I am 1/2 puerto rican and look hispanic. She doesn't like anyone I know because most of them are not caucasion. And is very sterotypical.
2007-03-02 04:39:27 · 8 answers · asked by cocolia 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
confront her about it,
Ask her why you are any different that the other hispanics?
Then let her know that when seh makes those pre-concieved notions, and comments, that she is also directing them at her own flesh and blood.
God probably sent you to her to teach her about her prejudice nature.
Confront her, and let her know that since you are half of what she is bashing, it does hurt you.
My boyfriend is half mexican, and his grandmother always makes prjudice comments about his mexican father.
He confronted her, and now she has learned that she is bashing her own family.
Good luck. Sincerely
2007-03-02 04:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by danksprite420 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it's because they're not caucasian that she dislikes your friends? Afterall, she must have liked your Dad in order for you to be conceived - I'm assuming he's Puerto Rican.
Are your folks still together, or did they split? Perhaps any apparent prejudice is the result of a bad experience she had with him. Otherwise, I'd recommend looking beyond your friends' ethnicities for other reasons she may have for not liking them - disapproving of their behavior, for example.
As an aside: I had a biracial friend in school, and I often wondered how her folks felt about their two children's personal perspectives on their own backgrounds. My friend's mother always insisted her daughter was caucasian, even though she took after her father with regard to physical appearance. I don't know that my friend always identified with being caucasian more so then the other side of the family.
2007-03-02 12:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't the answer you probably want to hear, but you really can't change people like that. The only thing you can do is bring up the fact that you have different ethnicities and it hurts that you might think less of people for that. It probably won't change the way she feels, but it could make her more sensitive about making comments in front of you. The only person you can control is yourself, so consider a valuable life lesson in tolerance.
2007-03-02 14:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by ○•○•Cassie•○•○ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother probably never see you as being 1/2 puerto rican. She has never accepted that you are mixed although she is responsible for you being mixed She might be harbouring some shame for going outside of her race and even though she can demonstrate that she genuiningly loves you, she will not accept persons who remind her of "the sin" she believes she has committed by going outside of her race.
2007-03-02 12:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by ann t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so hurtful, honey, I have no idea what to tell you.
You may need some help, or you may just need some really great loved ones.
You'll get out on your own, and I just want you to love yourself truly before you do, so you can just land on your feet and all of that.
How could a person reflect this to their child?
Mine is half asian, by the way. But I'm the biggest mix of cultures you've ever seen, so I'm the opposite.
Good luck!
2007-03-02 12:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look just like my father and my mother and stepfather hated it.
Such a sad thing, when I realized why I was treated way less important than my brother.
My grandmother did'nt want to tell me my mother's secret feelings, but I would'nt drop the subject.
This may not be your case....but was/is mine.
My parents were a constant embarrassment when I brought indian friends home. (so we met elsewhere)
Quite ironic though, considering I'm Native American myself.
2007-03-02 13:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it has NOTHING to do with the race of your friends, but rather their actions/clothing or personal style! Talk to her about WHAT she does not like about your friends...don't yell or say you hate my friends because they are ( whatever race)..just simply ask, Mom, why don't you approve of my friends...and go from there.
And if by chance (rare) she does tell you she wants you to have "white" friends, bring home the trashiest worst kids you can find, and ask if she likes these friends better!
2007-03-02 12:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by kat k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her stupidity. And are you sure she doesn't like your friends because of their race, or for some other reason? You might try talking to her.
She may also be afraid of you making the same mistakes she did, and that is the source of her "dislike".
2007-03-02 13:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋