I have seen other questions kinda like this but in my case there's a BIG age difference, I'm gonna be 15 in May and he just turned 18 and is going to grauate high school this year! I'm like 35% shy and I don't wanna ask him out myself cause I'm WAY too afraid of rejection. I'm 98% sure he likes me but I'm still afraid. Also, I don't want answers like "Be youself" or "Ask him out yourself"! THANKS!!!
2007-03-02 04:57:38 · 30 answers · asked by Break Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanx everyone for your answers but a few of you said all he wants is to get into my panties, well we're both Christians and I doubt that he really wants that now. Also, I REALLY REALLY like him and I have never felt this way about anyone before, even my parents and my friends think we would be good together. And we both flirt with eachother, he smiles at me and I smile at him, he makes me laugh and I laugh, whenever him and his band (I'm in his band 2) are praying we hold hands. But all we need is that one step of him asking me out.
2007-03-02 05:26:09 · update #1
he probably would love to ask u out,but ur age kinda kills that..he can land up in big trouble..which i think is dumb..some laws are to stupid..when 2 people care about each other i think it shouldnt be illegal..to a certain age..u sound like ur mature enough to handle dating..just keep on being friends n see what happens..gl
2007-03-02 05:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a huge amount of patience to start with. You might go to the same places where he goes, so you might see each other there, and so say hello to each other all the times you see each other, and even start speaking about the whys and wherefores of being there in that particular place, and so also agree to meet again.
If you know his interests and where he is, then all you have to do is being there too, and so be confident that a sort of "neutral" conversation in the first place may be triggered in some way.
When you have come more often in the nearby of him so you can speak together, a conversation and more time together may become easy if you both really want the company of each other and have some mutual curiosity about something.
You may always bear in your mind that it is an adventure you are getting into, a very exciting one. So many things may happen, unpredictable turns.
So, no matter how shy you are, it's best for you to try to get at bit nearer to him, and to be hopeful - to hope that he will get into the same wavelength, that he may perceive the warmth you have for him.
Several other possibilities may be considered, but this is all too easy for me to say because I am not emotionally involved. My guess is that mutual interests might help. But also having mutual acquaintances, friends, may even make you feel more confident, and meetings between you and him may become more likely to happen. Good luck!
2007-03-02 14:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by pasquale garonfolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the obvious answer you don't want to hear, so I'll skip that.
The bottom line is this: The guy is turning 18 and will most likely be going away to college. Getting together with him at this point is the equivalent of winning the state lottery and then having the state go bankrupt before they pay it out to you. Even in the idea situation that you hook up with this guy, it'll just end badly because college is a place where everything gets thrown out the window - including relationships that carry over.
It's not what you want to hear, but it's the truth.
2007-03-02 13:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by panthrosbulge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To get him to ask you out, be flirty, compliment him a lot, copy any technique you've ever seen in a teen comedy.
By the way, your age difference is very common, many 14/15 year old girls will have 17/18 year old boy friends.
He might be going of to uni, or could get a job. Are you sure you want a relationship that will might only last a few months.
2007-03-02 13:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by jjtfff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be what you want to hear but a ton of guys would like the girl to take the initiative, we're shy and afraid of rejection too, anyway if he is graduating then you may want to re-think asking him out unless you really like him. If he goes to college and you're still in high school it's hard to maintain a stable relationship, unless you both are dedicated to your relationship. Hope this helps!
2007-03-02 13:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by treehuggingbeastboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this will be no help but i don't think a 14 year old girl, who's just about to turn 15, should go out with an 18 year old boy.
you're far too young for the emotional and sexual commitment.
i know boys your own age are douche bags, but try to find one at a similar level to you.
the 18 year old will want to have s*x, you might think you're ready for that but you're not ... plain and simple, no argument, you're a kid and you should stay one as long as you can, don't try to grow up too soon.
to try and be a little more helpful - to get a guy to ask you out you should endear yourself to him, laugh at his jokes, make eyes at him, flirt with him, and then take the p*ss out of him and ignore him for a while ... reel him in, push him away ... the old carrot and stick routine, works every time.
2007-03-02 13:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by brightspark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your shy then maybe ask a friend of yours or his near his age to make you feel better. If you see him anywhere you could walk by and really give a smile or you can drop something while walking by him and he might help you out.another thing and dont take wrong way please. Is to reallly dress yourself up to the point you would be notice by everyguy including him. Another way if you know his address or e-mail you could drop a note like (Hello I thought of writing to you because i'm a little shy and was interested in you and wanted to talk.) maybe that would work for you. good luck my friend.
2007-03-02 13:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by tinybody71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is old. It is weird for a fifteen year old to date a eighteen year old but I have dated many people that were at least six years older than me so I have no room to talk. LOL . Get to be his friend first. Just talk to him. Then after you become close friends give him your number, if he calls you then you are off to a great start. Good Luck.
2007-03-02 13:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...
Short of actually asking him out yourself, your best bet is to make it blindingly obvious to him that you're into him. Remember it does take a certain amount of bravery to ask a girl out, and you can make it easier by making it really obvious that they guy isn't facing rejection.
You could also try to serve him up a ready made excuse to ask you out.
For example come up with a movie that he'd probably like to see. Drop it into a conversation and if he seems to express any interest in it at all, say that you'd really REALLY like to go see it. Good luck.
2007-03-02 13:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Adam J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't do this. Not to rain on your parade, but when he graduates and heads to college, there is no chance of a relationship. Trust me on this.
If you still want to go out with him, then why not drop a line about how most of your friends aren't available to hang out this weekend because they all have other things going on and how it looks like you will probably be chilling at home with your folks. See if he jumps on that one.
2007-03-02 13:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋