how do i get my new catto love me more??/?

Answer 1

Well, since I'm the maid to 6 cats, and each of them (with the exception of the 11.5 year old one that sleeps most of the day) come to greet me when I come in the door after work, I think it's honestly just something that you can build up over time. Every animal is different, and they will have special needs and likes, etc. Once you discover what your cats' likes and dislikes are, then you can really use that knowledge to build your relationship. For example...
One of the twins, Remus J. Lupin is his name, ADORES the caps from water bottles. Don't ask me why, but I discovered this one day when I had opened the bottle and the cap fell on the floor. This is his favorite toy in the ENTIRE world. Now, whenever I'm at work, I always get people to give me their caps, so my boy can have a few more toys. Since they get thrown out anyway... He fetches them. I'll be sitting on the couch watching TV or something... and he'll get one from the toy box (yes, they retrieve their own toys) and bring it up to me and drop it beside me... demanding I play with him. The best thing is, even though he thinks I'm doing the best thing ever by throwing that freaking bottle cap, I'm doing absolutely nothing... he will fetch that thing until the cows come home (no, I do not own cows), and he thinks its the best thing in the world. He loves to cuddle, and I think it's because I play with him... and in his eyes, that's the best.

When your cat demands your attention, stop what you're doing and give the cat some of your time. This will help to strengthen the bond you two will share.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Cats are not like dogs. They won't instantly take to you. It takes a lot of time and effort to win over a cat. And even after you do, they might never fully trust you.

First of, if the cat is new to your house, it's probably very nervous and that makes it less likely to want to spend time with you. If it's not too late, try giving the cat a "safe room" - one quiet room in the house, with the litter, the food, the toys, etc, so kitty can get used to the room and will learn that nothing in that one room can hurt them. Spend at least an hour in the room everyday, but don't spend it with kitty. Just sit and read quietly in the corner, ignoring the cat. If it comes over, then pet it slowly (keeping your hands where it can see them at all times). Once your cat is used to you touching it, try picking it up while you're sitting on the floor (so it's not too high up). Then try picking it up while on a chair, and then while standing. Teach it that humans are nice and are there for cuddling and petting. You can try introducing a cat toy, like a bit of string or something, so you can actively play with kitty while you're there. Try brushing its fur and feeding it treats, but if it gets up and walks away, let it and go back to ignoring it. Even if you don't have a safe room because the cat has had full run of the house, these are good tips for winning over a cat. Don't pay attention to it. Let it come to you.

Once it's used to you, let it wander out of the room for half an hour at a time, leaving the safe room door open. That way, the cat can learn about the rest of the house in their own time. And if it feels threatened, it can always run back to the safe room. Leave the cat in the safe room the rest of the time. Once it's bolder in visiting the rest of the house, it'll probably start meowing at the door of the safe room to be let out. Then you know it's time to free the cat to roam.

This might take a few days or it might take a few weeks, but in the end, you'll have a cat who will spend time with you when they want. You can't really force a cat to spend time with you without having them resent you.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Be kind, gentle and absolutely trustworthy. Offer affection but don't force it. Get some of those little packages of special treats at the pet store and feed them to the cat out of hand, never too many at a time. Some cats are naturally very affectionate with everyone, some, especially older cats that may have had bad experiences, are less trusting and may need some winning over.

Both of the cats I have now were rescues. One was a stray tomcat down at the harbor who was completely unhandlable when I brought him home to be a ratter. It took months before I could even pick him up without holding all his feet (which I only did because he had medical issues that had to be treated daily) and about a year and a half before he'd let me turn him over in my arms - and another several months before he would relax in my arms. He's been with me for about five years now, loves me absolutely, follows me around like a dog, waits for me in the driveway, wants to be in my arms all the time. My other cat was a stray who showed up eating out of my trash cans about the time I brought Zorro home. He would run every time he saw me for about three months. It took about six months to lay a hand on him, about a year before he'd let me pick him up, which he still doesn't really like although he's very happy to roll around on the ground while I pet him. He's still very shy and will still take off at any sudden move, but he will run back when he feels more comfortable.
Different cats have different temperments, but if you are patient, loving and trustworthy your cat will, in it's own time, deem you deserving of it's love and affection.

Answer 4

I have a beautiful cat. I get it in December. During the first days he liked to stay alone, but I adore animals and I was sad for this behaviour. Then I started to play with him all the evenings and now he love playing with me and he stays with me a lot. Cats are beautiful animals but they are different from dogs: you need only more patience!

Answer 5

Cats know who to trust and who likes them.The best thing to do is play with him alot and get him/her some treats.Some cats like to be snuggly and some cats don't.It depends on the cat.Pet him and play with him using a very soft voice,cats hate loud noises including your voice.Also keep in mind some cats only like females and visa-versa.Good luck I'm sure you will be fine.You didn't fall in love over night and neither will your cat.He will grow to love you.

Answer 6

You have to earn the respect, then love, of the cat.

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Answer 7

Yeah, cat's don't love you, you love them. . .they don't do things for you, you do it for them. . .they are the master and you are the slave. . .in the case of my fat cat, he pretends to love you, only long enough to convince you to feed him for the 100th time that day, and after that, nothing, he could care less about you, and the only reason he curls up to sleep by you at night is because you have the biggest warmest bed for his big butt, but not cuz he loves you!!

Answer 8

Might try buying him/her some flowers.

Answer 9

Get a dog.

Answer 10

LET IT NEAR YOU ALL TIME