Shes having an abroad wedding, and the majority of organising is out of her hands, as she will discuss this upon arrival with the cordinator within the holiday. She seems to be down about her wedding, I would like to cheer her up, without making her feel ten-times worse?
Any ideas?
2007-03-02 03:59:20 · 19 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes. tell her that they are people that have it way worse than her. Some people cannot even afford a wedding, leave alone, overseas.
You may also point out that there is a war going on and that they are starving children in the world. Gimme a break
2007-03-02 04:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 6⤋
I totally understand! I too am having a destination wedding, and it has been really stressful. Mostly, because it seems like I'm not taking care of everything that everything will go haywire! In the US, everything has to be ordered a year in advance, but the concept of having everything sorted out only a week before! YIKES!
1) Make sure that she keeps up with the wedding coordinator, because island people are ALWAYS lax in communications (especially email). They don't always get back to you as fast as they should, and this can be worrying. But, they don't handle as many weddings, so she doesn't have to be worried about getting lost in the fray. They know what they are doing, and their livlihood depends on catering to whatever she needs. IT WILL BE OKAY! If she is clear with them about exactly what she wants, they will arrange it for her and it will all fall into place.
2) If she's bummed that certain people can't afford to come to the wedding, it just goes with the territory of having a destination wedding. So instead, plan on having a big party either before or afterward so that she can share it with everyone.
These were my only issues, but I'm not so sure what exactly she is worried about...
2007-03-02 12:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Wiseyngsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are her specific concerns? Does she feel sad that her wedding won't have all her family present, or is it that she's not in control of all the arrangements? I can't give advice on the first, but with regard to the second - I got married in December in Mauritius. Same concerns, what on earth is going on, what will happen when I get there, will it be alright, etc., - actually it was BRILLIANT! Better than expected, all taken care of, perfectly organised.
Some of this is probably wedding nerves - suggest that she tells the holidy co-ordinator how she's feeling and they will take extra-special steps to keep her informed and reassured.
2007-03-02 12:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, being a bride to be, I know how rough it is to be actually be "happy" about your upcoming nuptials until it gets closer. Since you are stressed about getting all of the vendors needed for the big day! My wedding is in my home town, I live 40 mins away. I keep in contact with my mother, who god bless her, has been taking care of the little details for me. And we usually talke 2-3 times a day all dependng on what new events have unfolded. My sister got married in another state, and she was able to stay stressfree, she kept in contact with the wedding coordinator/hotel all the time.
Tell your friend, that to take one day at a time. That not to stress over the little things, that it all comes together in the end. Suggest to your friend that she keeps in contact with the coordinator on everything, and to contact her with any questions she may have. These days with the advance technology we have, emailing is the quickest way! One of my bm's got me a spa day for two days before my wedding. Get your friend something like that so that she's able to relax and de-stress.
2007-03-02 12:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say take the girl out. She needs a night with just the girls, no talking or thinking about the wedding. Something like a club.... take her dancing. She needs at least a night of no stress and worry. I think that would make her feel better.... she'll know then that her friends really do care about her, that in itself would cheer me up.
2007-03-02 14:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan all the events associated with getting married with her and do it before she goes for the wedding. have a big bachelorette party wiht all the girsl and a bridal shower. Typically she wouldnt be involved withthe planning of all of this but if she is feeling down about not being as involved with the wedding plans get her involved with these events. that way she will feel like she has some control over the wedding.
2007-03-02 12:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what she's 'down' about. She should be excited about getting married! The ceremony and wedding are just ONE DAY of the rest of her married life...she should focus on her new role, and her new life with him, and not worry about wedding details. Everything will work out for the best. All you can do is let her know you will be there for her emotionally if she needs to talk.
2007-03-02 12:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't. Anyone who can be miserable about getting married needs to grow up. This is a day of fun and celebration. She has choices---maybe overseas wedding is not her ideal but she did choose to do so....she can also choose to be happy or miserable. I don't know what circumstances lead to the decision, but if its a military thing, she can also have another wedding celebration stateside when her beloved returns.... in any event, this is no crisis....and certainly not your problem....
2007-03-02 12:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Throw her a small get together with her closet friends, go shopping together, have a few drinks, anything to keep her mind off the wedding for a few hours.
2007-03-02 12:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpee 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Make a girl's day out, take her to a spa before her big day, have lunch, go shopping, whatever you guys like to do. May help? Really you can just be there to talk about what is going through her head, maybe something you can do to help her.
2007-03-02 12:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by krispeds 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am having a destinatino wedding and actually I am SUPER STOKED that I dont have to worry about anything til I get there. It's really not for the micro-managing type. Just tell her as soon as she gets there, they (the coordinator/hotel) will make sure it goes splendidly and to be glad she has nada to worry about. Just pep talk her and she will love you for being a great friend!
2007-03-02 12:03:55 · answer #11 · answered by Mimi 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋