I'm going to visit my son who lives out of state so I'm flying. He's going to pick me up at the airport and drive me to his house about 30 minutes away. Here's the problem...he speeds like crazy. The last time I was there we got pulled over and he got a huge ticket and blamed it on me. I told him I'd get a limo to drive me to his house but he refuses. He's the best son anyone could ask for...except for this flaw. I remind him when he's driving to slow down and he'll do it but then up he goes again. What should I do?
2007-03-02 03:01:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're the parent, he shouldn't be able to get away with blaming it on you. That's so childish and immature. Is he a grown man? Why does he blame it on you? This is very strange.
I would just tell your son to not bother picking you up, and arrange for a car service or taxi. Just make it sound like you don't want to burden him since it's 30 minutes away, and you prefer the alone time after the flight to just relax and take everything in. If he keeps insisting on picking you up, tell him the truth and tell him how much it bothers you. He's your son. He should understand.
2007-03-02 03:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously are not comfortable in the car with him and he is disrespecting you by not slowing down. Has he any idea how dangerous speeding is. People die on the roads due to reckless handling of cars. I would hire the limo and say you are simply treating yourself. You are the mother. He is the son. Don't let him talk you into getting into the car with him. He may be the perfect son but he or you or someone else could lose their life. It just isn't worth it. Good luck! And enjoy the limo. Have a bottle of champers as well.
2007-03-02 11:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Bitzer Maloney 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He blamed a speeding ticket on you??? Your the mom just stand up and say "hey, I don't care for your driving...I love you very much but I am taking a limo whether you like it or not!" You and only you can make your choices and your son must respect you for it.
2007-03-02 11:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's already been ticketed for speeding and gotten a huge fine, he should have learned his lesson. If he has not, that is not your problem, he's obviously old enough to be picking you up at the airport, and live away from home, so he's old enough to pay for his mistakes. I suggest you put on your seat belt and close your eyes.
2007-03-02 11:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Catherine T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get in the car with him and don't say a word about the driving. When he does something that makes you uncomfortable, gasp and clutch at your chest like you're having a heart attack. When he asks what's wrong, say, "Oh nothing son, I've just been getting these chest pains in moments of stress." Keep doing it til he slows down.
My mom used to do this with me.
2007-03-02 11:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a cab. YOU can refuse to get in his car since he's discourteous to you and others on the road.
If you do go with him. And he speeds. The moment he stops the car (for a red light, or a stop light), get out of the car and call a cab or start walking.
2007-03-02 11:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stick to your guns. he's not listening to basic rules of the road, basically, you and I know that driving is a priviledge and not a right. he is putting you, others (including loved ones) and himself in danger. do take the limo. express how much you love him, but until he complies to your request and honors the speed limit sign, you must protect yourself.
2007-03-02 11:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by ogg08 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are uncomfortable with his driving and insist on taking a limo. That's what my mom did to me.
2007-03-02 11:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by lakee_4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hello. i am a teenage speeder and this is what i normally do to calm myself down on the road. normally, i would slow down and drive normal if there is someone with me who is the opposite sex. but since it is just yourself that probably wont do. so instead just tell him a lie that will give him a temperary fear of speed on the road. This is what my dad did to me once. He told me that his friends son died from a speeding accident. think of how he died and how that is related to how he speeds. then that should strike him with fear for a little while. my dad used that on me and it actually worked... at lease for a few days. then i was normal. but at lease it should you relax while your in the car with him.
2007-03-02 11:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by RjunN 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take a cab not a limo.
2007-03-02 11:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋