please help i need some desperate advice!!!!?

Question

ok i really need some advice. my boyfriend and i got into an arguemment last nite and i called him this morning and he didnt pick up which was probably cuz he was on his way to school or something. so it started last nite and it was about plans 4 a late vday dinner. well the nite of vday i had skool n then that weekend after that he had work and then the weekend after that i was busy with my family. so its jut been postponed. so then it came down to this weekend but i forgot that it was my good friends bday party n shes a close friend. she called me yesterday to make sure i can come. so last nite he asked me if we were still on for saturday nite dinner n i sed can we go sunday cuz my friends party n he got really mad n blew up n he sed i keep pushing him bak n i feel really bad cuz thats now how i meant it. i just remember wen he broke my heart my friends were there. wen we were goin out hte first time around i dropped my friends n promised not to do that again.

so basically i need some advice on wat to do. it was all a last minute thing n i kno it was my fault for hte mix up but shes a great freind and she has always been there for me i understand his point of view but i asked if we can go the day after but he odnt wanna go no more. he said he was pissed off cuz he had to ask me bout hte dinner in order for me to tell him bout hte party n i did it last minute. he also sed that i keep pushin him away but i didnt even think of it like htat i didnt think he wud get mad cuz it was all a last minute thing n i thought he wud be ok for jsut postponin it for one more day. well he is mad n i understand y but i wish he was more understanding. my frined lives 2 hrs away n she drove all the way to my house for my bday wen my bf had broken up wit me n i was goin thru a rough time. my frineds were there for me wen he let me down n hurt me n im not gona drop my friends for any guy again. pls give me advice on wat to do n wat to think of this thank you

Answer 1

call him agian and work things out make sure he fully understands the situation.

Answer 2

It sounds like he is immature. I don't mean that to be rude, but he probably sees your friend as a threat or just the fact that you have made time for them and not him. It does not mean you are pushing him away. You both had reasons why the date was postponed. It is hard advise but do not bend. Go to your friends party. Boyfriends can come and go but real freinds will be around forever. If he is a good boyfriend he will understand how important it is to you and make your plans for another night.

The only thing I would be sure about, is if he had made special plans for the night. He may be upset that everything ruined. Talk to him and apologize. But your friend's party was first.

Answer 3

Live your life now, without all the do-overs. You missed valentines day. done. There were a ton of other ways to celebrate each other and recognize the day within say 48 hours of Feb 14th but you didn't do that either.... keep it simple.... look down at the floor---- draw a little triangle around you (in your mind) ....now take one GIANT leap out of the drama.... do something today that tells your man you love him.....first things first.... make sure you aren't one of those ppl who always keeps things in the air so you can go where the best party is.....say what you mean, mean what you say....do the things you say you will do.....I am real spontaneous and excitable too....I over book....but if you want your relationship to be solid you need to find balance. there is a time and place for everything.... your spontaneity can be great fun....but when it starts to hurt other ppl its just selfish. Good Luck

Answer 4

I think you should explain to your bf that these were the freinds that were there for you when you guys went through a rough time. I would also see if maybe your bf could go to the party...that way he will feel involved and less like youre ditching him---he may really appreciate taht it then it wont sound like you were trying to keep this party a secret from him. Other than that you just have to hope that he will come around. Try to think of some way to make it up to him and make him special it sounds like he is feeling insecure right now

Answer 5

What about a compromise, could you suggest he join you at the party and maybe leave early and go have dinner, or go have dinner and then go to the party (still bringing him with you)

Compromise and Communication is the key to successfull relationships.

Admit your fault at forgetting the dinner, but offer the compromise instead. Even though your frined lives 2 hours away--what if you both left early, ate somewhere on the way and went to the party.

Answer 6

How about taking him to your friends party with you or at least offer. If he won't then it his problem. It sounds like theres more to this than
meets the ear. You 2 should both chill and not stress so much over small inconviences. There are a lot of worse situations to be in. Tell him you love him and you will make it up later if he won't go with you. Or postpone the date with the friend till the next day. But mainly simmer down. If he loves you like you love him, he'll be alright.

Answer 7

First go to a store and get a planner book, and use it!!

Call your B/F tell him you are sorry, that you understand his disappointment, but it is very important to you and your friend that you attend her birthday. If he is not too pissed off to talk to you, invite him to attend the party with you. Tell him without a doubt you will have v-day dinner with him the next day, and YOU PAY FOR THE DINNER. Don't tell him you are going to pay, just take the check when it comes.

Be prepared though. I know I don't like it when people push me to the side for someone else, it is aggravating and insulting. I have broken up with guys for doing this.

Answer 8

I see and understand where you are coming from. Unfortunately the circumstances have conspired to make you look guilty as charged.

Just like a guy who angered his wife, you will need to be extra sweet to make up for this snafu.

If you can plan a really nice intimate romantic dinner, doesnt need to be pricey. Maybe great food by the beach, BBQ or the like. The important thing is that you be together - alone. Then you tell him that you are really sorry for the last miscommunication and will try to make up for it in ANY WAY HE WANTS. Duh. Couple this with a very passionate kiss - like you really mean it. Tell him your friends are not competing against him for your attention. I think you get my drift. Good Luck to you. BTW add red wine or champagne.

Answer 9

Good on you for sticking to your friends. You did the right thing. A lot of women would just dump their friends to be with their guy.

However, you did hurt your boyfriend in the process. I think maybe he felt second best because you picked your friends over spending time with him. I think you need to do some groveling and apologize for hurting his feelings. You probably need to do something very special and romantic, and focus on him alone for a little while. He probably had something planned for the two of you.

Good luck!

Answer 10

i think u need to tell I'm that because Ur friends will always be they than a man so never put a man in front of your close friends and family ..... ask him if wants to go to the party with u and if not give him something real good to make up for the night if u know what i mean and apologies for it and go out with him when he ask u to

Answer 11

first, you need to clear off your social calendar. all I keep reading is that you're making plans with this person, and your making plans with that person and you never have any time for your boyfriend. If you keep it up, he will not be around very long because he will go looking for a girl that can spend some time with him.