ok im in the army all the way in georgia and my girlfriend of three years is in michigan. i will be posted in texas for six years and i had the choice of either moving her down there with me or leaving her up there and just totally ending it. now i wouldnt say that say that we are going to get married or that we are planning on it, and i wouldnt say that we arent in love either. i guess im just kinda confused because i dont know if im ever going to see her again, and if i do its only going to be the 30 days i have between A.I.T and texas.
2007-03-02 02:54:43 · 7 answers · asked by tony4321_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you discussed this with her? Ask her how she feels, she might not want to move, she might not like the thought of Texas. Maybe she would want to go for a visit before she decides what she wants. Talk to her.
2007-03-02 03:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLZ READ>>>>well have you talk to her about it. if you really plan to be with her then you should bring her with you. the fact that your confused says your not ready to leave and this will be a conflict. if she doesn't want to come then move on and don't regret because its not going to help you feel any better. see this as a test... waiting though would be such a bad idea .... do you really plan to stay single for that long? or do you really think that she will plan to? what is that you really want ? In three years that happen and much more now emagine in 6 years? nomatter how much you love eachother you all won't be able to wait that long. Eventually somebody will break the chain or both. you can only tempt your self so much and to do so much. people change all the time and being without eachother is a major conflict... like i said ask her to move with you .. if she doesn't want to move on. you can't force things to be .. most of the things that are meant to be. tell her how you feel abou this and what this means for you. if you really think she is the one then give it a try if she's no the one she will pull a diffrent way. really you made a disition you weren't really ready for. at the time you were only thinking about your future and know your thinking about both... Remember that fear is not going to take you anywhere face your fears. Don't risk what you can't and know that is going to effect you so much .. risk what you think you can afford but don't be selfish make sure to talk to your partner about this.
2007-03-02 11:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by gina g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the question? Are you asking whether you should commit or not commit? If that's the question, you have to do the soul searching and do the homework yourself. We are not going to be able to do this one for you.
Is this something that you have to do from the onset or can she move down there if you get there and decide that she is the one? Maybe this is a wake up call?
2007-03-02 11:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe you need to think about weather you are eally in love with this girl or not. and you have to ask your self if you are ready to commit to her. i mean if your still young, and if your still not ready to give up the whole partyin single sean...then leave her there. but really talk about it. i mean she may not be ready to make that kind of move. i really hope you two r in love! cuz its the best feeling in the world! and i wish u the best of luck
2007-03-05 16:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by someone...you dont wanna know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together for 3 years....time to sit down and discuss what you both want and decide where to go from there...
you can't make this decision by yourself.
communicate :)
good luck!
2007-03-02 11:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm......
ok...
do you think you really-really love her?
Do you trust your girlfriend?
do you think you are ready to make your relationship one level higher?
If the answers to the question is ayes without a hesitation you and her can go start moving in Texas together...
2007-03-02 11:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by syasya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what she wants. Sit her down and ask her where you and her stand in her life. If she wants to be with you and you are in love with her, move her down with you. AFter talking it with her of course. I'm in a similiar problem, my boyfriend wants me to move to Denver from TX.
Oh, btw, Texas is pretty rad. :] hahaha.
2007-03-02 10:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by xNatalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋