2007-03-02 03:24:49 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i would ask myself what other important stuff is he lying about and then i would get out
2007-03-02 03:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by k s 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A child SHOULD be an important part of a parents life. Maybe we was embarassed??? Who knows the reasoning...but what it comes down to is he lied, plain and simple. Why lie about having a kid? I don't get it. You need to think hard about if this is the kind of person you want to be with. Especially if you're looking for a long term relationship, I wouldn't consider it. But if you're not looking for a serious relationship then I guess it doesn't matter. Good luck!
2007-03-02 03:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would find out why he lied to begin with. Hear him out, and hope he has a really good explanation..like he didn't know. It's really hard being a parent, especially a single parent but now the question is more along the lines of does he help take care of this child? If he doesn't kick his sorry b utt to the curb. You don't want a man who won't take care of his responsibilities. Also you need to makesure your ready for this. Obviously it has come as a shock to you since you didn't know. If your not ready you should tell him and I would also tell him had he been honest with you about it, you may have been able to prepare yourself for something like this but since he lied, you wouldn't want him doing the same to you if you had his baby. I hope this helps.
2007-03-02 03:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by vanillashimmer21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it - CALMLY - ask him why he felt he needed to keep it from you there might be a good reason, who knows. Maybe he was just scared to tell you because he doesn't want to lose you. Of course I'd probably be a little shocked at first but I'd try to be understanding and explain why I don't like being lied to, especially about big things like that. There's likely a bigger picture. Only you can decide if you want to continue this relationship but I really think it's worth talking about it first - strong emphasis on CALMLY, because if it's too confrontational he'll put up barriers and you'll never know what the story is.
2007-03-02 03:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by JD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run from him. Cause he is so down. Hey, if he lies about having a kid with someone else then he will lie about having a kid with you. He probably already has another girl on the side while his is lying to you. Guys like that are too much drama all the time. Get your brain smarter and learn about other stuff so you will get better guys. Just don't take people lying and making your life so drama.
2007-03-02 03:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was involved with a guy that did that about my child and he was the father. Two years later I wrote to his parents and they didn't know anything about their grandchild. It turned out to be a good thing with the grandparents but the lying father turned out to be worthless (drug addict) and several other children that he had lied about. No wonder he isn't married and his wife divorced him. Look very closing at this man your involved with. If he'll lie to you about something so personal what else is he willing to do? I would dump him.
2007-03-02 03:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good sign, if he lies to you about something MAJOR like this, there is no telling what else he will lie to you about. If you have just started dating him I would let him go before you get real attached. If you have been with him for awhile I would most def reevaluate your relationship with him and sit down and have a serious talk. I hope all work out well for you.
2007-03-02 03:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by melmiko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him, what loser would lie about an innocent child that he helped bring into this world. Obviously he has no sense of responsibility. I was a single mother of two and any guy I met, the first thing I told them was that I was a proud mother. He is a class A LOSER as far as I am concerned and I feel for that poor baby that he produced and doesn't even acknowladge. Actions speak louder than words, dump his sorry A*@
2007-03-02 03:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would be breaking up the relationship with him pretty quickly.
He is a liar! Why would you possibly have to lie about having a child?
Would you want him to say that about a child that you could have with him???
I am sorry, but I would be worried about what else he was lying about.
Good luck.
2007-03-02 03:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to seriously think about what kind of man would lie about being a father. You have at least 2 issues here - he lied, and he denied his child - pretty bad marriage material if you ask me.
2007-03-04 07:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the child is his buisness but depending on how serious you 2 are...lying about something serious isn't acceptable.
If you love him enough, let him know it hurt you that he would feel it necessary to lie. Tell him you won't stand for that. But accept his child. His kid didn't do anything wrong.
But I'm sure it makes you wonder what else he lied about. Do you really want to be with a liar?
2007-03-02 03:28:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋