My fouryear old will not mind me at all. I will tell him to do something and either he ignores me or he'll do the opposite...
Please help me......
2007-03-02 02:57:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have a five year old that acts similar, but let's see if this example can work for you.
if he ignores or does not comply, i go to him, kneel down, so we are at eye level, give him a kiss on the forehead and keep my voice cool and even. 'son, you know i love you, right? now do you want to do this for daddy or shall i take your bike priviledges away for an hour or two?' and boy if he can't ride his bike, he'll throw a tantrum now and then, but he will comply. I've taken his bike priviledges away for as long as three days. and the next time i mentioned it, my son got up and did the errand so promptly, sticking to what you say and being patient is key.
2007-03-02 03:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by ogg08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start watching Nanny 911. You need to be consistant with his punishments and you need to look at him on his level (you'll be down in a squat to do so). Tell him what it is he cannot do and why. Then tell him what will happen to him if he does it (4 minutes in a "time out" spot. P.S. You need to have the "time out" spot already designated and have told him where it is and what it will be used for) I had a really need corner in my kitchen where they were out of the way, couldn't get into any other mischief, couldn't see a tv or anything else. And I would set my stove timer so when it rang they would know that time was up. I would go over to my child and say you may get out now but I expect you to behave. It takes consistency and a little effort on a parents part, your husband or partner needs to be behind you in this and willing to do the same things if the child misbehaves while they are watching him or her. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-02 03:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remind him that you are the parent. Use time out! No I don't expect him to go voluntarily, you will have to pick him up & put him back several times. Once he realises that you aren't kidding, he will get a little better. 4 year olds want to be "big". Try giving him some responsiblity. If he puts his toys away he can go to the park(weather permitting of course) or if he makes his bed(don't expect perfection-it ain't happening) he gets so many minutes just the 2 of you doing something fun. I hope this helps.
2007-03-02 03:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Around that age, kids become very defiant. My sister is six, and she went through the same phase. I would say stop what they are doing at the time, stoop down to eye level and repeat what you want them to do. If that doesn't work, let them know that they will miss out on something - a special priviledge, something fun that they like to do (watching t.v.,etc.) Depending on what type of discipline you usually use (spanking, time out, etc.), you should punish them accordingly when they step too far out of line. But, every kid is different - so do what you feel is right. Hope that helps!
2007-03-02 03:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kimi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Read "the strong willed Child" by James Dobson. He has radio programs. I don't know where you're from.... Just look on the internet- Focus on the Family is the name of his ministry. He writes his book and teaches from personal experience.
2007-03-02 03:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call dr.phill lol smack hes hand if hes 4 he should mind
2007-03-02 03:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
reward him when he does good things. if that doesn't work smack his hand and send him to his room.
2007-03-02 03:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by suzukigirl06 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
give him choices. he wants some control.
2007-03-02 03:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋