My ex broke up with me 1 mth ago after 8 mths together.
After 5 mths out of the blue she said she was unsure abobut us. I asked why, I said that we had loads in common & the spark was there, she agreed, but said she wasn't sure. Within 2 hrs she apologised & said she had been down & it made her irrational
Everything was good again for 2 mths then again said she wasn't sure. We had a long chat, we both got upset & she said she was really sorry and hated when she was horrible to me. She said that she felt that she held me back (because she has chronic fatigue & is often ill). I said that was never the case and never will be. I suspected she may be depressed as she had that in the past
6 weeks ago she said she "wanted to end things as her feelings had changed over a short period". She admitted she was suffering from depression (her dr agreed)then took it back 1 week later saying us was the cause of her being down & she wasn't depressed & didn't need help.
What do I do??
2007-03-02 04:16:08 · 17 answers · asked by bepositive1976 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, she dumped you because you have a wittle willy.
2007-03-02 04:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have personally have gone through depression while going out with my now husband. While I was in the depression, I was unsure of my feelings, I wasn't sure if I wanted to be with him anymore. I knew I loved him, but since when you're depressed everything seems wrong, and you mind puts negative thought about everything around you. I did end up break up with him. I told him to give me three months to get better and after three months if we still wanted to go out then we would, but if any of us two had a change of heart then just be good friends. I also wanted to break-up with him because all I wanted to think about is about getting through the depression. So in my mind there was no room to think about my boyfriend. I did miss my husband too death and was afraid that he wouldn't want to get back with me, but we kept in touch and in the end we remained together. I think you should just give her some space and time. When someone is depressed, your mind is so negative that makes you unsure about everthing! Just be there for her when she needs you and give her time and space. If after a while she seems the same try to find help for her and if that doesn't work then let her go.... if she's met to be your she'll come back! Be clear to her that you are not a game that she can just leave and take back whenever she wants. I mean I know that going through a depression is very hard but she has to control her thoughts and feelings. Good Luck!
2007-03-02 04:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Maria A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a spouse that suffers from depression and MS. She is fatigued, shows little or no affection for me, has anxiety attacks and has considered suicide. She is on medications and has therapy. We have children and have been married for many years. My health has been affected by this and I pray everyday I can be strong enough to take care of my wife and children.
What I am saying to you, although it may be selfish, break it off with her and find someone else and don't look back. Your future will not be bright with her.
Good luck.
2007-03-02 04:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
attempt to understand her that each and every little thing would be solid after sometime. in simple terms attempt to make her satisfied. actually melancholy is a scientific ailment that has effects on the two the strategies and physique; it impacts the way you sense, think of and behave. while emotions of intense unhappiness or melancholy final for 2 weeks or extra and start to intervene with time-honored residing, you could properly be a laid low with a depressive affliction.
2016-10-02 06:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by benedick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems as if she has Bi polar disorder instead of depression.
i can relate. you have days where you are on cloud 9 and everything is gravy. then on your depressive days, you want to block the world out and dont want anyone to bother you.
she may want to consult a psychiatrist or mental health counselor.
as for you, i would give the relationship a break just to let her find out where she needs to be and for her to get herself together emotionally.
i can honestly say, ive been through the same thing.
good luck
2007-03-02 04:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is most def. what it prob is. Give her space but keep the communication line open. Try not to chat about feelings and the relationship but other things that are going on- cheery things! Until she realises herself what the prob is i dont think you can help her.
Phew i wish i had a boyfriend so understanding to my feelings and thoughts!
Good luck
2007-03-02 04:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her some space she is obviously confused and doesn't really know what she wants,depression can cause people to do some crazy stuff,when im in a glum mood my bf takes the brunt of it but he knows how to deal with my moods, i'm sure in time when she's chilled out she'll be begging you to go back
2007-03-02 05:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl needs to be able to live her life on her own, without your help, or anyones elses. Once she has her depression under control, I am sure she will come back to you. Just get on with your life, and let her know you are there for her.
2007-03-02 04:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would maybe just take a break to give her some space to figure out her issues, but stay there for her as a freind. It is a difficult situation to be in.
2007-03-02 04:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just sit down and talk with her. If your relationship is that important, then stick with it, if not maybe you both need time to figure out what you really want out of each other.
2007-03-02 04:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by di12381 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-03 10:21:37 · answer #11 · answered by Fromente52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋