ill be 17 in June and I'm with a girl i truly do love when would be a good time for a engagement?

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i need help thanxs

Answer 1

well since I'm your girlfriend, I think that I am the only one who can help you with this question. (o and u better choose me as your best answer, lol) Well hmmmm i dunno what to say, but I definetely think that is kinda far off. Atleast wait until were both 18 or something like that. I definetely could see us getting engaged though sometime, and I think that'd be totally awesome. Don't pull at Ken on me. lol.

Answer 2

10 years from now!

you should NEVER get engaged in your teens. you might love this girl but you have NO experience, how do you know what the rest of the world has to offer.

you can't make a decision on how you'll spend the rest of your life until you become the person you're going to be for the rest of your life.

you're at very developmental stage in your life ... you have to learn about being an adult, get a job, understand commitment and responsibility, vote, be able to drink legally, sleep around, buy a car, buy a house, lose someone close to you, etc., etc., ... all of these things are character building.

at 17 you've no idea who you are, or who you're going to be ... so you can't choose your life partner yet, she might not be right for you.

right now you're overcome with emotion, and you're not mature enough to know how to handle it ... no doubt you have sexual urges that you can't control towards her that'll be confusing your perspective.

if you're serious about this girl you should date her for a few years, then move in together and see how you get on ... there's no rush, remember that you potentially have THE REST OF YOUR LIVES which is a very very very very long time (hopefully) ... so if you're still together when you're 25 then you could think about asking her to marry you.

my bet is you won't last past being 20 ... that's just life and teenage relationships, i'm not trying to be cruel, it's just a fact. see if you make it that far first.

Answer 3

I think that if you are truly in love and want to be engaged, then waiting won;t be a big deal. You need to just wait and be with each other to make sure everything is right, getting engaged is a big committment. I would say once you are out of college and all the stress from school is over, and you two are still very much in love? go for it

Answer 4

Probably right around when you turn 25. No lie dude. Give it some time. No reason to rush. If she truly loves you also, then it won't be a big deal for you to wait. It isn't like to need to "trap" her into it then right? Stay together, but you need to allow her to have other experiences as you yourself do. College is a possible pitfall. If it falls apart, that's where it'll happen. But you gotta give everything a chance. If you jump in to soon and things don't work out, then there will be nothing but resentment. Take your time.

Answer 5

After you have both turned 21!! So much can happen with school and then college. But I will tell you the bar scene can change people. You get to go out and really experience the world and reality. I have seen many relationships and marriages end because of the "bar scene". I think you should first experience life before you commit to a life long thing.

Answer 6

bro, anytime's a good time to get engaged if you and her are truly in love. There are no time limits on engagements and can be broken anytime. However, make sure before you get married, you're able to take care of yourself mentally and financially. If you can't do that, what makes you think you can take care of somebody else. Love alone doesn't pay the bills.

Answer 7

I'm sure you don't want to hear this but you are too young....... if you are good together, then stay together...for a long time. A LONG time before you consider marriage.........the years between 17 - 25 are such a whirlwind of emotion and growth that we are rarely the same person. Just be patient....rushing into marriage at this age often ends in divorce a few years later.

Answer 8

You can propose whenever you are a good and ready. If you really love her and want to marry her and think she feels the same way, propose whenever you darn well feel like it. Or buy her a promise ring. I think that at your age, a promise ring says just as much as an engagement ring without feeling as though you're too young. Its a promise to propose as soon as you both feel you are old enough to accept the responsibility of a marriage partnership. That way depening on how old she is, you can then propose when you feel either yourself or she is old enough or when you turn 18.

Answer 9

Most marriages before 25 fail. Wait till you two are 25. Then you will have a solid job, and education and some money to live on. Love is not enough for a marriage. you need maturity and financial security to give yourselves the best chance

Answer 10

well your young and in love and thats great but remember you have a whole life ahead of you if you really love her and she really loves you i would wait 'til your 18 i know thats another year but if your not done with school that should be the 1st thing on your mind and if not in school make sure you both know what you want before asking. another reason you should wait 1 more year. if it makes you feel better and it should still surprise her get her a ring but not engagement yet until next year. That way she knows you love her but yet it gives you both a little more time in your relationship. good luck my friend and enjoy.

Answer 11

That is good you love her,but you should wait until you are a bit older.Finish high school,get a steady job,a place of your own,and a college education before getting engaged.Ask yourself this:what will happen if it doesn't work out?You are too young to settle down.If she truly loves you,then she will wait.There really is no hurry to rush into getting engaged.