Many people give up their children for adoption because they're too poor to keep them. But they still want to see & know what's going on with their kids. When the kid learns that they aren't really apart of their non-biologocal family, many want to meet their birth parents. Why does the birth parent & child have to be seperated from each other once adopted? Why can't the biological familiy, & new family, be present in the childs life if biological parents wishes it?
On the flip side of that coin, why are some biological parents allowed to meet they're children & be present in the childs life to some degree, even after being adopted? Is the adoption agency then really just used as a life long baby sitter? (for a lack of better words)
It seems unfair for the biological parents to be completely seperated from their childrens lives after adoption, & unfair for the new parents to have to share their adopted child with the bio parent later.
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2007-03-02 03:41:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Is there a better solution or am I just looking too far into this?
2007-03-02 03:41:34 · update #1
It comes down to what the bio parents and adoptive parents want. You can have an open adoption if you want. When my husband and I first started the process to adopt we wanted a closed adoption... but more we researched and talked with birth moms the more we realized how special an open adoption can be - and now - we wouldn't want it any other way! When a birth family finds us we want them to be a part of the child's life... we want them to supply us with old and new family photos for a scrap book for the baby... we want them to be there to see their child grow up. But some bio parents and adoptive parents want a closed adoption- and thats fine too... but I think it would be harder on the child (just my opinion).
2007-03-02 15:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the adopted child will be confused meeting with the birth parents and will always have the thought of living with the birth parents etc, if they meet. In addition, some families who give up their kids are really problematic, and the idea of adoption is to take the child out of this environment. An adopted child needs a stable environment and not the ambiguity of double family. It is also not fair for the new parents to do their best to raise the child and basically the child being part of another family. So I think the child should not be allowed to know the birth parents, unless:
1. the child already knew the parents, eg. the adoption took place when the child was say 10 years old, not a baby
2. once the child is no longer a child, has formed a stable personality, has studied has a job, a family of its own, say about 35 years old, so if she/he wantss can have access to the archives of her/his birth.
2007-03-02 03:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know a family that have adopted 3 children; one was a closed adoption which has no contact with the mother but they were told that she was a homeless women who was dying of a disease the other two were more open one was from a married women who had been on birth control but still got pregnant and they could not afford a 6th baby, they have very limited contact because the birth mother does not want to effect the relationship her baby has with his family and the last baby was adopted from a family member a young troubled teen who gave birth to a crack baby, the child had several baby hood issues but has had no lasting problems but when it comes to his birth parents they also have limited contact due to many heart aches and disappointments from early visits so they are limited by the adopted mother.
I know this family loves all 3 of their adopted children and that the children fit well with each other and the families natural born children, it is often unfair for many families but from what I have seen I would say adoption is still a wonderful thing for the kids if they are told the truth.
2007-03-02 03:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Blessed Rain 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For the biological parents to be in the childs life, it would have to be an open adoption. An open adoption is decided upon by both the adoptive parents and the birth parents. In a closed adoption, records are sealed and the birthparents usually never see the child again unless they successfully find eachother later in life. Once an adoption is finalized, it's finalized and the agency is no longer involved.
2007-03-02 04:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 02:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in most states the record are sealed to protect everyone involved. i am adopted and i wouldn't want my biologicals tracking me down and wanting to have a relationship with me. however, in some states once you hit a certain age, you can get a copy of your adoption records and find your parents if you wish.
2007-03-02 03:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is to protect the whores that give birth to us. As adoptees we have no rights what so ever. It is not fair! Just because my whore of a mother couldn't say no or keep her legs shut dosen't mean that I don't have the right to know about my birth family or my medical history!
If you don't want kids do not have sex! Period!!! Simple stupid.
PS: She was not raped she was just a stupid 22 year old whore who should have known better! And I was born before abortion was legal!
2007-03-02 04:11:23 · answer #7 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋