready.
2007-03-02 06:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is it more important for you to be with him or for you to have a nice traditional wedding? If you can't stand the distance, do a small quiet ceremony now and have a big reception when you can afford it next year. Friends and family will understand. Congrats and best luck!
2007-03-02 06:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by Meems 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats first of all. I suggest compromise! Maybe you can have the wedding when you want to but it won't be as lavish. Personally, I would rather have enough money saved to start married life out right. It's tough enough without financial stress put upon both. Good Luck!
2007-03-02 05:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by smilingthru_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried that you can't make it a year and a couple months long distance, then maybe you shouldn't be getting married at all. Come on, this is the person you are supposed to want to spend the rest of your life with!
2007-03-02 05:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 02:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a good idea to wait untill next year so you can save up, have more time to plan and at the end you will have a better wedding.
2007-03-02 05:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by *~$The 1 nd onlii shawty$~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋