First off, this whole question is going to make me look shallow, so bear with me.
I like a very nice guy, who in return likes me A LOT. I'm 5'8'', 120lbs and in good shape, he is 6'1'' and 250lbs and overweight. I'm attracted to him mentally and emotionally, but not physically. I'd like to get past it, but i'm not sure how.
Any tips?
2007-03-02 03:36:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u r right
i think love the person for his mind and his personality is better than like a handsome person without mind
i think you r good girl for thinking about taht
because i am sure after u live with each other u will understand each other better than if u married handsome guy never understand u well
2007-03-02 03:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if he is 6'1 and weighs 250 is not too bad.......my fighting partner is 6'0 and weighs 240 and he is pretty skinny although a bit cut up!!
I think that if you like someone looks don't really matter but if you think you like him is just the weight on the way......you are shallow!!!
You have two choices:
1) give him a chance and let him know you are interested in people who share the passion in working out or doing some type of work out....hiking, swimming, etc.... and see if he is interested.
2) leave him alone......he is better off alone than being loved by a shallow woman.....although at least give him a night with you he won't mind being with a shaped girl like you!!!
2007-03-02 03:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is, if you cannot get past his physical appearance, then you probably will not.. People cannot force themselves to like or love someone or something they do not. If you had deep feelings for him, his physical would not even be an issue, I can guarantee you that. Keep him as friend, and do not try to make your relationship with him, something it's not. If you look at him differently eventually, fine. If not, leave it as it is. Alternatively, as a friend, if it is at all possible, you may want to help him get in better shape... and see what happens. Good luck xxx
2007-03-02 04:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by crankystar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you get him interested in an exercise program, with you? Get in the kitchen and cook healthy meals together. My husband is 6'l and weighed in at 245 for years(he was 175 when we met). He was diagnosed with High Cholesterol last year and that was his "red flag". Not only has he learned to choose the right foods, but he is more active...he's lost 30 pounds in less than a year. Now, in your case, is it just the being over weight that has you turned off, or is he just not "pretty" enough?
2007-03-02 03:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my best friend, who is 5'10'@325lbs, I used to have dreams about him before we ever dated. I would run into him somewhere, he had lost weight and was engaged to this beautiful girl and I really wanted him. That's how I knew I need to get over myself and just let myself love him. I was nervous, but he turned out to be THE most amazing lover. So you may surprise yourself and become attracted to him, or maybe if you get together he may get in better shape just to keep up with you. (But don't count on that, My husband is still a big guy.)
2007-03-02 03:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by KC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The physical will come in time usually. He might be great in bed and you might like some new things that he can bring to you. Don't let that bother you. Try all aspects of the relationship before you decide against him. Good luck
2007-03-02 03:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Luvatlanta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's lil shallow there but..
Just think of him as your bear, and think
how he can protect you..my mom is like..
a toothpick and my dads a bear lol and they
are happily married and my dad protects the family
and the man of the house . By the way, im 13 but still,
Im very wise lol
2007-03-02 03:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jay<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound harsh, but I don't thing you REALLY like him. If this guy treats you with the utmost respect and is very nice I don't see the problem. If you are truly into this person that will fade considering the other great qualities.
2007-03-02 03:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by Peanut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats hard but you just hav to look deeper then that but physical attraction is a big part of a relationship so its gonna be hard without it. take things slow see were it goes cause you dont wanna force this when you might only be fellin him as a friend.
2007-03-02 03:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the light out and enjoy him. It is the tender care and loving kindness that reward you, not any outward attractiveness.
The best people in the world are rather dull looking.
Enjoy the best...it's what's inside.
2007-03-02 03:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋