Interview problem?

Question

Hello, everyone. I'd like to speak frankly about a problem I'm having concerning an upcoming interview. Anyone that is involved with management, or the interviewing process is welcomed to please give me some ideas--as well as anyone else that may be of help. I had a bad fall in July of 2005, and spent the next 1.5 years going through physical therapy, many etc. I seriously got depressed, I was in a wheelchair for awhile? I had always been a very outgoing, secure person but I think having to be so dependent on everyone I know-I think that I really lost myself for awhile? Several months ago, I went on an interview for a job that I only barely wanted. The lady was extremely nice, and frankly, she seemed like somebody I could even be pals with. However, my nerves got so bad that I kept forgetting what I was saying and I probably sounded like a bad liar or something. I felt absolutely fake and didn't sell myself at all. Continued below:

And see, even here, you can probably tell that I am rambling somewhat. Can some one give me ideas on what the interviewer would possibly be thinking of some one that is that nervous? This job is a really good opportunity, and I am sincere in the fact that I can do the job with all of my heart. Any tips on what I can mention on the interview to explain without sounding aburdly emotional(which I'm not, I'm really laid back and I'd like to think that I have a good head on my shoulders.) Thank you so much! So scarey!

Answer 1

Be honest with them, tell them you've had some really interesting experiences over the last couple years but part of that, and the fact that you haven't been on the job-market for quite some time, is making you feel just a little nervous at the moment.

If you're comfortable talking about it, give the interviewer some basic details like you've done with us above, but make sure you wrap up that story with some like..."but we live, learn and grow and this is the here and now..." Anything that says lets them know you acknowledge it's significance but you're also moving on from that.

::shrug::

I walk into interviews and tell people that I have a raging case of ADHD and regardless of whatever they say after that, I always reply with "what, i'm sorry, I got distracted." It's the truth, but it's light-hearted as well. From there they can decide to probe deeper or to move past it, but I did give them the opportunity which reduces any apprehension / tension i might be feeling about it.

Answer 2

I interview people. I'm used to seeing nervous people, although I see more overly cocky people than nervous (might be the field).

It's OK to be nervous, but you do need to warm up during the interview. I make a conscious effort to not let first impressions affect things, in the interview gets better.

It's true, if the interview goes downhill, I'm left with a bad impression and that's likely how I'll remember the person.

OK, so what can YOU do? Practice, practice, practice. Get a friend to interview you. Hard. Video it and watch it, thinking about what you're doing/not doing.

When you go into the interview, psych yourself up. After all, this is a chance for you to show off. Very other few times in life do you get a chance to talk about yourself and how great you are. Even if you're a shy type or your accident caused you to lose some confidence, use the interview as a time to forget all of that and strut your stuff.

If you're not interested in the job, it's near impossible to interview well. If you like the person, but realize the job isn't for you, I'd suggest simply saying "I really appreciate your time, but it doesn't sound like this is quite what I was looking for. You've been great."

It's possible that the interviewer will want to dig and found out WHY you don't think it's a good match. S/he might be able to correct a misperception.

If not, you've shown some respect (a nice thing to do) by not wasting her time. You didn't want the job, anyway.

And knowing that YOU are in control is going to help YOU rebuild your confidence.

Answer 3

suggest you try role playing an interview with a friend several times before you go to another one.