I'm a female with a guy friend. His girlfriend is insecure and she's jealous of me. I'm not interested in a romantic relationship. We e-mail each other, sometimes we talk after rehearsals, but that's it. When he told his girlfriend that he was going to give me a card on my birthday she was furious and it started a huge argument. I never did get that card. Should I be mad at him? Should I feel hurt?He says he can't interact with me the way he wants to because he's afraid of upsetting her. I would like to tell him that I would like to continue being a friend but I don't know if he's "allowed" to be a friend. He e-mailed me a joke yesterday. I don't know if I should continue to e-mail him or not.
2007-03-02 03:53:41 · 12 answers · asked by Cherrybomb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not right that hes letting his girlfriend control your friendship because shes jealous doesn't seem like they have a great relationship so if you can be patient with him he will come to his senses soon.
2007-03-02 04:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by lola1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What needs to happen is you should all go out together. Has the girlfriend had the chance to get to know you? Maybe if she had the opportunity to know you it would help. If you or her are not willing to at least try that, I don't see it working. It being the friendship or the relationship because someone is going to feel or get hurt. Good luck!!
2007-03-02 04:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you to friends before the girlfriend came into the picture? i know it shouldn't matter but obviously it does. i wouldn't try to start any kind of arguments between them but i don't see why you cant be his friend. sounds like he can use one,i would say casually to him hey thanks for the b-day card. make it light see what he says that may open the door for you to tell your friend how you been feeling. also try to see if she wants to be included in something the two of you do. maybe just the thought of you asking will change her mind about you. if not at least you tried, what could it hurt? yes e-mail him back. be friends that's what friends do. good luck
2007-03-02 04:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd play it casual until he realizes that she's too insecure and breaks up with her. And then you two can continue your friendship. Small price to pay if you're really his friend. He is stuck in a very difficult situation, friend or lover, you wouldn't want to be the one to make him pick, right??
2007-03-02 03:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by missy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with jealousy.
That's HER man, not yours.
The whole "guy-friend", "gal-friend" thing is an explosion waiting to happen. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? In order for relationships to build, TRUST has to be established! I think your wise in choosing not to respond back to his e-mails, DON'T interfere with their relationship.
Let him handle it.
2007-03-02 04:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes e-mail him back hes tryin to do the right thing he wants to be ur friend n not get his gf pissed he sounds lik a good guy giv him a break he sounds just alil bit scared of his gf.
n bout the gf who cares she'll getovr it n if she doesnt who cares.
wish ya tons of luck
2007-03-02 03:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anything you should be mad at her; she's the one who's causing the strain on your friendship, and if I were you I'd also tell him to watch out for her. Jealous people in relationships are often cheaters themselves.
2007-03-02 03:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not Him its her! She must be the controling type! Talk to him when shes not there and ask him whats going on with your friendship and ask him If you both are still friends! if So His gf has to Understand that guys can have friends that are girls
2007-03-02 04:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by HunnyBunny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should still email him and be his friend. If his girlfriend is too controling and not letting him have friends then he shouldn't be with her anyway.
2007-03-02 04:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that you guys have what it takes to be a couple. but that is up to him if he wants to leave his gf. talk with your friend and see if he wants to lose his gf. but then you could talk with his gf and tell her that there is nthing there between you 2.
2007-03-02 05:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by cholia 4 life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋