when I visit them and spend the night...I can hear them totally enjoying each other as if they were next to me. I've put on the TV
and music but they are very very vocal. Normally, I'm not embarrassed easily but in this case I am. I can barely look at them the next morning. I kidded them saying...keep it down in there but obviously it didn't work. What should I say or should I just shut up?
2007-03-02 03:21:42 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm a young woman and I lived with my inlaws 2 years before moving inot our own house. You should definnitely sit down over a cup of coffee and talk it out! After all your the mom and you deserve respect. You can just say that it makes you feel uncomfortable. That you enjoy visiting but you don't feel welcome when it happens. I'm sure they can abstain themselves a couple of days... It is kinda weird to hear a close familly member getting giggy with it!
2007-03-02 03:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
perhaps they're doing it on purpose? I've actually heard advice given to couples with "unwanted" guests that if they are loud at night, the guests will feel uncomfortable, to the point where they won't want to stay.
Maybe just mentioning that you're going to stay in a hotel next time you visit. If they question why, tell them honestly. They may need you to be blunt; if they apologize and tell you it won't happen again (at least not so loud!) then by all means, stay with them. Maybe they didn't get your joking. If they just say, "Okay" then you have to be ready to follow up and actually stay at a hotel.
2007-03-02 03:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm NEVER able to "enjoy" my boyfriend if my mom comes to visit. I dunno, I think that's kind of wrong, especially if you're loud. I can totally understand you're embarassment. It's a natural reaction. I mean, it's your son.
With that said, I would just tell him. Like over breakfast for lunch when the wife isn't around. Ask him not to tell his wife what you guys talk about (he might anyway) because you don't want to embarass her. Just say you know they have sex and that you don't live under a rock, but that they are very loud and it makes you uncomfortable. Also remind him that you're not trying to make it awkward, and if they want, you can go stay at a hotel. Just act like you're not trying to impose, and most likely, he'll just stop, or try to be quiet.
If not, then I'd say he has Mommy issues because seriously, most people don't like to have sex with their parents around. If they do, they're quiet.
2007-03-02 03:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just be striaght up with them. If you don't get embarrassed easily then just tell them. It is very impolite to be so vocal when you have guests over and they should know that. I wouldnt want to spend a night in a house with that going on.
2007-03-02 03:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get along well with your son, take him to the side and mention that although you think it's great that they have a healthy intimate relationship, but they might not be aware of how loud they are. Let him know that as a guest you feel like you are intruding on their privacy since you can hear them.
2007-03-02 03:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by scrapper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like a compromising situation. Both your son and his wife and you have to come to a mutual respect. You should respect the fact they are in their own house and they are adults but they also have to respect you while you are in the house. Its their house there entitled to do whatever but they could keep you in consideration and tone it down a little. Im pretty sure you dont sleep ova all the time but when you do they should give you the respect of being his mom and being quieter when they engage in sexual activity. I think you should sit them down and explain you are not mad or nothing you just wish they would respect you a little more and quiet it down i mean its not everyday you over there so just for a day they could calm it down... If your son doesnt care he has no respect for his mom. Ima grown woman and i still wouldnt want to do it if my mom stayed over...
2007-03-02 03:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
LOL, Mommmmmmmm come on now, we were all young at one time and it is a good thing they do enjoy each other. Buy you some ear Plugs. Alot of folks when they reach a certain point get Vocal and Loud, they are not even thinking about you being in the next room at that time..
2007-03-02 03:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Hold the reigns their madam, I can agree with the comments, however understand your dilema. Best to outright, tell your son, while I'm visiting, could you tone it down a little. I am in the next room and even with the tv on can hear more than I need to. I'm sure your son can tone it down and then hoopla when your gone. Best of luck..
2007-03-02 03:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by dadknows 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Just shut up. It's THEIR home and they are married. You cannot tell someone what to do in their own home.
Don't visit them or stay at a hotel if it bothers you so much.
2007-03-02 04:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess they feel comfortable with you enough to be them selves.
Be happy for them and hope that it lasts
forever
So many couples are breaking up these days.
It's nice to hear that they are still enjoying each other. Just love them and leave it at that.
2007-03-02 03:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋