why do kids these days loosing their moral values? How can we bring up a child to be an ideal one?

Question

I would appreciate if I could get answers from persons who believes in moral values or who has a practical experience of bringing up the child or children of this kind.Thankyou.

Answer 1

That is the question of the day!!!!!
I have raised/am raising children, one is 21 (almost) and was the perfect child pretty much, as far as that goes, and once he got to about 16-18, things changed around. My discipline didnt, my morals, my teachings to him, nothing, but society, peer pressure, is so strong these days. Way worse than when I was in school. Kids are so easily pressured into things that are wrong. We raise them to stand up and stand out, but unfortunately even the best parent, with the strictest morals, has moments when they throw their arms in the air and wonder what they did wrong. I am raising a 14 year old daughter too, and she has seen what her brother went through and his trials and tribulations and she has made a pact to never put me through those things, has chosen child psychology as her career path (we all know that may change) but she is strong in morals, school, and stands out in the crowd, and doesn't give in to peer pressure (so far) So being constant, and open lines of communication are most important. With 2 kids I had a 50/50 shot. I never gave up, never will, and now that my son is going to be a father and has matured somewhat(not as much as I'd like) I see him beginning to start his path to manhood. I have hope, I find that if you lose the expectations, and cling to hope you will keep your sanity, if you cling to expectations, your children will disappoint you everytime. Good luck, its tough to be a parent but even tougher to be a kid

Answer 2

Move to the country. Home school them-- they learn loose morals from their "friends." Restrict their TV and movies strongly-- they learn loose morals from stars, too. Stay away from even family that might teach loose morals, especially family that is teenagers and especially when your children are pre-teens or teens. If a child disbehaves, make sure the punishment is strict and swift-- younger siblings will walk all over you if you're soft on big brother or big sister. Don't give any perks when they're on punishment-- no fun, no meals they like, nothing. Be very strict on the friends you let them have over, too. Better they have no friends than bring over bad influences. Even someone who just instigates talk about you behind your back is pushing your child to rebel and cause trouble. Worse, they could be leading your child to sex, drugs, drinking, smoking, and more. Be very careful of all these influences. Also, watch yourself-- if you swear, get off it. Don't do anything that might give your child reason to go down the wrong path. If you've done wrong in the past, confess it and say you knew it was wrong so you stopped to be a better role model for your child. All this may seem harsh, but your child won't miss what he/she doesn't know he/she's missing and will thank you when he/she safely reaches adulthood. Good luck!

Answer 3

In this day of time. You have to keep talking to your kids and be an example to them. You can't allow them to be associated with the wrong crowd. Parents now a days see their kid going wrong and will not correct them, because they are afraid that little Johnnie want know how to be his own person. You have to check out their friends and know who they're with and where they are. I have a son that is 16 and he started getting wild because my ex husband will not except him, will not step up and be a dad, so my son is angry about allot of things and his dad is the biggest part. Kids starting losing their morals when the home to be run by the mother only. A child NEED both parent.

Answer 4

The children of today," are on a downward spiral "as far as having morals. There are too many forums for our children to gain access from. The overwhelming negative influences, from: Television, the Internet,video games,and print media, are just a few. The best way to guide our children towards regaining a solid moral foundation, starts with good parenting. We, as parents and adults, need to provide the environment for our children, by setting good examples. Our children are a product of their environment. We must show, through our actions what is acceptable,( positive reinforcement), and what is not acceptable behavior. We must instill, right from wrong, set boundaries, and follow through with our decisions. Our children are influenced by what they are exposed to. Our children need to learn, how to be decent, caring, individuals, with integrity and respect for others.Parenting is not an easy endevour, however, THE REWARDS ARE GREAT!

Answer 5

How do you define an ideal child? The child learns what they are taught from those they look up to, the parents being a key example for them. If they see their parents strive to do right and set a Christ-like example they are more likely to do the same. If the child doesn't see the desired behavior from the parents they will see no need to act with morals.

Answer 6

The only thing you can do is teach them the way that they should live...most kids do stray away from that way at one point or another, but the bible says teach them the way and they shall not depart from it. So once it is instilled in them, no matter what they will go back to it. I'm 19 and I was taught well, but I wanted to experience some new things that my parents taught me not to do, eventually though I had a guilty concious and I knew I was doing wrong. Now I'm living the way my parents taught me again. Good Luck!

Answer 7

I absolutely believe that you can bring up a child with morals. I have 2 sons with a very high level of morals. I've taught my kids from the time they were old enough to talk, about please and thank you, about being honest, about not being racist and judge mental, about treating others as they want to be treated, showing respect for others and themselves and their bodies,about our Heavenly Father and what blessings come from this life by living right, and treating others with respect and compassion. I've taught my boys we have nothing in this life if we don't have faith, love, and charity.Yes, we can raise our children in todays world, without them becoming "as the world". We just have to remember it is an awesome responsibility, it's a daily teaching, and most importantly it's taught by our example. I wish you well!

Answer 8

Today's lifestyle is the main reason why children are loosing their maral values. Nuclear family has become today's trend where children are left with servants due to working parents. To bring up a child to be an ideal one, it is very important for us to lead an ideal life first.

Answer 9

I haven't raised a kid or anything, but I happen to be 17 year old with moral values. This may be just my opinion, but I think to raise a kid with moral values, you need to have and show those values yourself. Kids learn from example.

Answer 10

Don't think in terms of an ideal child or have those sorts of expectations. Give your child experiences that will teach them valuable lessons. Think about what bothers you with children today and try to avoid those things. Personally I think children do well with chores in the home, even the little ones can do simple ones. It gives them a sense of pride and it helps you out and they can feel that. Involve them with charity and community work, they need to feel connected to others and responsible for their actions.