If you were got married and your partner didn't want to have kids, would you divorce them so you can find a new partner that will have kids? Will you still leave them even after you are very much in love with your partner? explain how come.
2007-03-02 04:41:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This should have been discussed before you got married. Depends how important kids are to you.
2007-03-02 04:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The topic of having kids should have come up in the dating process. The man I'm marrying wants kids, and so do I. We had that discussed and figured out before he asked me to marry him. Its all about your happiness. If you can still be happy with your partner without having kids, then thats fine, but if you are already married, you really jumped the gun on this one.
2007-03-02 04:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by nikki1162000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not divorce. Why would you leave your partner if you are in love? My opinion im married 11/2 yeaars and dont have kids because my husband dont want kids. I love him and i would never leave him and + communications is good, ask questions why and have him give you good reasons that supports his answers and be patient my husband is kinda thiniking about it know so those are good news for me but anyhow that descision will show how much you really love him!
2007-03-02 04:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by Denixis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children need to be discussed before you get married. if they are up front about it before you got married and you agreed to it, then it is wrong to leave them. but if they said yes, we could have a family someday and then you get married and they change their mind, then i believe they have every right to leave you. why should one or the other be denied the right to parenthood so long as they have a stable job, loving home, and will care for the child? basically, children need to be discussed BEFORE you get married not after. i dont have this problem. we both know we want kids and are currently trying for one. if my husband suddenly decided he didnt want kids, i would be very hurt especially since it was something decided before we even got married. id maybe try marriage counseling to figure out why kids were not wanted. if that didnt work, then yes i may seek divorce.
2007-03-02 04:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is torn between yes and no. Yes I would still marry the partner because I am in love and the partner's presence in my life is the most essential thing in this world but No, i might not stay because basically people's reason to get married is to have children & procreate. That is really hard to decide upon and it would take a strong person to hurdle this one.
2007-03-02 04:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by Bleedingheartofagoddess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if my partner didnt want to have kids i would not marry them because i want kids and the furture but if i was i was in love with them i would not leave them but eventually the partner will have change of heart but before marriage you should know if ur partner wants kids or not
2007-03-02 04:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by devandanielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if my husband didn't tell me until AFTER we were married that he didn't want kids, I would divorce him. Having kids is a HUGE part of your life and it's something I would not give up for any man. There's plenty of good men out there willing and wanting to have kids.
2007-03-02 04:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well kids should have been a discussion prior to a marriage. I would not marry someone that did not want kids no matter how much I love them.
2007-03-02 05:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your partner probably wants the idea kid but realises there is no such thing as an ideal kid. There will be times when you want to strangle them and there are times when you just want to squeeze them and get the air out of them.
She won't admit it but she might be afraid to be a parent.
If I was in a relationship, the partner would be me! I openly say I don't want kids, but wonder from time to time what life would be like when I do. Plus, there are times when I thinking of a life with a kid, the things I would do, and they way I ought to raise them
2007-03-02 04:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by Maya P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't marry someone unless I knew that we agreed on how we felt about having or not having children. But if my partner changed his mind about having them...I would leave him. It is everyone's divine right to have children or abstain from having children. I would definitely leave my spouse if we didn't agree. Even if I were in love, I wouldn't be totally happy. Even though I imagine that when you are still in a young marrige you imagine that you can deal with it and forget it as you get older and see the joy that grandchildren bring to their grandmothers it would still very much upset me.
2007-03-02 04:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by krystal c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt have married someone who didnt want kids. Why would you not have talked about this before hand or are you the creep who said he wanted kids to get her to marry you and then changed his mind after they were married and she said she was ready to start a family.
Either way, yes I would leave you. If I wanted kids and you didnt, thats a deal breaker for me.
2007-03-02 07:21:54 · answer #11 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋