ok i really need some advice. my boyfriend and i got into an arguemment last nite and i called him this morning and he didnt pick up which was probably cuz he was on his way to school or something. so it started last nite and it was about plans 4 a late vday dinner. well the nite of vday i had skool n then that weekend after that he had work and then the weekend after that i was busy with my family. so its jut been postponed. so then it came down to this weekend but i forgot that it was my good friends bday party n shes a close friend. she called me yesterday to make sure i can come. so last nite he asked me if we were still on for saturday nite dinner n i sed can we go sunday cuz my friends party n he got really mad n blew up n he sed i keep pushing him bak n i feel really bad cuz thats now how i meant it. i just remember wen he broke my heart my friends were there. wen we were goin out hte first time around i dropped my friends n promised not to do that again.
2007-03-02 03:54:23 · 14 answers · asked by Fahion_Gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so basically i need some advice on wat to do. it was all a last minute thing n i kno it was my fault for hte mix up but shes a great freind and she has always been there for me i understand his point of view but i asked if we can go the day after but he odnt wanna go no more. he said he was pissed off cuz he had to ask me bout hte dinner in order for me to tell him bout hte party n i did it last minute. he also sed that i keep pushin him away but i didnt even think of it like htat i didnt think he wud get mad cuz it was all a last minute thing n i thought he wud be ok for jsut postponin it for one more day. well he is mad n i understand y but i wish he was more understanding. my frined lives 2 hrs away n she drove all the way to my house for my bday wen my bf had broken up wit me n i was goin thru a rough time. my frineds were there for me wen he let me down n hurt me n im not gona drop my friends for any guy again. pls give me advice on wat to do n wat to think of this thank you
2007-03-02 04:01:24 · update #1
Honestly, I think your boyfriend should encourage you to be with your friends when you want to (as should you with him) ... I can understand his frustration that the dinner keeps getting delayed, but he has to understand that sometimes that sort of thing happens. You shouldn't have to defend your friendships or reasons why you want to attend your friend's party.
2007-03-02 04:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have to have a balance between friends & a mate. One should never make you feel guilty about being with the other, yet, you have to make sure you don't neglect either relationships as they are both crucial in life. May I suggest that you tell your friend that you will come to the party, but you want to bring "Joe" along? That way, you can be together, and after the party, you can spend quality time with him? Just explain yourself, don't apologise for wanting to be with either one, obviously they are both important ppl. in your life. Maybe this would be a good way to "link the chain" so to speak? It's nice when your mate and friends can get to know each other AND get along, I mean, they obviously both love YOU, right? So let them work in your best interest,
2007-03-02 04:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the communication gap arise, be clear from ur part, explain why u were pushing the dates forward the way u r telling us. Make things clear, this will help. And he loves you n thats d reason he gets furious when u push dates u shud mind that n he deserves some amount of time with him, give him the time...
2007-03-02 04:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't blame him for being upset.... you really have pushed him quite far hun. Can't you compromise? Sure you have a birthday party or appointments or whatnot, then arrange to go "out" with him before going to your commitments. Never heard of someone not being able to do that or have a party to go to at 8 in the morning til 8 the next day. Learn to budget your schedule!
2007-03-02 04:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by bwtiger0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think he had every right to get mad. He is trying to spend time with you and you are blowing him off to go to a party that your friend is having. You don't have to drop your friends. But you need to decide. Do you want to spend time with your boyfriend or your friends?? I would have told your friend that you might be able to stop by for a second but you and your boyfriend are going to spend time together. If she is a true friend she will understand. I would apologize to your boyfriend and go out with him.
2007-03-02 04:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn how to balance both friend and b-friend. I can understand not wanting to drop ur friends but u all have been pushing this thing back long enough. Its already march. If I was ur bf, I'd be upste too. But if I was ur close friend I'd be upset also if u didn't come to my party. Learn to make plans and stick to them with no excuses. Good luck...
2007-03-02 04:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by jacarig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious about this boyfriend then you shouldn't have forggoten about ur plans. And yes its understandable that it was ur friends party, but friends come and go, however if hes the "one" than u need to stick by his side. Maybe if you appologize he'll forgive you and you'll be able to make up :).
2007-03-02 04:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by VeRcE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was hurt that u put ur friend before him. He wanted to spend the time with u not by himself. He felt hurt and that u rather to be with ur friends.... u should not have changed the date again because he may think that just maybe u don't really want to go and u r just stringing him along.... make it up to him
2007-03-02 04:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your friends that you have to spend some time with him.Friends are important,but so is your man.Apologize to him,and go to dinner.Don't keep on pushing him back anymore.Give him some time to calm down before calling him.
2007-03-02 04:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by turtle_rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 02:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋