He told me he loved me and I felt bad and I accidently told him I loved him too. Sometimes I feel like I love him, but I have another crush, that I'm trying to warm up to me. Now my ex wants to know if I want to start dating him again after I told him I loved him. What should I do?
2007-03-02 03:51:39 · 26 answers · asked by Lexy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Follow your heart and be true to yourself, it will only be fair to your ex in the long run. If you told him you loved him because you truly do love him, that's okay. You didn't make a mistake. Just be honest, say "Look, I told you I loved you, because I do love you, but I am not in love with you, not the way that I should be."
He will probably be very hurt. But at least you're telling him the truth and this will make him realize that you're trying to move on. And if he loves you, like he says he does, then he will understand that you do not want to hurt him.
If you feel at all though, in your heart that you may want to give it another shot with him, then do not pursue anything with this other crush that you have.
You need to sit back and figure out what you really want out of a relationship. You could have told your ex you loved him out of habit, natural reaction, or deep down heart feltness that you want to push away because it scared you that it came to your lips so easy as a response.
Just be careful. You seem like you don't want to hurt anyone, but remember, you don't need to hurt either. So again, be true to yourself.
2007-03-02 03:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember one small detail---he is an ex!! I presume that you had very good reasons to break up in the first place. Has this guy changed enough for you to want to try another round, or are you just feeling alone and sorry for the guy? If he has not changed, then stay away!! Why not give this other guy a chance? He might be more of what you want than the ex you are reconsidering.
2007-03-02 11:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop telling lies first off. so u might still like ur ex but u r tryn to move on. right? and what cha mean ur tryn to get ur crush to warm up to ya? does he not like u like that? if he dont then dont waste ya time, but dont go back to ya ex..remember he is an ex for a reason. weigh the options of what happened, the likelyhood of them happening again, and do u want to risk gettin hurt again by him. once u done that weigh ur options of the otha guy and the questions if he feels the same fo ya. and see what happens
2007-03-02 11:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not get caught up in the moment, and say something as strong as "love" if you don't mean it. It will just hurt him, you now have him hooked. You need to be honest and tell him that you love him as a friend and thats it. Not for anything else and make sure he knows that your friendship is very important to you but that it needs to stay just friends.
Work on the other one, who you are truly interested in
2007-03-02 11:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he is an "Ex" for a reason. In my experience you should never break up and get back together... just let him know how u feel. Most grown up men don't have a problem with honesty. Plus you wont feel bad, because you didnt lie.
2007-03-02 11:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by VeRcE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really dont love him and only said it because he told you, be honest and open and tell him that.
Besides, the word 'ex' means something so leave well alone and move on
2007-03-02 11:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anything change since you split up? If not, why should anything be different? Only you can tell whether it has changed for the better but I don't think it will work this time around any more than it did the first.
2007-03-02 11:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you want to date him? If not, just come out and say, "Yeah, I have feelings for you, but I'm not willing to put myself through another relationship with you. We broke up because XYZ and that hasn't changed. I want to move on and I think you should too."
2007-03-02 11:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ur ex is just ur ex. Look to the future girl, he is in the past.... don't make that mistake again you may love him but sometimes love is just not enough
2007-03-02 11:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you said it accidentally and sometimes feel like you don't love him then guess what? you don't. i wouldn't get back with him it would only complicate things more. love is something that is unexpected and slaps you in the face so trust me you will know when ur in love
2007-03-02 11:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by carol l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋