started dating this guy about a month and a half ago.Everythings been great untilon wed, i went to my gf's house to watch a movie and when I was leaving i called him and he told me to call him when I got home to make sure i got home safe(it was snowing)but I ended up falling asleep as soon as i hit the bed.he called me about an hour laterand he was Sh** faced drunk with his buddies.he had asked me on wed if i wanted to hang out on thurs and we had plans to watch a movie.when I asked him wed just to make sure we were still hanging out, he said maybe and I got kinda angry with him.He ended up hanging up on me,so i called back,he hung up again so i called back until he picked up(i know thats bad)he picked up and said that he couldnt do this and when i said does that mean we're broken up he said i guess so and hung up.I am so hurt and confused by this!What should i do? he wont pick up my calls!I really want to talk to him about this, but how.he hasnt even told anyone that we broke up
2007-03-02 03:43:17 · 19 answers · asked by sallyh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw im 20, hes 24
2007-03-02 03:43:30 · update #1
I'm sure he is an idiot maby a drunk the best way to get over him is to find some one else preferably better
2007-03-02 03:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by howdy doody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you two have different maturity levels. Anyone who is not adult enough to discuss a problem, is immature. And anyone who hangs up is super immature. Chances are he is probably just insecure. He doesn't want to get all involved with someone because he obviously has buddies who he likes to go out and get drunk with. You need to sit down and think about whether, or not you want to be with someone like him. Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who calls you shitface, makes plans, then says you might do them (probably because he didn't remember), gets drunk without you there, and hangs up on you when he's really the reason you're upset in the first place? I think that you should take a look at this month and a half relationship, re-evaluate your feelings for him and then decide if you've wasted enough of your time already. You seem like you have the potential to be a great g/f... don't let some immature drunk hold you back from finding what you want with someone else.
2007-03-02 11:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, give him some space. Don't take up every minute of his day. Let him have his time with his buddies and you have your time with girlfriends...that's OKAY! it's ok to have friends other than each other. Don't try to control him because he will turn and run from u. Also, do not keep calling over and over if he's told you he doesn't want to talk right then. You will make yourself look psycho and like a stalker. Don't be crazy. it's only been 1.5 months....you are not married to him. The best thing you can do is do your OWN THING. If he wants to be with you, he will come to YOU. Don't go begging some guy to be with YOU. They should be coming to YOU. And if he doesn't, he's just not the right one for you so start dating someone else. After only 1.5 months, you can't take it that seriously. Be cool girl.
2007-03-02 11:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by beehappy01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is hard, but no one is really going to be able to tell you what he is thinking. You should really just try to leave him alone for awhile. Maybe he is felling pressured and just needs some time away to think. It is just really hard to tell without him saying anything to you. Just give him sometime and he will get over whatever is bugging him and at the very least you'll be able to ask him what is going on. Try not calling till Sunday. Some guys will get upset and want you back when you stop trying. Either way he is being an a** for not telling you and you deserve better. Good Luck Honey!
2007-03-02 12:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by tinytinkbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he has things on his mind that are more important to him than you. Also, your calling back so often shows a little bit of signs of being a bit controlling. I would have to say that neither of you are ready for this relationship, and that you should let things go. Maybe at a later time things would be right for you, but not now. Think about his going out and getting drunk the way he did. That was a very immature thing to do (take it from a recovering alcoholic).
2007-03-02 11:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he was drunk for one and around all his friends while you kept calling and calling that's why he acted like that. I would call if he does not answer leave a message and tell him that you know he was drunk your not mad you just want things to go back to how they where it was just a bad night. don't give up on something you really want is all i can say really cause i wouldn't
2007-03-02 11:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't treat you with a little more respect than that, why bother? A relationship like that will never go anyplace anyway. He is so easily willing to just break up with you that way doesn't say much about him anyway! Your worth more than what he sounds like he could ever give you! Move onto bigger and better men and not little boys that only want to play!
2007-03-02 11:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by daisyduke070 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am sorry you have had to experience this, try to chalk this one up to experience, thank goodness you have only been dating a short time, i would let this dork out of my life, dont call, dont return his calls,if he is out drinking,,with his buddies, and is acting strange, imagine more of the same,,a year down the road do you think this will get better,,,NO,,IT WILL GET WORSE,,not answering your calls, hanging up,,
No sweetie you deserve better,,dump this man,,and then start counting all the males in the world,,think of all the possibilities,,now make your mind up what you want,,,no rude behaviors no lies,,
go have fun,,life is to short to worrry about idiot boy and his rollercoaster moods,,,
stay strong
2007-03-02 11:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by nurseynursey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl for one he was drunk... Alcohol affects behavior trust me.. also you can not be in the business of keepin something that does not want to be kept.... Let him go i know you are hurt but let him come to you if he sees you begging and callin he got the upper hand make him beg and call and then decide if you even want to give him a second chance. Keep your cool
2007-03-02 11:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glade you made it home OK??How come you are trying so hard 2 keep this real=== going when he seems 2 like drinking with his Buddy's more than being you.He said it;s over.Not good 2 keep chasing after him there are others that would Cherish your company, & you won't have 2 feel out on a limb.Just my thought. Keep smiling
2007-03-02 11:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋