2007-03-02 03:48:36 · 36 answers · asked by belzonaclay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Buy the ring first. You can play it safe by getting a ring with a simple design (such as a plain solitaire). If your intended does not like the ring or turns you down, a ring can be exchanged or returned. Be sure to check the jeweler's policy. One thing good about a solitaire is that a wrap can be added to it quite easily to dress it up. When I was married, I had a plain solitaire with a diamond wrap. My wedding band was a plain gold band but with the 2 other rings, it looked very nice.
A word of advice...you can borrow a ring of hers to take with you to the jewelers so it can be sized. That way you know you are getting the right size.
2007-03-04 03:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by emt_me911 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have the ring first. If you are thinking of marrying her, you should have an idea of what she wants in a ring. If it's something you're both considering, she will have dropped hints about what she likes and doesn't like.
If you have no idea, have not discussed it, I would still say buy the ring first. Present it to her when you pop the question. After a day or two, let her know that you had no idea what kind of ring she liked or wanted, so if she wants to exchange it, you can go together so she can pick the one she really wants. This way, if she doesn't like the ring she not fretting over whether or not it will hurt your feelings if she asked.
2007-03-02 04:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both...dont formally ask her, because you dont have the ring, but dont get the ring, just in case she;s not ready. Be subtle and you can find out for sure if she wants to. If so, then take he window shopping the next time you're at a mall or whatever so that you know exactly the kind of ring she really wants....Then buy then ring and ask her.
2007-03-02 03:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by zebj25 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your g/f. Is she a "romantic" type or a "pragmatic" type? My husband and I decided to get married first, and went shopping for a ring later - as he could have never figured out which ring I'd like. Usually tho, guys buy the ring first, and propose next.
2007-03-02 04:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you the same thing I tell the other potential grooms.
Call your jeweler & have him pull the rings in your price range.
Propose to your gal & then tell her you're going ring shopping.
If you just HAVE to have a ring to propose with, there's 50 cent machines at the grocery.
I get questions quite often from girls wanting to know how they can tell their fiance, without hurting his feeling, they don't like the ring he chose. (it can't be done)
This is a ring that she will treasure & wear the rest of her life.
Now, if you have already been to the mall & looked at rings together & she has said that's THE ONE I want, I'd think you could go ahead & buy the ring.
This isn't the movies .
2007-03-02 04:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be non-traditional!! Propose first, then buy the ring together! Ring shopping is fun and then you'll make sure she definately gets what she wants! That's how we did it and I have the best ring in the world- it's exactly what I wanted
2007-03-02 06:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by beaujolais_fairy_blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the ring first. 9 out of 10 women expect it, and a marriage proposal is a once in a lifetime thing (don't ruin the moment!)
2007-03-02 03:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by SloBoMo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You buy the ring and offer it to her when you ask. If she says no you keep the ring and take it back. Make sure the store you get it from has a return policy.
2007-03-02 03:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, ask your girl friend whether she really wants to marry you...after then without letting her know anything buy the engagement ring :) Good Luck...
2007-03-02 03:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by AS_Sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG Please please please....let he have some input on the ring. has she hinted about styles that she likes? Have you been window shopping? Most girls like platinum these days. My BF bought me these HORRIBLE gold and ruby earrings for Valentines day. I told him at Xmas that I hate gold. I don't wear gold. Yet, Valentines I get somethign hideous. I know he spent a lot of money on them so now I"m in the situation where...do I wear them....even though I HATE them to be nice? Or do I be honest and tell him I want to take them back and exchange for white gold or platinum? It makes it really hard on the girl because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings if you picked out a ring for her...but on the other hand...this is something she will wear everyday forever....so you want it to be something that SHE likes, not what you like. I'd definately get her input and do NOT ask her mom about it because older people have no idea what the younger people like. I would have a general conversation about what she likes. You could say something like..."when we get married, I want to have plantinum wedding band..how about you...do you like yellow gold or white gold? " You could bring this up while at the mall..as you pass a jewelry store. Look in the window and say " see that there..that's a style that I like" and get her talking about styles color, size etc. You could also say " you know that old story about 2months salary for a ring...do you believe in that or do you think a guy should just get what he can afford and save his money for the wedding? "
Another good thing to ask before the wedding is .... " What's more important to you...a WEDDING or a MARRIAGE"
Hope this helps.
2007-03-02 04:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by beehappy01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋